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It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to shout at them. Some are over-sensitive and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive mature lady.

Let me relate how I handled the situation with my partner. When I took early retirement a few years ago, it became necessary for her to get a full-time job for the extra income that we need.

Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I now usually get home from the pub about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she nearly always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't shout at her, instead I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch at the pub so eating out again is out of the question; I'm ready for some home cooked food when I get home.

She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's usual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of ageing is complaining. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to do the shopping during her lunch hour. But we take them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then won't hurt her. I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She has to take a rest when she has only half finished mowing the lawn and several extra breaks when she's vacuuming through the house. It does annoy me, vacuuming when I'm trying to watch 'Match of the Day', but I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to make herself a nice cup of tea and just sit for a while, and as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support my partner. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your ageing partner because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile.

No need to thank me. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.

(Tongue-firmly-in-cheek.)

weather not so good here as well cath
windy with a little rain but i think we may have a stome

i took little legs to work with me today and gave daughter some jobs to begetting on with
and iv just got back from shoping frezzer is full of food so just may have to eat out for the next 2 days

Hello all,
chilly and windy down here today :-(
The 2 little ones are both having a nap so I have a few minutes to catch up before I need to wake them for the school run.
No work until Tuesday so I'm :D
Hope everyone is well.
Rita, How is Mike today?

Cath xx

Pauline,

I would have High Coolestrool too if I could spell it ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-)

Hello All !

Dropping in at home to have a light snack..................6 Bacon Rolls, 3 Scotch Pies, Plate of Chips and Mushy peas, 4 Cans Irn Bru and a Coffee.

Catch you later ! :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-)

Hi all, it's quite nice here, sunny and mild. Mind you, it's sure to change now that I've said that.

Good news for you Rita, I'm really pleased to hear they didn't find any more cancer in Mike. He can relax now and concentrate on getting strong again.

Sad news for you Stephen, my condolences to Madge's family and friends.

Shelly, I should have known what you meant, wasn't using my brain............ don't use it very often.

Linda, that Azalea's a lovely memento, you'll aways think of her went you look at it.

Jean, I think I'd better have porridge this morning, I've just been told I have high cholesterol. The nurse said I have to stop eating cheese, cream, butter and chocolate. Hmm, those ingredients are usually part of my daily diet.......... probably why I've got high cholesterol.

Agatha, I can imagine there'd be quite a few people who'd want to pick Oscar up and walk off with him, he's so cute. Mind you, most people wouldn't do it!

Dermot, is it bad or is it just that it's not trendy?

Morning all Friendly Threaders, its like a winters day here today, I've got my cardigan on, Oscar got me up at 4.45am to go outside and would not settle afterwards, he's excited now though as he's coming for a ride to fetch mum from the hairdresses, but he will have to stay at home while I go to Tesco this afternoon, I worry leaving him in the car on his own after he was nearly stolen from the caravan balcony once.
If I have the poached egg on a Bagel Jean, will it fall through the whole.
I have to take my medication with food Rita, its annoying on mornings when you don't feel like breakfast.
Stephen, if I lived in Scotland, I would not get a crane to move the tree, I would get some of those lovely big men from the highland games, but thats just a fantasy of mine.
Your very deep this morning Dermot, I have pondered your question, and have no answer.
Have a great day everyone.

Why is it so bad to aspire to speak well? Just wondered.

Morning all. It is overcast and very windy here looks as if we will get a lot of rain this morning.

Stephen I was thinking of you sawing that tree from your daughters garage and thougth he can make money out of that tree Lol
saw dust to go to the butchers. logs for fires and the trunk for tossing the caber.

I have settled for the scrambled eggs Jean, I have to eat before I take my tablets so they have something to land on .

be good see you all later
Rita

Morning all, sorry breakfast is late. hope you all had a peaceful night.

Cereal or porridge,

Bacon rolls, poached or scrambled eggs on toast.

Toast or bagels with Marmalade or honey.

Tea, coffee or juice.

Sorry, not a big breakfast today, have to go shopping today to restock cupboards.

Have a good day and take care.
Jean xx :-)

morning all

Cath,

Your statement about Bras being like good friends,

Would you Cross your Heart and Lift and Separate that that's the truth ?
;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-)

Morning Cat & Stephen and others when you rise
Overcast and damp, not forecast very nice today, increasing breeze and showers some BIG. Thats a surprise as we haven't had real rain for so long.
Not sure what we will do today, hubby still off.

Mo I finished the cardigan and booties last night and will make a beenie hat today to go with them, so they can be for a girl or boy. The blanket is on its way. Oh I didn't take a photo of it once my daughter had threaded lemon ribbon round the edge, bother. Sorry Mo.

Have a nice day everyone

Linda :o) XxX

Morning Cath, and all others when they surface. :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

I'll not upset the breakfast cook, Jean, I'll just wait patiently for breakfast. ;-)

Now that most of the branches are cleared from the tree limb that fell on my daughters garage I'll need to arrange a Crane to remove the remaining part. It,s a huge piece of timber and weighs a helluva lot. Mrs Stephen couldn't budge it.......and if she can't then it has to be a Crane Job. :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-)

Have a good day ya all !

Morning friendlies, :-)
just popping in before work but I think you're all still asleep lol.
Have a good day everyone,

Cath xx

Friends are like Bras,
close to your heart and there for support. :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

Stephen I'm sorry to hear about Madge. My thoughts are with her family.
Rita glad Mikes op went well and hope he makes a swift recovery.
Linda enjoy your retirement :D
Its been a busy day for me and I had problems getting on to this thread for some reason. :P
Hope everyone is ok, I've forgotten half of what I read, lol. Will catch up properly tomorrow,

Cath xx

Edit: Loved the tale Dermot :-)
Agatha glad you can hear again.

Time for shower, supper then bed.

Night all

Rita,

Good news !

You may be able to have a good sleep tonight knowing that Mike is ok.

Oh so much news to catch up on.

Rita, it's so good to hear that Michael is over the operation. Thank the lord they found no other cancer.
It's good to see he will keep his job, and light duties are just what he needs,especially as he enjoys his job so much.

Stephen, I am sorry to hear of Madges demise, but she is now pain free and at peace.
Heartfelt condolences to her family,and all her friends.

So Linda, you are now a lady of leisure. After a while you will wonder how you managed to do all you did.
Rest and relaxation are now the measure. I am sure you will find plenty to do with your time.

Pat, you are having a job getting rid of this virus you have got arn't you. It may be time to see your doctor love, and get yourself checked over, to be on the safe side.

Agatha, I will whisper now, as you can hear clearly. I am watching Midsummer Murders as well as being on here. I'm a bit confused with it at the moment, it doesn't take much to confuse me though. LOL