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it seems a shame that you send a message to a person to see if the person you are researching is a match and request access to their tree they read the messages but do not bother to reply :-(

I think many people do not want to give access to their tree unless they are certain there IS a match, or it may be that whilst they have the person on their tree it is someone only distantly connected to them and that they have no other info on ( for instance a distant cousin by marriage).

Many people have a tree on here for their own reasons, not because they want contact with others and they don't reply becase they have no interest in doing so, and no time to explain that they have no interest. :-D

And I would think for some it is an effort to keep up with messages or emails from the people they already know, let alone reply to messages from strangers.

you could be right but they could say if they are not interested saves you awaiting a reply?
thanks for your reply :-)

Hi Seagate

Are you sending the automated message or are you sending a message of your own?

You tend to get more of a response if you add the details of exactly who you are researching and how you are connected.....Rather than.....Hi can I have access to view your tree... without any explanation as to how you are connected.

hi
i sent a message direct to the person and then an automated message for access to their tree

Some people are just plain rude!

:-D

hi i agree but never mind they might surprise me and answer?

thanks for all messages

Seagate,

Asking for access to a tree is not a good idea. As PH states, provide some reason for your attempted contact. And hope for a reply.

I think you need to be really specific, someone deluged me with messages saying 'open your tree' but would not say who the link was or why they thought there was one when I asked for details.

I didn't have a large or detailed tree on here so I would have given much more help personally than they could have got from my tree. In the end I had to block him, he was very abusive....still wouldn't say who the connection was lol. I had guessed but the two names though the same were born continents apart, if the member had just said the name in the first place I could have told him.

It may also be that people open messages at work or when in a hurry, and then simply forget to reply. It's always worth leaving it a few weeks and then trying again with a friendly message giving what you know about the person you think is linked, if you give out something you are more likely to get something back :-)

I normally ignore most tree requests, because my tree would be of no interest to them.....they have only sent me one because I have helped on their thread.

I did have a name collector send me a request a couple of years ago, but when I asked what relation she was to my dads sister she did'nt reply....not that she was anyway closely related

I sent a message the other day, gave lots of info about the person I thought we had a match for.

I got a response. Yes, we have the same person, and his/her tree is all on Ancestry.

That's nice.

:-S

I got a reply a few months ago for a PM I sent two years ago
the person has changed their email
and lost interest in their tree they has logged in
out of the blue and picked up my message

so never say NEVER :-D :-D :-D

My brother in law had a tree on here, that neither my sister nor I knew about.
He died 7 years ago.
It was only whilst 'playing around' with names about 3 years ago that I realised he had a tree, so I asked GR to delete it.

So anyone who sent a message to Derek Murphy and got no reply - I apologise.

Did you realise that there is actually no way to reply to one of those automated requests???



I didn't


until I got one a few weeks ago ......................

I almost never respond to one of those, but thought I would answer this one with my usual "no" ..........

....... all I could do was open my tree .....................

NO WAY JOSE!

If you read the opening post DC, the messages have been read .....so someone has access