General Chat

Today is the anniversary of my dear old dad passing away, he died very suddenly from a massive stroke in 1981 aged 65.

Miss you so much dad XX
I wish you could see me now and all your grandchildren and great grandchildren.
And to let you know I have made contact with your niece, my cousin Nina, she has your looks more than I do and she has told me so much about your family that I didn't know with photos too, its been a fantastic journey, I wish you'd been here to see it..

Dolly I so feel for you.

I like to believe that yes they (Dads) do know what we are upto. It keeps me on the straight and narrow and helps when I chat to him, which is daily as I have his photo on the wall so I always say Good morning

My Dad toddled off 5 years ago but he's never left my thoughts.
Your Dad may be gone but think of him on that cloud going past and think that he does know how well it all worked out for you.

I would say RIP Dollys Dad but better is rock them clouds meet my dad and party :-D

Thank you Uzzi,

Dads are pretty special as your dad is to you, may your dad RIP too.
Its harsh when parents go, especially when its suddenly.

I wish I could tell him all about his mum and his rellies and that his mum didn't have the name she gave on her marriage cert.
And Nina, his niece, my cousin, she has been fantastic, I never remembered her when I was a child but she remembered me, she is 26 years older than me and has helped me with my tree so much.
I hope he is watching to see what has happened over the years.

Dolly X

Dolly I started looking into our family just before dad died but big time after.
Dad left me his memoirs, all as he imagined but looking back not quite correct, where family was concerned .he edited as would any family. I'm not sure I would tell him different ..dad belonged to the working class he would hate to know any different. lol they owned the company as did dad.

I would say I was lucky I had 6months to say goodbye to Dad (they gave him 6 to 12months and I knew it would be the lesser). I did know (as did we all) that Feb that year was his last, so we got a chance and many more, to say goodbye.
I do feel for you not having that but at least you were saved from the is this the last day. hard to know which is best ?

RIP Dollys Dad rock them clouds

Thank you Uzzi, I am pleased you had time with your dad and managed to get his memoirs even if all wasn't correct.
My dad was very secretive about his family, the reason his mum had a different name on her mariage cert was that she was born in a workhouse to her single mother, then they left the workhouse and my Grandmother took her stepfathers surname, I suppose he could have adopted her but I don't know.
Dad was the youngest born in 1916, his mum died when dad was about 16, he didn't keep in contact with his siblings very often and family wasn't discussed, so finding my cousin has been a massive important part of my tree growing.

Dad died the day before my youngest sister was 11, so it comes quite hard for her as there is always a reminder of not so happy times.


Dolly X

Thinking of you, Dolly, and nice to see you again even though it is a sad occasion.

I know how you will be feeling today Dolly.I will be the same on Friday.My Dad passed away 24 years ago aged 64 from Motor Neurone Disease.Like you I feel so sad that he wasn't here long enough to see his Grandchildren grow up .

Dolly, I'm sending you my positive thoughts...hope you manage to get through today with a smile as you remember lovely happy times with your Dad, rather than feeling 'down' with thoughts of sad moments.

It's difficult, I know, I lost my Dad only 20 months ago and I miss him so very much too. But I have to tell myself that I was lucky. Lucky that I got to spend 50+ years with him!! Be happy for all the years you had with your Dad, I'm sure he's looking down on you pleased that you've done so much with your tree.

K x

P.S. ~~~~~ waving to Uzzi, Joy and Jane.

Dolly thinking about you today your Dad is in your heart forever &watching you & your family .memories are wonderfull treasure them all .i lost my Dad 2005. but know they never really leave us .Take care Barbra x

Hello everyone,

Joy thank you for your message, I miss him a great deal, it seems like it was yesterday he died but a life time since I last saw him.
Thank you Joy X

Jane, wishing you happy memories of your dad today and always but especially on friday :-)
Thank you Jane X

Karen thank you, I am sure he is smiling away at the mess ups I've made and smiled at the great moments too.
20 months isn't very long, but the years soon fly by, I have photos of my dad, one as a choir boy! he never told me about that, I didn't find out until I met my cousin Nina, she gave me the photo, its so lovely.
Thank you Karen X

Barbra thank you, I am so pleased I got through today happy, wishing you happy memories of you and your dad :-)
Thank you Barbra X

Thank you LaGooner, I think we all cherish memories of the people we have lost, I have some really funny ones of my dad but not funny at the time, I can laugh at them now though :-)
Thank you LaGooner X

Thank you Sandie, It so horrible when you know they haven't got long left, I had that with mil in Feb this year. Its funny but I worry about my mum, she is 83 and in heart failure and has been since she had 3 heart attacks a couple of years ago, I worry because when she dies, she might not want to be met by dad as they had split up before he died and he never stopped loving her, so hopefully when they go they have a change of heart and won't row lol.
Thank you Sandie X

Dolly, it's lovely that you got in touch with Nina and have learned so much more about your family history.
I didn't start the family history till long after both my parents died but got a tremendous amount of help and info and anecdotes from one of my Dad's cousins who sadly I had not known before my parents died. I knew of her but because my Dad moved to live here where my Mum comes from, we didn't know his side of the family well. They were only about 150 miles away but we never had a car so didn't visit often and don't know why but not many of them visited us either. My paternal Gran only came to stay two or three times and my Grandad had died long before my Dad married Mum.
I would love to be able to talk with my Dad over the info I have now and ask him some questions. I am sure he would be thrilled to see what I have found out and would have loved to be with me when I visited Liverpool Cathedral when I went there, after learning Gt Grandad and Gt Uncle Harry worked on the building as stone masons. He would have been able to tell me how realistic the Lark Rise drama was as it was set in his neck of the woods and one of the characters was a stonemason who in real life probably grew up and worked with my Gt Grandad as they were only 3 miles apart.

Maybe all our Dads are watching us chat about them and helping guide us towards more and more info and stories about the family.

Remember your Dad with a smile and a warm feeling in your heart, Dolly and Uzzi , Karen and all who miss their loved ones.

Lizx

Hi Dolly.
Remembering my dad today and everyday, it's almost 6 months now since he past way it was 6.30am on Christmas morning 2010, We all know he had fun times with his Great Granddaughter, I have the photo's of him and her together to show her when she is older enough to listen to the stories about him. she went to visit him every week with her mum and me to the Dementia care home where he lived. she's only 21 months

Glad that you have made contact with your dad's relatives, it will make you feel a little bit closer to him.

Thank god for all our dad's
Fionax

Hi Fiona and Liz, Thank you for looking in, I am sorry about your dad Fiona especially as it was Christmas morning, I know that no time is a good time to pass away but on a special occasion it is a really big constant reminder, but you'll have to bypass the last Christmas and remember the good ones. I didn't realise that it would be my mil's last Christmas in 2010, I wish I'd have known, she died almost exactly 2 months later, Feb 26th this year.
My boys never saw there Grandad and my daughter was just 3 years old but remembers vaguely some things about him.

Yes, thank god for our dads!

Dolly X