Genealogy Chat

Merry, that is incredible. I am just glad I didn't send any more info to the person I am talking about. I am so pleased with what I have discovered. No one in my family knows anything about ggparents and I have gone back to late 1700s. Felt really pleased that someone else connected was interested too and that they could help add to tree. I was sadly wrong and will be extremely cautious in the future. Such a shame.

I had a good one........ Chap sends me a message, ''Is that my granddad on your tree??'' Yes it is ....we swap email addys. I send his some tree stuff - he writes back all abusive saying he doesn't wish to see any of his ancestors on my tree on GR or anywhere else, even including my own great-great-grandparents (who are his great-grandparents) and back from there!!! Oh sure, so I am going to remove a big chunk of my tree from GR because this man doesn't think I am good enough to be his relation????? I don't think so!!! Merry

Hello Stephen, I agree with you. I had a contact on here who sent me their private email address. Was apparently really excited by what I had discovered. Asked if I could send some of the info to them which I did but luckily only one small item and I have never heard from them again. When I sent the info I asked if they would confirm they had received it. I asked via this site and the private email. Never heard from them again. People are so strange. Why bother. I have spent ages trying to find people in my family with lots of help from people on this site which has been brilliant. Some people are so strange. Happy hunting anyway. Pam.

I too have experienced this Stephen, total elation at first, finding relatives one never knew existed, only to be blanked once that initial contact is made. Best way to treat is by not feeling offended just feel content at those relatives who do know and love you. Lin

Hi Stephen, Im sorry youve been let down. Personally speaking I find Hot matches a bit of a waste of time, they never seem to be real match. But if ever I do get a contact I always try to respond. I was saying the other day to another member how sometimes messages go staight into my messages on GR and do not come as an email. Im sure I have had messages in the past and not realised as I dont always log onto GR, and expect all messages to show up as emails. (obviously that doesnt always happen?). I have been doing my family tree on and off for a few years now and have spent some months away from the site due to family illness and other things so there maybe other reasons people dont always reply. Some people dont renew their memberships and some are just doing it as a hobby and dont really want to keep contant with new found or distant rellies. It is sad but its true. From Suzanne in England..responding to a fellow member in Canada XX

Why is it that when you find a relative of your family you have 1 email from them saying how excited they are but refuse further contact, wont email anything.I thought the whole purpose of this site was to find both old and gone family members and hopefully new family members.waso hoping that this relative would contact me but now my father has died i guess he see all his relatives one way or another.As far as hot matches go had 21 pages but now there gone.i managed to send queries to some but have not had one querie from anybody at all seems real strange to me.ive also had a lot of help from a lot of people dont know them but am grateful for their help.Here i am upset in canada