General Chat

LOL
marilyn we did get your first post there was no need for the cecond

internet is running very very slow tonite
maybe becouse of the heavy wind

Hi all, what a lot to catch up on.

Firstly, must send big hugs and postive thoughts to our Jean and hope the radiotherapy does the trick and isn't too horrible to bear. You will be tired going back and forth for the treatment, do you have anyone to take you or go with you? Will be thinking about you.

Missed Rita gadding off on holiday again, I do hope the weather stays fine as possible for her and the rain only happens overnight so she can get out and about.

Love to you all and apologies if I owe replies to you.

I haven't been doing much lately, so weary all the while with various problems weighing heavy and o.h. has all his shifts altered due to holidays of his colleagues so he has to cover their time off, nothing booked for us yet, as all he has concentrated on is this blasted wedding etc even when I have tried to suggest holiday venues, he hasn't renewed his passport either but has said he isn't happy abot flying anywhere! Trouble is, if we go anywhere in England he isn't keen to eat out so much and I end up cooking every evening same as at home, and stuck with him for company, whereas last year at least there were others we got to know in the bar and complex as it was small and it was friendly. We ate out most evenings and we were more sure of good weather, even tho the days weren't very long. I so wanted to go away during June with the longer days, but it was all about his sons and nothing else entered his head, I should have tried a mallet shouldn't I and knocked the info in!

He is really stressed about doing the course next week as his memory isn't good and he doesn't mix well with new people so will be nervous. Means he will be home every day around 5.15pm and I will have to cook altho not a big meal, he said, as he is getting a cooked lunch there apparently. Never mind that I will need proper meals at that time! Selfish git!

Oh well not long till things settle down again I hope and maybe I can persuade him to take me away somewhere we can eat out most days so it' s more of a holiday for me as well.

Had to miss my counselling last week, it had been a tiring week with the heat and then the weekend was stressful with fitting in the funeral/interment before my lad's birthday meeting so I was too tired to drive there on Monday and called to cancel. I feel ready for it this week tho so no harm done by missing one session.


More on next post
Lizxx

Well saga of the wedding continued.... hope you can follow all this....

a couple of Mondays ago, when o.h. was on late shift, the fiancee in England called to talk with him. i said I would contact him at work and get him to call, asked her what was happening and she said she was so fed up of all the dithering about whether son or son and wife were being paid for to come over, that she was going to sort it once and for all. O.h. had spoken to his son in NY on the Friday and asked what he thought about just coming alone and he seemed to take that on board but when o.h called back to see what son had decided he said he was out on his f.i.l's boat for independence weekend visit and just wanted to chill, didn't want to discuss it then and would tell his dad during the week what the decision was. O.h. wasn't very happy when future d.i.l. took over but left it with her. Next thing was, the fiance had booked one flight from NY for son to come on 24th Aug and go back on 30th Aug which happens to be Grandfather's bday but she probably didn't think of that or that it was going to be family day as usual. O.h. got an email asking for over £300 as half share, when he thought it was going to be divided by three and son paying some, as he had asked his bro to be best man and had said he wouldn't bother with one if his bro didn't come over. O.h. wasn't very happy about that amount but paid up and said that was it, no spending money for son in NY - who has apparently just taken a job a shelf filler in a supermarket at nights - and he would leave everything up to the couple to sort out. Then he got a call from the son in NY saying his wife isn't happy cos she doesn't think people here care about her or want to meet her because they haven't coughed up another £600+ for her fare. Seems they had already been arguing about their money problems before all the wedding stuff as the son hadn't been able to get work and things have been difficult. Now she is sulking because she can't come over and he has to take time off work to come. O.h. started shouting and saying if the marriage in NY breaks up over this he will blame future d.i.l. and won't speak to her again! He then speaks to his ex and finds out that when the son in England proposed in early Feb after he had been away working for 6 weeks and realised how much the girl meant to him, she immediately pushed him to start trying for a baby - I still think this has something to do with the fact her friend had got pregnant with her second child, with a very new boyfriend! To their surprise, altho I had warned her it happened like that with me and my son's dad, she got pregnant almost straight away and it was then she decided they must get married before the baby arrived in November. Because they told us they were getting married soon and then told us the wedding date and waited till the 12 week scan to tell everyone they were pregnant, we didn't realise the order of things. Seems the son has been rather railroaded into things all in a rush despite him having previously had a 5 year plan for their future which the girl mentioned over Christmas. No wonder she told me he said recently he wasn't sure about trying for a baby but is now excited! I am seeing her in a different light now and not sure things will work out well in the end as he is not going to take kindly to being out of the limelight when the baby is here!

I am relieved with son only coming - hope things stay that way and no one suddenly sends the wife money to visit too

Lizx

Morning Everyone
Liz I think all of your OH's family are in for some difficult times. They will also end up blaming each other when things don't work in the way they want. I do hope their special day isn't spoiled by the lead up to it. Such a shame that the expected baby will be coming into such a difficult situation. I am all for marriage but think they might have been better to wait until the baby is born and they have lived together as a small family unit before taking this big step too. I really do wish them well and hope it does work out for them all, but I do think they would have been better keeping some of the details to themselves and private.
I hope your counselling session on Monday is beneficial and you can get more things sorted Liz. I wish you could get back to your own home as I think you would be better there where you wouldn't have to worry so much about OH and all his family too.

Marilyn and Shelly hope you sort this tree out soon. I will try to work on mine in the mornings this weekend, but I have other paper work that needs attention so have to balance it out as once I start research I can't let go.

Mo I haven't finished this cardigan yet Too much entertaining. Out tonight again to eldests for a family get together Hope it is dry and not as windy as last night.
Sue are you checking in?
Yvonne and Rita are both away.
Have I missed anyone if so sorry?

Have a good weekend everyone

Linda :o) XxX

Morning All,

LIZ,
That Gravy Train that passes your door has to go on strike !!!

You can see realistically the marriage........ unfortunately is doomed before it starts, then you will be able to tell OH ,..........* I told you so *.

Think I would book a well deserved holiday from OH bank (FOR YOU )
It looks like you are holding this lot together and you falling apart !!
That cant be right Liz,........ anyway Its a good book , cant wait for the next chapter ...LOL

Its going to be sunny today ,I got the kids sleeping over as my son & wife are going to a Summer Ball at the golf club.

Hi Linda......Where's the tea ?????

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Thanks Marilyn

Off out in the garden in a minute

Linda :o) XxX

Morning ladies, hope you are all ok.
I got up with such good intentions this morning, strip my bed and wash bedding, put out to dry. but have had to rethink, it is very damp and dull here, so bedding will have to go in dryer.
My plans for the garden have also had to be put on hold so am trying to think of something to keep me occupied.
Any suggestions please???

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############## biscuits.
help yourselves.

Have a good weekend.
Jean xx

Jean ..Thanks for the coffee & Biccey's

Pop into Shelly's house, you will be well occupied ....I promise LOL

Now just sit and read a lovely book and relax ....pity Liz hasn't added a few more Chapters to her book !!

You can find my missing James Albert Mack b 1867 Shoreditch if you like ?
he's in a recluse or he is a conman....... not even registered in UK.
that's the tree I want to chop down ...LOL

Pete's out cutting the grass before it rains . going to make him a coffee to keep him going.....with whip in hand ..

Afternoon everyone.
Jean, just you take it easy,and sit and watch the t.v or read a book, or you could do some knitting for me if you like.
The bedding can wait for another day, I am sure it's not that dirty.
But you are probably like me,a creature of habit,and like to do the bed every week.
I always think of the dead skin laying in my sheets yuk nasty.
And why shouldn't you scream why me, I certainly would do. Life is not fair at times,when you think of all the nasty people out there,who get nothing wrong with them,and yet the good seem to suffer. I'm sorry perhaps I should not say that, but thats how I feel at times.
We are all behind you love, keep strong.

Liz your load never seems to get any easier does it. They all appear to be self centered,even the future D.I.L. Just make sure it doesn't cost you anything when the NY son arrives.
Have they invited your son to the wedding. If they have I bet he is not much interested in going. But somehow I get the feeling they would not have invited him. The mean beggars. At least you would have had his company,had he had been there.

My goodness Linda, I bet a night in for the two of you is a luxury. Whats it like to be popular eh. I am giving up on the knitting front for a while. The baby has got six cardigans so far.
They asked at the twelve week scan, wether they could tell yet what the sex is. They were told it looks like a girl, but who knows, it seems a bit to early to me to be able to see what sex it is.
So I have done three boys and three girls cardigans, just to be on the safe side.

Marilyn, I read in todays paper, that Bruce Forsyth,discovered his fathers
grave,and has erected a head stone for him.
Apparantly his father Joseph Forsyth Jonson, had two families either side of the atlantic. He had a career as a landscape gardener,and died in Brooklyn New York, with just £250.00 to his name. Mmmmm interesting eh.
It was in the Daily Mirror if thats any help.
Right Shelly get your thinking cap on again, Marilyn might need you.

I see Sue's missing again.

Hi Mo,

Yes I have read about Bruce in the mail today, just wondering who that Elizabeth was on that piece of paper ........not his first wife......she was Penny Calvert, Hmmm just wondering if its his sister I'll have to wait and see the WDYTYA.

It made me laugh ,Bruce said he was a bit upset about his Grandfather being a ladies man and divorcing his first two wives. !!

Bruce had a lovely record of also divorcing his two wives then having an affair with another Miss World Ann Sidney. then Pop star Cathy Kirby...... Well why was he really upset about his grandfather ?? LOL

Still dont know WHY that piece of paper was put in my dads door !


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Dear All

Hello

Hope you are okay.

Just popped in to say hullo.

Take very gentle care
Very best wishes
xx

evening all



i carnt what for WDYTYA. i still think marilyn dad fits in there some were

Oh Shelly.....are you really glad your mother is gone from where you live ..??

I didn't know you had problems of dispute's....... how sad .... or was it a good thing ..?

My brother fell out with my mum for 3yrs before she died. and when we buried her he fell on her coffin..... spread eagle' d ....I'll never forget it.

Oh dear I have opened a can of worms now... and feeling sad.

Better get ready for BB.........

how about a nice cup of tea for every one

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Never mind Shelly I think everyone has got these sort of problems in their families .

Its gone through all my mothers side as well, she never spoke to her Dad at the time of his death.

And we grandchildren weren't allowed to see my granddad ,but we all did behind my mothers back ..LOL

So I know what you are going through........

I do know that not all parents are good parents , thats why I say to my boys you both owe me nothing....so live your life as you want it.!!

And they are ....LOL and living it well like tonight I got their kids and they out gallivanting ...
One has gone down the other one has just decided to have a shower
10-30 pm...... !!

Think I'll have to go in after and tidy up the mess , it will be towels all over the place, and talc.....Hmmm.

Hi all, aren't families complicated lol? Most of us seem to have had some sort of upset or muddle of sorts.

I am not having to pay for anything for the wedding, why should I - we aren't married so he isn't my stepsonand altho I have tried to help the boys in the past I have had it slung back at me when they got into bother and got the blame when it was their mother begging me to help sort out the mess the younger one got into with a girl and her family, he still owes them thousands. I was the only person said the mother, who could speak to the other family with objectivity, all she used to do was cry at anything they said and cry to o.h. and to her own partner, and o.h. used to get in a temper as did his ex's partner so they asked me to be the person in the middle with son dictating emails and telling me the info, turned out to be a pack of lies and he had conned the family for money and not paid them back. His mother was upset when bailiffs went round and had to ask her son, the one getting wed, to help pay some of the debt his brother owed to get them off her back. That debt was never paid back or the money o.h. loaned him to pay off more debt to the family but o.h. says the other family were at fault for lending the son money to buy a flash car etc
I would never get involved again helping them out - they can do it themselves or let their partners sort out their problems now.
As for booking a holiday, can't do that as I don't have access to his credit cards etc - this is not a normal situation of people living together, he doesn't know how to live like that, he kept his money separate from his wife I think, he had his and she had what she could earn part time towards the end of the marriage and it was him who would buy the car and such off his own bat.

Anyway we have the hotel booked now for the Friday night and Saturday night so can get up gently on the day of the wedding and get ready without the worry of driving 45 miles in our finery and possibly coming across a hold up with roads as it's August Bank Hol Saturday.
The bride to be's sister works at the hotel, I hadn't realised that but as I started talking to the girl on the phone, she told me who she was and she put us in a deluxe room with kingsize bed so will be much more comfy than the basic rooms, her sis had arranged for several rooms to be held for guests to stay on Saturday but no one else is staying Friday I don't think so should be nice, if the son from NY and the groom not staying here in Norwich at their mother's and risking not getting to the ceremony lol as bride to be's father says is taking a chance, they will be at a cheaper hotel locally so o.h. can meet with them for a while if he wants and I will make sure I have a couple of good books and can rest in the room after dinner, do my nails and that sort of thing. It will be lovely as long as he doesn't get drunk with his sons . if he does I will make him sleep in the bath!

Marilyn you must be bemused as to the reason for that note, someone definitely wants you to watch the programme I think and knows more than they are letting on. Curiouser and curiouser!

must catch up with more emails so take care all, too tired to read all the posts so apologies for missing stuff that's gone on recently.
Doesn't mean I don't care!

love
Lizxx

At long last I watched Captain Corelli last evening, I got the book to read when we went to Kefalonia the first time but didn't get through it, got the video as well and never watched it cos o.h.'s video player broke, recorded it on dvd a while back and still didn't get to watch it and finally watched most of it a little while ago, but I missed some bits cos I had to dash to the loo.
I will wait a while and forget what I saw and then read the book through. I was very engrossed in trying to recognise areas of the island, I know it was mainly filmed in Sami and we visited there a couple of times but would love to go back and spend more time there, it's a lovely island, or it was earlier in 2001 etc

morning all

Morning Shelly and any other latecomers
I was up earlier but checking e-mails and doing the thoughts thread and missed adding here.
Ironing and gardening today as hubby is at work.
We are home today so might get out for a walk later if he is up for it, then again he might just need to relax.
Tomorrow is back to the consultant about the breathing and asthma. It has been more wheezy for a couple of days and the cough just doesn't go.

Have a nice sunday everyone

Linda :o) XxX

Morning all,

Just seeing to grand kids ..........their dad is picking them up soon and I am left with tidying all the rooms , oh why do they mess everything up .????

Both had to have chocolate spread on their porridge loads of it , their mother & father would have a fit ! LOL

What they don't see they don't know . and the kids wont tell because they know if they do it would be stopped ...LOL

Back later........

Hello everyone, hope you are all having a good day.
Marilyn, I bet you have enjoyed having your Grandchildren for weekend.

I wonder if there are any families who dont have disputes of some kind.

I hope anyone on holiday is having a great time, and I sincerely hope know one on here is booked with the travel firm who have just gone into liquidation. It must be awful for the people stranded abroad, and of course just as bad for anyone who should be travelling this week.

Sorry, I seem to be wittering on about anything and everything.

Take care .
Jean xx