Genealogy Chat

I met someone on another site and we established that my Grandmother and his Grandfather were brother and sister. I told him all my info. about my Grandmother and he was very pleased as she was the only one he had failed to find, out of seven siblings. I had her birth, marriage and death certificate (originals) and had been with her when she died. He had lots more info. than me, with his father and uncle still alive. We emailed each other a couple of times in January and now after me telling him all my info. he has not answered any of my emails and has not told me any of his info. I feel well cheated especially when I know that he knows so much. When I contacted him from a message he had left on a web site he said that he had been waiting 5 years for something like this to happen, Well it's happened now and he doesn't seem interested. Just had to get that off my chest Linda

Hi Linda, I know what you mean, a cousin of mine that I'd never met contacted me and I sent him photo's and copies of certificates, he's now ignoring all my emails! You're not alone. Lisa

Oh Linda... so sad when this happens... I don't know what to say to cheer you up, except, maybe he hasn't had a look at his mail for a while?? Here's hoping he does get in touch with you, you deserve to have his info, but if he doesn't send it to you, then you will have to put it down to experience, chuck!! Bit naughty of him though!! Anne :)))

Linda, I'm sorry to hear that. However, he might have had some problems and been unable to get back to you - tho' I would have thought a 'holding message' would have been in order. Having pondered stuff like this for a while now, I've come to the conclusion that: A) Not everyone approaches family history research/contacts in the same way (me, I'm emotional - passionate about it). Some folk want to know everything about their forbears, others just do it for a cheap thrill so they can say/think 'gosh, that's interesting'. B) Many of the problems or annoyances (see other 'moan' threads for possible examples) are caused by miscommunication - what we think we've said is not what the other person thinks they've heard/read. Email/e-communication is a dangerous thing - and you can't see the other person's facial expression/reaction. C) We all make mistakes sometimes - that's the fun of being human. None of this helps you really, of course, but from reading this board, many of us have been in the same position. Grit your teeth and force yourself to believe you've had a lucky escape - he might not be the sort of person with whom you'd like to share genes!! Onwards & upwards! Regs Jane

Do you know his name and which town he is in? Do a 192(.)com, get his number and phone him,ask how he is and ask if he has any news for you. Marion

I know just how you feel Linda, as the same thing has happened to me. I console myself with the thought that the vast majority of people that I've had contact with on this site are genuinely enthusiastic and helpful, and that it's a minority who take advantage in this way. I do hope he makes contact with you soon. :-)

This is just a thought...I suddenly stopped getting e-mails from my sister and we couldnt understand why.After much thought, i remembered I had one day ticked the 'spam' box and had to recover messages from trash.When I checked, my sister's e-mail address was on the 'blocked'list. once I removed it, I was able to get messages again(and I found other addresses I must have ticked at same time.) Its worth a look, in case it is just a mix up Hope so, Ronnie