Genealogy Chat

I finally found a relation that could possibly tell me about my grandfather. This person has the same ggfather. I sent an email via this site. I was so excited as it has taken me nearly 2 years to find them with lots of help from people on here. I got an email back saying yes this was the correct person. I sent a long email back explaining everything and heard nothing back. My mum is 76 and my aunt 79. They knew nothing about their father as he left home in 1931 never to be seen again. I was hoping to be able to find something for them both as they missed out on so much. I feel very sad. Just wanted to put it in writing. Thanks for reading. Miserable Pam.

Hello Louisiana, It is very complicated. My gf died alone. I found he died in 1973. No family. No headstone. No one heard from him again after he left in 1931. He had 5 children. He also had 3 brothers. It is a close relative of one of them I have found. I hoped they would be able to give some idea of what happened. They may not know anything at all but a reply to say they couldn't help would have been nice. What is the point of going on this site if you don't want to build a family tree? I have checked and none of the people that I have found are duplicated on the site so they may not know the family I have found even exist. Thanks for replying. So frustrating though. Pam.

Hi Pam, The same thing happened to my best friend. Someone on here got in touch with her and it turned out that my friends Gran and the other persons Grandad were brother and sister. My friend emailed them back and was so excited but got no response. She left it for about a month and then emailed again..........nothing. She is so disappointed as her Mum died when she was 5 and she doesn't know a lot about that side of the family. Why on earth did they make contact in the first place? Linda

Funny that, I was just sitting here thinking about sending them another email. What have I got to lose? A few weeks ago someone got in contact who was a very distant relation. Said they were really interested in what I had found, I emailed them one of the documents I had (luckily only one of them) and never heard from them again. I emailed to check they had received OK both on this site and by private email. Why on earth do people do this? It has made me very cautious now. I have some really interesting stuff that I have found out and I have the documents to prove it all. All going back to late 1800s and early 1900s but very interesting. It would be so nice to share. I won't ever understand people. Will email them again today and let you know how I get on. Thanks again. Nice to have someone else's views. Pam.

Hi Pam I found a close rellie on this site and was soooo excited I mailed them 3 or 4 times over a weekend and heard absolutely nothing. I looked this person up and found her name in someone elses tree. I bombarded them with emails to get in touch with this person for me (he must have thought I was a complete nutter!) anyway, he turned out to be the girl in questions father in law and got in touch with her. She then got in touch with me. It turned out she hadn't checked her emails for ages, obviously not as impatient as me! I should contact them again, or see if they are in anyone elses tree. Good Luck Carole xx

Try this One way round it maybe that if you have any certificates relating to that side of the family. Just give them the barest details from one certificates and say you have however ? more which your happy to let them have copies of. Its amazing how sometimes the thought of getting something they may otherwise have to pay for sometimes works. If they then get in contact only give anything out a little at a time and only when they've given you something. Sue

Carole, I did find the name twice and emailed both people. Only got one reply though. I will email them again. I am probably being too impatient. Do feel they could have acknowledged my email as they replied within a day of receiving first one asking if they were connected. Thanks again Pam

Sue, In my email I did tell them that I have this persons gfather's death cert and their father's death cert. As they are closely related to my grandfather and were in the same area as I live I got them ages ago. Spent ages trawling through Ancestry free bmd to find when this person was born. May have come as a shock to find someone else has such personal certificates. Whoops.