Genealogy Chat

searching through my mums brothers and sister, my aunts and uncles, and realizing what a odd lot they were, I finally came across my uncle Alfred. found his birth and death and started digging around a bit. found a marriage for him, before I was born 1930 and decided to see if if I could find any children of the marriage. Checked all the electoral Registers from 1945 right up to 1995 and and at his address I found 2 men with the same name, checked the tele directory and gave them a ring. Explained who I was, and they told me they were ALFREDs sons so I asked them if I could call on them and we could have a chat about Alfred his dad and also about them, just for the family tree. 'Sure come on over any time no need to ring were always at home' So today I did just that, travelled a total of 70 miles, knocked on the door hoping to meet the two of them and add some info to my tree. They had one of these intercom machines on the door and and I spoke to someone and called by bu his first name John, telling him who I was and would be pleased to meet with him. I was then told over the intercom that both john and david were out, and he was the tv engineer repairing the tv. I aked him when they would be back and told he didnt know. Anyway I

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sorry my fingers went funny. The long and the short of it was after coming 35 odd miles to see them they decided they didnt want to be bothered talking about their dad or themselves or their mom, and would I go away and stop bothering them. well the language was a bit stronger than that, but in essence thats what they meant. On my return home, I phoned the house and explained that I didnt want to interfere in their lives, just some info for the family tree for future relatives to see who we all were, but it fell on deaf ears, another mouthful of abuse, so down went the phone. i dont like saying this but my mums family, apart from her and her dad, were the nastiest family Ive ever met, she had 4 brothers and 2 sisters and even as a youngster of 10 I remember how horrible they were. But would you have thought going all that way they would have had the decency to talk to me face to face instead of through an intercom? NO WONDER THEY ALL WENT THEIR OWN WAYS IN THE PAST AND WERE NEVER REALLY A CLOSE FAMILY. Dont know why im telling you this but my blood is boiling. TED.

They want boiled, scribble them off your tree immediatly

Oooo err Ted, I'm glad they're your rellies and not mine!! They remind me of the 'Old gits' from Harry Enfield's show!! Let's hope it's not genetical LOL maggie

Ted I think we all have these sort in our tree's best forget them. Not worth your time. Keep with the nice ones. Good to get it off your chest though Germaine x

maggie, hi, and no, it aint, in fact Im the only one in both my mums family and my dads family who show any interest in 'looking back' as MO my wife puts its, and she think I'm a nutter. But I take no notice and carry on regardless, finding names every week, eventually I will find somebody who had pots of money and left it in a Swiss Bank just waiting for me to pick it up. LOL ted.

Ted, Sorry to hear about your bad experience. It must have been very distressing for you. I have contacted unmet relatives; but have always written so that I don't put them on the spot. My letters have never been ignored, but if they had been, I would have taken that for a snub and left well alone. I daresay they thought you would never visit. You called their bluff and they weren't willing to meet it. However, from what you have said it appears that any method of contacting them would have met with the same results; because they do sound like rude philistines (sorry)! Don't let this put you off family history. Mankind is a mixed bag but there are a lot of good apples out there as well as bad ones. Best regards, Lynn

Family's are strange the things they do are unbelievable but you know what they say, you can pick your friends but you have to put up with family. My husbands elderly aunt can remember her grandfather and one of the few memories she has is that he grunted at her and dismissed her out of hand and he was a police sargent. The family was strange and prone to violence so proberbly best that he had no dealings with her. Just put it down to experiance and let them become just part of the background to this family.

hi to all of you. You're all right in that you cant pick your relatives, but you can pick your friends. just to spite them im gonna try and find out about them cos theres something fishy there, in that he married a lady MABEL IN 1930 and in 1941 one of his children was killed when the street shelter they were in took a direct hit. When I spoke to JOHN on the telephone before I went to see him, he didnt know anything about that, and told me his mums maiden name was, shall we say SMITH, when it actual fact her name was JONES, names changed to protect the innocent. One of my aunts still alive and aged 89 told me that my uncle was having it away with a friend of the family, shall we say again JOAN, who it appears was sharing herself between the 3 other brothers, and my uncle was living at his address with a lady called JOAN, I checked the Electroral Registers back to 1970 so Im wondering if he never married JOAN and JOHN and his brother DAVID are the result of this union, it seems so funny that they agreed to see me then decided, ungraciously not to see me. Just for spite I'm gonna try and find out, then let me know ive found out, HOWS THAT FOR BEING HORRIBLE. ted.

Ted Yeh, go on, find out all the dirt about them. then send them a letter with it all in, say innocently that you cannot believe all this, would they care to confirm or deny it, before you publish it on a Website. They won't know WHAT to do! Tee hee. Olde Crone

Frank, hi. What I meant to say was I checked the Electoral Registers from 200o back to 1970, a period of 30 years not 60 and it was there that I found his 2 sons, and his wife, I assume she was anyway. TED.