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advice please...

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LAS

LAS Report 2 Feb 2008 19:59

recently met ...a nice girl....

i like her ...(alot) she likes me........but...

shes not over keen on kids....shes not totaly against them...

she knew i had them before we met...

so do i continue to see her....or call it a day....before it starts

love n hugs

lynn x

♥**♥Straykitten♥**♥

♥**♥Straykitten♥**♥ Report 2 Feb 2008 20:00

i duno hun

do you think she could grow to like the children

you dont want them meeting her then she decides she not gona be happy

i would just see how things go for now but not introduce her to them yet

stray
xxx

AnnCardiff

AnnCardiff Report 2 Feb 2008 20:01

well hang on a while and see how it goes - you could still be friends anyway couldn't you? she might surprise you!!

Tina-Marie

Tina-Marie Report 2 Feb 2008 20:01

Lynn , if she makes you laugh and you are happy in her company, carry on seeing her. You know the score with her so give it a go. All the best.

Be happy x x

Janette

Janette Report 2 Feb 2008 20:02

See how it goes but you need to have a frank conversation and find out how "not keen" on children she is.
It might just be she hasn't spent alot of time with them in the past and is not used to them.

Good luck babe, hope it all works out

Jan x

LAS

LAS Report 2 Feb 2008 20:06

thank you ladies

love n hugs

lynn x

LD

LD Report 2 Feb 2008 20:08

But bear in mind it is a Leap Year, I've gone into hiding until it's over !

Susan719813

Susan719813 Report 2 Feb 2008 20:19

My advice to any-one ( male or female ) would be.....if any partner doesn't like the children....most never will ( I say most ) above all the children must come first. Anyone with children embarking on a new relationship must take this into account before-hand.....the heartache for all concerned is not worth the 'love' of a partner. The consequences can be devastating.

The whole point of a partnership imo, apart from finding love, is for the whole family to be together making decisions etc.....one can't 'hide' the children every time a partner is about just because they don't like them.....this would be expected in time and is just not on......I have seen it happen slowly many times and the result is not a happy one.

You are lucky she is being upfront about her aversion, some potential partners lie, then, when the relationship is stronger, the damage done is much harder to repair. Love soon turns to hate.

I have a motto ( one of many%3A-%29) If in doubt...don't do it.

This is of course just my humble opinion. Only you can decide what is best in the long run.

Good luck

Susan

Sue

Sue Report 2 Feb 2008 20:25

Mmmmm

Difficult one. I would always put my children first I can't be any more honest than that!

However, what people say and what they mean aren't always the same. It may be she doesn't want the responsibility of children rather than 'she's not keen'.

I would say that you would have to give it a while longer and she what her reactions are to 'family' situations. If she makes you or the children feel uncomfortable then you'll have you answer.

You may be pleasantly surprised, I hope so %3A-%29

Good luck and I hope things work out for you.

Sue xx

(¯`*•.¸JUPITER JOY AND HER CRYSTAL BALLS(¯`*•.¸

(¯`*•.¸JUPITER JOY AND HER CRYSTAL BALLS(¯`*•.¸ Report 2 Feb 2008 20:26

hi hun,well my advice is........your kids are number one for you.
but kids grow up and become adults.
so keep her on the burner.lol.xxx

AnninGlos

AnninGlos Report 2 Feb 2008 20:30

I think you have to let her know how much your children mean to you, then play it by ear. If she is keen maybe she will come round. or maybe she will be pleasantly surprised by your children. Hope it works out well for you.

ann
Glos

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond

Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond Report 3 Feb 2008 04:22

Lynn, you had problems before in this area didn't you? I would be very wary of getting too involved too soon, as you don't want your children to be upset again by a friend of yours who isn't happy in their company or gets jealous of you giving them attention. it is good that this girl is honest about her feelings.
Take things really slowly, and maybe ask her round for coffee or something, so she can just pop in and not stay long, then they can weigh each other up without anything being too heavy!

Lots of luck,
Lizxx

Glenys the Menace!

Glenys the Menace! Report 3 Feb 2008 14:39


Hi Lynn, having read all the other postings, I think Liz has summarised it really.
Also, I'm pm-ing you.
x