General Chat

Morning All,

Pauline have a nice day with Maz .....I got the sun down here for a change, so it is your turn for the rain ..!!

Shelly hope you have a lovely day as well, dont forget your headache tablets.

Jean .....last day this week .....how are you feeling ?

I put my blanket on last night as I was freezing and when I got into bed it was COLD. !!. so out today to get a new one.it had conked out .

Linda have a great time with your friends.

Mo, Rita,Yvonne , Elizabeth, Lady & where is our Steve ? all have a nice weekend as I have friends coming today for the weekend , so might not be able to pop in.

Off for me bath ....

Friday the 13th is right. I noticed my neighbour who is 84 had not opened her blinds this morning she usually does about 7.30 and her window. then I realised her bathroom light had been on early hours of the morning. and was sill on calling throughher letter box she had , fallen during the night and was on the floor. so the help cord was pulled and they have taken her off to hospital in the ambulance. poor Rose what a start for Friday 13th.
Hope today is a better one for every one even if it is Friday 13th.

Rita

Afternoon all

It's cold and wet here

Marilyn count me in, I'll sort Liz's guests out lol
The last time I went to Chessington it was a zoo and a circus, my little sister was scared of one of the clowns and cried

Rita it was a good thing you noticed something wasn't right at your nieghbours, no telling how long she might have been lying there

Linda my mum knitted loads of jumpers and cardigans for my son when he was a baby, she knitted a hooded jacket and leggings, the leggings were much too big even for my son but the jacket fitted lovely. I kept a couple of cardigans and have put them away with his first shoes etc, my mum died when he was 2 so I kept them as a little reminder of her.

hope you all have a good weekend doing your different things,
x

I didn't realise it was friday the 13th, till you mentioned it Rita.
It's a good job you are a good neighbour, or that poor woman would have been still lying there Rita.
Thats another reason I feel that they should bring back the old method, in having wardens back in control of the place.
Your estate manager being on holiday, did not ease the situation.
When my mum was in her sheltered housing, the warden used to buzz through, to every resident each morning, to make sure they were o.k.

It's funny Yvonne, the leggings always seemed much to long didn't they.
I used to adjust the pattern, and makes the legs shorter, but they were still to long.
When my girls were small, I knitted them pleated skirts, and jackets to match. They were absolutely beautiful, and I received many compliments about their outfits.

So we are all sorted out for the assault on the wedding Liz has got to attend.
If we travel down the night before, we can gets things prepared. We don't want to let Liz down.
And we can have a little drinky poo before setting out on our demolition derby.

Hi everybody.

I've enjoyed my day out with Maz, even though it rained all day. We spent most of the day in a coffee shop trying to avoid the rain - but it gave us a chance to chat.

Rita, it's just as well you're alert, that poor woman might still have been lying there. Poor soul, it could have been a lot worse. What's the point of you all paying extra money to have an estate manager if she's not there when you need her?

Mo, my mam was in sheltered housing and they had a warden who buzzed them every morning to see if they were OK. I can't see the point of being in Sheltered housing if there isn't a warden.

Marilyn, why have you invited people over for the weekend? You knew we were moving Rita in at the weekend. It'll have to wait until next week now Rita.

Hello all, hope you are all ok, and looking forward to a good weekend.
I do hope your neighbour will soon be back home and feeling better Rita.
Got 2 days rest now, but this morning they did a check and found a small lump in the other breast,
Am supposed to be having my grandaughter again this weekend, but as I cant lift her we have put it off. maybe next weekend.
Has anyone had the flooding that is happening at the moment? a friend of mine in Cheadle Hulme has, she has had to move in with her daughter for the time being.
Take care everyone, ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Jean xx

Oh God Jean, did they tell you anything else apart from the fact that they found it? The treatment that you're having now should be able to cope with it shouldn't it? Try not to worry about it too much - easy for me to say, I know. Make the most of the weekend and get as much rest as you can, you need to build your strength up to help you fight.

We've had heavy rain all day but we aren't flooded, just soggy.

What are we going to do wih you Jean.
Keep your chin up love, you know we are all behind you. Even though we cant fight it for you, we are fighting it with you, alllll the way.
I just wish I had a magic wand that would work miracles.

Pauline I bet you and Maz were talking for England when you met. Does your jaw hurt now, lol
What a shame it was raining. But then meeting people is about talking and catching up on things isn't it, and sitting inside would have been more comfortable for that.

Linda you must be leaving me behind in the knitting stakes now.
I hope you have a lovely break in Worthing.

Marilyn, enjoy your company this weekend. Will you miss BB tonight I wonder.

Shelly are you still at Chessington. I don't think they have got a maze there, so you can't be lost in there.

Titter Titter, Rita. I wonder if the estate manager will get her door open ,with all the complaints from the residents pushed through her letter box.
Like you I can't understand why they did not put a temporary manager in, while she was on holiday. Cost cutting I suppose.

Hi all,

Thanks for all the supportive pms etc, sorry I haven't replied to all, been a bit snowed under with helping my own son sort out what he was wearing for his mate's wedding which is at 1pm today. The forecast isn't great but I hope the sun shines and it's nice and dry till everyone's had their pictures taken and are all settled in to the reception. The wedding is in a little village on the outskirts of Norwich. We spent ages online Thursday evening with our mobiles on, comparing ties on line to choose the best one lol then he couldn't get it at Debehams where it should have been! He sent me a pick of the tie and shirt he finally got to go with the suit he already had and some new shoes, and he looked so smart. He made me laugh, he had a haircut but not too much off cos in two week's time he will be at the Reading festival again, third or fourth year running, and he wants to have a Mohican, so had to keep some length on top. It's just for the festival then he will get it cut off before he goes back to work.

I did write a post on Thursday evening but the computer crashed and I lost it all and didn't have the heart to write it again. O.h. wasn't very impressed with his son when he heard the news, and more so when the son said his Mum had upset the wife by telling her she couldn't possibly wear what she planned to bring, a black satiny dress, told her black was for funerals not for weddings. O.h. ended up saying he would give them some money as a late wedding gift from last year (although I am sure he did send them money for that occasion) and he is giving the son getting wed the same amount and that will be their lot! yeh right, till the next time scrounger rings from NY and says he has lost his job or can't make ends meet! I as surprised that o.h. suggested I talk to the NY wife to say it's ok to wear black - black and white are fashionable or you can just add a bit of brightness with a shrug or scarf.... normally I am kept well away from that son, but he was happy for me to talk with her, said if you can cheer her up re outfit, go for it. Seems the ex here had said she could always buy something here to wear, what part of they don't have any spending money does she not understand, she is so thick! Anyway I reminded the d.i.l that sales are nearly over and mostly autumn stuff in and she said it's the same in NY so she is going to bring the dress and see how she feels when the day comes. She was friendly and it broke the ice so we won't be complete strangers, the son knows I sussed him out years ago as a spoiled brat but I will be telling him about his father's health problems so he knows why his dad wants to pay off his mortgage and is concerned he might not be well enough to work to the age of 65, he is 56 at the mo.
Oh and he went to the optician on Thurs, seems he already has cataracts forming which to me, seems young, he didn't know what they were but I had noticed his eyesight was deteriorating and have been telling him for years he should wear sunglasses as lack of protection causes cataracts!
More hassle eh?

Seems the son getting wed has arranged a busy itinerary for the brother who is best man so he will only be in Norwich for a couple of days or so. He told his dad that as he wants to catch up with his friends while he is here, he couldn't see his dad till Friday, he will be here Weds and Thurs and then I thought he would be going to the brother's so they could spend the night before the wedding in a travelodge together so the bride can have their house to get ready in with her best friend. The two girls will be at the hotel we are staying in to do the flowers for the tables etc the evening before as well so didn't want groom there in case they saw each other. it's only a small wedding in a registry office and then back to the hotel for the 'do' we are staying there the night before and the night of the wedding and coming back on the Sunday.
O.h. told the NY son Sorry we won't be here on Friday, we will be going to the hotel, so it seems he will pop in on Weds or Thursday - o.h. says he is sure to want to bring his wife round to see where he grew up, but o.h. said it's my fault the house is a mess and they can see how he has to live! So you understand why I feel upset because I will get the blame, neither son has any idea what their father is like to live with 24/7 but oh how i hope he gives them an inkling when he acts up on the wedding day which he will do if he doesn't eat properly and drinks too much. He will probably drink the evening before as well but I shall let him get on with it, time they saw the real person behind the jolly idiot they think they remember. The son in NY has hardly spent more than a few days with his father in the last few years, he went to USA in Nov 2007, came back in Nov 2008 and went again at the end of Dec 2008 til now.

I tried on my dress last evening with the mauve jacket I got, the one I tried on in the shop was a bit tight, but this one is too big so will change it today and see what it looks like. I got an ivory/offwhite pashmina at a charity shop for 50p and it's washed up beautfully so that might look better, but could take the jacket with the label still on in case a pashmina isn't warm enough and if I don't use it, return it afterwards, still plenty of time.

Couldn't find any shoes and the white and silver ones I got didn't look right so may have to wear some silvery grey mules which look fine and are comfy, but if the weather is cool might look too summery, and they don't look so smart from the back. Going to have a futher look when out today and can't get a white bag anywhere so will see how things work out. As I got the pashmina I shan't bother to make the scarf into a stole now. I actually think the dress looks a bit long so might end up chopping three inches off, it should be easy enough and can quickly machine it round as it is machined now.

I will keep you posted but must get off here now and do some ironing.

Take care everyone, Rita hope you are feeling much better and glad you found your neighbour, hope she will be ok soon too.
Is it worth talking to someone at Age Concern about the lack of relief warden and the things that don't get done or followed up by your Estate Manager etc? Maybe if they spoke up for you to the people who run the complex you might get better service?

Hope everyone else is ok - take care and thanks again,

love
Lizxx

Morning All,

Just a quickie before my guest arise..LOL

Hi Liz.......just think next month it will be all over ....a new you !! LOL

Jean....what can I say ? now is it the same breast or the other one that the lump was found ? I know they have to remap the program for the Radiotherapy. I wonder if it can be covered by the same treatment that you are receiving now . ask them questions Jean on Monday.

We are all off to Cornwall today ......

Bye for now .....x

Oh Liz, I do feel for you. Perhaps you could get something (minor) that would put you in hospital for a week or so before the wedding then when you come out for the wedding you can look so frail and you can say, sorry the house is such a mess but I have been in hospital and OH never does any housework.

Now, any suggestions from others on how she can get into hospital without being really sick?

Huia.

Volenteer to do a book round service, seriously I dont know what she is worried about. my gran use to say "If they have come to see the house then this is it " if you have come to see me " your welcome."
we would all like spotless houses or flats shinny shelves and furniture lovely kitchens with all the gagets and bathrooms the same. Life is for the living. not a show case for others. the WELCOME MAT is on display .
I had a prayer card given to me years ago it went like this.

Lord of Pots and Pans and things.
since l've not time to be
a saint by doing things
or watching late with thee
or dreaming in the dawn light
or storming heavens gates
make me a saint for getting meals
and washing up the plate.
although I must have Martha's hands
I have a Mary mind
and when I black the boots and shoes thy sandles Lord I find
I think of how they trod the earth
what time I scrub the floor
accept this meditaion Lord
I have'nt time for more.

so you see Liz it works both ways. you can do some things others you cannot Time is something we dont always have now and as we get older it goes by too quickly.
so please stop worrying.

Morning all you other out there? I have had my breakfast and showered washed my hair and sorted out my meal for today now I have to tae my pile of tablets.

Jean I do hope things go well for you. it is no good me saying try and not worry because you will. I do the same thing try thinking POSITIVE . I will be thinking of you.

Love
Rita

LOL Huia, I think Liz would be happy to stay in hospital (for observation) until the wedding was all over and the son back in America. She could take her lappy and a good book and just sit with her feet up.

Marilyn, hope you get good weather at Cornwall, it's raining again here.

Yes Mo, we talked a lot, probably would have just sat there talking if it was a fine day as well.....lol



Edit: morning Rita, didn't see you there, it took me so long to get this post to upload that you sneaked in while I was trying.

Liz, maybe you could just repeat what Rita has just said........ "If you've come to see the house ........this is it, if you've come to see me......you're welcome"

Rita, I think Liz's suggestion for you was a good one as well. Someone at Age Concern may be able to get something done.

Liz
I heard what you said but the trouble is if we have a relief Estate manager ( (they are not called Wardens now as they dont do anything other than run the Estate contractors. ) we have to pay for them private and we already pay for the Estate manager including her flat and half of all her bills.
There is a catch into all these retirement homes so read the small print anyone that is thinking of going into one.
You dont get a good bargain by any means.
everything costs and you get less for it..

I went and did some shopping this morning needed just a couple of items including my blood pressure tablets so went before it rained. it started to rain when I got back it is nothing much at the moment just the odd shower but we are told to be alert and wait for the heavy storms that are forcast

Rose the lady that had the fall is back home this morning. she will be very nervous now when she goes out she has one of those wheely trollies you can sit down on if you tire.

The Estate Manager is also home she came back late last night. I have not seen her yet. would not matter if I did we are not allowed to ask her or tell her anything till she is back on duty Monday morning at 9 o'clock.
going to do a small chicken pie and potato's and runner beans for my dinner.


Rita

do you lot no how long it has taken me to read back
ill tell you shall i
well it took me for ever and a day lol

liz dont wurry about the house if thay dont like it thay no were the door is

eny way i ache all over think ill go back to bed lol
the weather was not to bad it did rain on and off but we was still there from the time it opened at 10am till the time it closed at 6pm
shame it did rain though cos this day out was mainly for the grandkids
but hay were british what ever the weather we will still have fun

but hubby did moan and moan and moan lol
poor sod we left him with baby when we took the kids on the rides
my 22 year old she take my boys on the big rides me and my 26 year old take her boys on the little rides so that left poor grandad holding the baby

Hi Shelly
The weather did not seem to stop you enjoying yourself then. what is weather but rain snow and sun.
Children enjoy themselves when they go on rides whatever the weather. so I am pleased it all went well for you.

your husband deserves a medal.

I forgot to mention on my last thread I went into the charity shop to see if they had any books in I am out of good reading material. I managed to get three M & B History books I paid and went to go out when I notice a blue board on one of the shelves and it gave me a laugh it read. in large white letter.


WANTED A TOY BOY
MUST HAVE HIS OWN TEETH..

Rita

Today's weather can't seem to make it's mind up..rain...sun, now rain again...

Hi Everyone,
I'm back from Cornwall ......it rained ALL day. but back here in Devon its Sunny.
so we should have stayed here ...LOL

Shelly are you getting bossy like me ??? LOL Fancy making Hubby stay out of all the fun...

Rita I take it that thread got whoooshed that Kevin created .....as I noticed it gone ...

Got to get dinner for my lot now ......

Marilyn yes it looks like Kevins thread was taken off I have no idea whether he did it or GR.

I had a card from two friends this morning one is in Dawlish Devon and the other Boscombe where ever that is not sure. ? they have not had good weather.
My niece is in Bruge and they have bad weather too, so it seems it is not contained in Britain only.
we all moaned about the heat now we have heavy rain. we had an almighty storm after lunch and it was black as hell all around it has gone now but I can see black clouds coming this way.

I am going to watch TV tonight .nothing much on but I like" tonights The night "with John Barrowman then I expect I shall read till bedtime.

Rita