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I have been given an address for a man who might be my father.

Does anyone have any ideas as to what I should write.......

I really am unsure what to say because I don't know if it is him or not but that is what I need to find out.

Hi Sarah

There are so many who can help you here hun.

My mother vanished, no chance to write a letter to her, always wish I could.

Me, I'd write from the heart but that's me, you're you. Found my long lost adopted sister who didn't know I existed. Can remember the moment I typed on a GR pm (private email) the words, I think you're my sister, gave my home tel No. and next thing I knew, phone was ringing. Went from mad butterflies in pitt of my tummy to jumping for joy, literally - over the moon.

I'm older, I now just go for it.

Listen to others, do what's best for you hun. This is just Shimmer, speaks from the heart.

((((hugs)))

xxx Shimmer xxx

If I knew for deff it was him then I think it may be easier but I don't. He may not even live there anymore?

Maybe i'm just making excuses and putting it off ?????????

I think maybe I want this so much that I don't want to know the answer....
Does that make any sense????

Hi, perfect sense, good luck :)
Only one way to find out :)
I dont spose you phone nmbr for addy

Hi Sarah,

Not being nosy, but did he know about you ? Also from the electoral roll do you know who else he is living with ? this could affect the way you write to him :O)

I rang OH's birth mother...........................I asked her one question

" do you know X who was born in 1960"

From that one question we knew we had found her

Good luck
x

Sarah , I have just written a letter to a family that may or may not be related to me . Their Father was adopted .I am doing this through a third party , ie the adoption agency and we are not 100 percent sure they are the right family .
The advice I had was to say why I was looking for this person , give dates but not names of living people unless absolutely necessary . Make it brief and to the point stating that if they are the person you are trying to contact , you would be more than happy to provide the futher info ...
Good luck .. Hope it all works out .
Kim xxx

Hi Sarah,

How sure are you this is the right person ?is this a common name , if so I think I would write to him and say you are trying to trace a ........... a friend of the family, who lived in ............ about the year you where born. if this is him, could he cotact you.
If your parents where in a relationship and he knew about you the letter could be more personal, :O)

I agree with budgie. Dont leave it until it is too late. You only have to ask and everyone on here will support you. dont be scared. This may be the best thing you ever did.
Lou x

Thanks to everyone who has given me their own personal advice :o)
I am very grateful.

In answer to the question about knowing if he is the right man or not i'm not sure but there are a lot of things that add up.
Not that many people called ***** ****** in the Eastend of London. The person I am going to write to was born there 1957, married there in 1986 so I know he must have been there in 1974-1975 which are the years I know where he was working.
Just a few things but they do add up.

If i'm wrong then I know I have tried. Who's to say he wont say it's not him when it is????

Thanks again for your advice xXx.......

Sarah have pm'd you...

My friend made contact with her birth father but she was sure that it was him as her birth mother gave her his name. She phoned him but he denied that he was her father. She told him that she didn't want anything from him and didn't want to upset his present family but wanted him to know that he had four beautiful grand-daughters. She told him she wouldn't call again but if HE wanted to make contact with her he could phone her, and left him her number. He contacted her within the hour. They have a great relationship now.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do

Lol Heather, was close to tears then realized happy ending, So lovely.

xxx Shimmer xxx