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Does anyone have any experience?

Do you have to go into to a care home in the area you are living or can you go anywhere?

You can get them moved if you can prove that their cares are not being met ..

Whats up ??

I have an aunt ( 91 this week) & she is thinking she can't manage by herself any more so just wondering what the options were for care homes as she doesn't live in our area.

I guess you need to contact her local social services and they will help on that ...I,m sure thaty can give you info on how and what you have to pay if anything .....does she have family or a house she owns coz often those things are taken into consideration .....

No she lives in a rented house.

I would like to add please think very very carefully of moving your Aunt to a different area.Besides it being a massive and confusing time it is worse if they are moved away from friends or people who may visit her.
I moved my mum to a care home near me which was 300 miles from her home in Plymouth.She paid for her care herself.I was the only one to visit and she was desperately unhappy and confused with her Dementia.I ended up moving her back to Plymouth to a small home and although she never could get used to being in a home,it was much better for her see faces that she knew once or twice a week,and sometimes the staff would pop her in a taxi to take her to tea with an old friend.
I wish your Aunt all the best and hope what ever the decision it is the right one for her.
Helen x

Hello,
Care homes differ in the care offered, and this could be residential care, dementia care or nursing care, all with different charging rates, terms and conditions.
Social Services and Age Concern should be able to supply information for you.
If the lady is to be self funding, you will probably have to find somewhere yourself, but if the LA is to pay, then they will give you advice.
If you can, find out recommendations from local people about homes in the area you are looking at, as the standard do vary greatly from home to home.

Thanks all for your replies. Lots of food for thought.

If she is reasonably able and there is one in her area, it is well worth trying for a place in an Abbeyfield home. They have their own room and washing facilities, and can come and go more or less as they please. Meals are provide in a dining hall and they mix if they want to. I know ours here in Monmouth is very good and the charges are manageable out of pension, or were.

Thanks Jean - just had a look. The one in our town is £550pw. Is that average for a care home?

Jean (Monmouth) mentioned Abbeyfield I saw 2 Abbeyfields when looking for mum.I thought they were brilliant .If your Aunt is mentally ok it they may be worth looking at.

Gail

My Aunt seems to have the same mentality as your Nana - same age too - when she was in hospital she didn't like being in a ward with "all these old people!"

My sister, 82, goes to a day centre once a week and loves it. My next door neighbour, 92, says she couldnt sit around all day like that! Guess which one would be happy in a home!