General Chat

Un flounce for a moment, to say it must be really hard for you to come to terms with Pam. No matter how old they are,we still think of them as our babies

Flounces off again

Thank you Tec, yes. It's just the most horrible thing. But it's the suffering they went through that haunts you. The loss is hard to bear but the 8 months of misery for him was just indescribable. He was so brave. And he new it was no go, too, almost from the very beginning after he was diagnosed last Christmas Eve.

Pam xx

Oh dear Linda is flouncing. I do wish you wouldn't, Linda - it's most unbecoming in a grandmother.

S x

I have beaten you Sue, we have managed 40, but I am sure Tec will be able to top that, with him being a gentleman of more mature years and all

Congratulations, Sue and hubby. That's uplifting in this day and age to know that people do stay married for a long time.

Well done.

Pam.

I think Tec's got his 60th wedding anniversary coming up:-)) He was about 32 when he married.

S x

yes well done blimey!

I always pay attention to what you say Linda -I wouldn't dare not - in case questions were asked later.

Pam, If I lived where you do I'd never get anything done outside, be too busy looking over my shoulder to see what was after me lol.
Did you manage to get those birds back?

Tec.

This ancient old fossil has been married for 48 years next week.

I can remember every one of them vividly lol.

Tec.

Ooh Tec, our Sue is being really cheeky tonight

Well, congratulations are in store for more. Linda and no doubt Tec. Well done to both of you, too.

Thank you all for your support. It's been hard to talk about this since he passed on 9 August, but it just came out now. So maybe it's coming to a new phase.

I'm trying to remember all the good things. The positives. He was well loved by all who knew him. The funeral had over 400 people at it. We were quite shocked. You don't realise how far your web has spread until a time like that.

I was so please, too, that his biological father was there. We hadn't seen him in many, many years but, there he was. I told him that it was lovely to see him there.

Pam.

I hope that you are all organised if it is next week Tec.
Red roses ordered, candle lit dinner arranged.

Is it the 28th because that is Berona's birthday and we could have a joint celebration

What's wrong now, Linda? Are they giving you a bad time?
I started reading from yesterday, but saw so many pages to be read, I have gone straight to the end - so maybe I would know what's wrong with Linda if I had stopped to read them all......but then, everyone would have gone to bed before I posted!
Good morning and good evening everyone.

Pam,when my mum was dying everyone on here was great. I could talk about it when I needed to and we could crack jokes in between, that is what is so wonderful about this thread

Tec, in the end I only lost 2. But they come back to eat every few days. I leave food out for them on top of a cage that has the door open and they'll go in if they want to. So long as they survive out there is all I care about.

Sue, your comment about how long Tec has been married and how old he was when he married actually made me giggle and I'm not the giggling kind.

Pam.

I was just flouncing Berona because they were all explaining to me in great detail where the ~~~~~ key was, but they hadn't bothered to notice that I had found it immediately after i had asked where it was

Pam - I have done many courses on 'grief and loss' and one thing I learnt is that there is no 'normal' way to grieve and no time limit. I'm glad you feel comfortable enough with us to talk about how you feel and I hope it's been a comfort to you. It must also be a comfort to know how people felt about your son - to be loved by friends and family is a most wonderful thing to have experienced in life and says so much about the man he was and the mother you are.

S x

Yes, Linda. Thanks for that. That's just what I was thinking. That we can crack jokes in between. Not all gloom and doom, if you know what I mean. Maybe not the best choice of words but the best I can manage at the moment.

Pam.

Pam .....I can't imagine what it must be like to loose a child ( no matter their age ) , I was with my Mum when she passed away ( from Cancer ) four years ago , when that time approaches I try hard to resist getting dragged back to " that place " in my head but sometimes it just starts to unfold again : (
I think it's a good thing that you are starting to feel you can talk about your son , he sounds as he he was a man to be very proud of .

It must have been a comfort to you that his father was at the funeral .

Goodness me , you lot have been maried a lot longer than I ( truth be told I have never actually tied the knot ) , I've been with my OH for almost 19 years now , maybe one day we will take the plunge ....lol

well its been nice to meet you all but me bed is calling hope I come back sometime?? lol
Night night
Rachx