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after watching long lost family last night
how nice it would be to find my half brother
my mum told me when my dad died that he had a son [with another women ]
[before my mum and dad got together ]
but my mum could not remember the boys name or anything so no chance in finding him

but it does make you think

lorraine

Are your uncles/ aunts or friends of your father still alive. Believe me if a child was born out of wedlock as shown in that program, someone will know the name......that is if you ever wish to find him. Apart from that I really enjoy the format of the program and it is good to watch Davina without all the screeching she normally does. -jl

Was he living with the woman or married to her? If yes then you may be able to find a birth registered. It may be a process of elimination and I hope your Dad's name wasn't Smith or Jones!

hi
thank you for replying
but my dad was the only child
his mum died when he was a baby and he was adopted so if his son was looking for him he wont find him has his birth name changed when he was adopted
he never lived with this women and my mum knew about the child as my dad had to pay for him untill this boys mother married
all the best lorraine

Zombie.
I was like you,my Dad told me when I was around 8 years old that I had 2 half sisters and he made me promise then I would trace them.

I couldn't do anyrthing until after my mum died is 1987.
To cut a long story short.I have found both of my half sisters.but as they were a lot older than me doth have had children but they have both died with Hubbies.

The eldest emigrated to OZ in 1951 after having a daughter who was 4 yrs old when they sailed to OZ.

The other sister stayed in England and had 2 boys who are older than me.

I have wrote to both of the nephews who live at the other side of the city from me but neither want to know.
So I wrote to the Niece in OZ with a birthday card for her birthday last November but she hasn't replied either.
I think their mothers (my half sisters) have told their children that their grandfather(my dad) married a woman that was 11 yrs younger that the eldest half sister.
But it is up to my nephews and niece if they don't want to be in touch but they are losing out on a big family from my daughters and son.

Go for it and if you eed help give a loud scream and I am sure we will help as much as we can.

Good Luck.
Sue

thank you sue
but i dont have a name for my half brother
all i know he was born in nottingham around 1950 /51
dont even know if my dad was put on the birth cert
and at the time dads son was born his surname would of been parker
so i dont think there is any chance at all of finding him

thanks again
all the best
lorraine

Sue
After my mum died I applied for her b.cert then marriage cert to start off my searches.
To cut a long story short and directories, electoral rolls etc found a half brother 10 years my senior.
He didn,t want to know about our mum (he last saw her when he was 5yrs old) then 75.
Well we became friends and over the next couple of years asked after her.
We have drifted apart but one of the last conversations we had was that he wished he had known her before she had died.

Part of me feels a little bit rejected by him but I managed to change his mind from hating her and accepting there may have been circumstances where it was better for her to leave. Not because she didnt love him.

I am still glad I did what I did for both of them.

Lorraine.

You say your Dad was an only child..wasn't he adopted into a family ie other kids or they had other kids after the couple adopted your Dad.

Does your Mam remember any of your Dads friends from when they met.
It's a possibility that the friends would remember any girlfriend your dad went out with.
Long shot I know but you could be surprised what chaps talked about when younger..
Sue

hi all
thank you very much will be reading all this again
and then going to see if i can find something to help me
thank you to all of you
all the best
lorraine

As your father paid Maintanance there should well be a record of who it was paid to ,worth a try.**M**.

hi merlin
i was thinking of that
but where would you look for that info and the date would be about 1950 /51
all the best lorraine

The payment for the son could have been a voluntary payment just between your Dad and the woman who had the baby.
But if there was a legal claim against your Dad it would have been in front of Magistrates for Finacial payment to last usually until the child was 16 yrs old.

Hope your Mum can remember even a snippet of info..Like how he paid the money ie postal order,cash just something to give you a start on finding your Half brother.

Good Luck and please let us know if she can remember the least thing.write everything down what people tell you..

Sue

hi all
have talked to my mum and she cant remember my half brothers name
so at the moment at a full stop the people who adopted my dad could not have children of there known [so no one to ask there ]
i will just keep looking on here and on ancestry and see if any one is doing a name which is the same as my dads
[hope and pray that some day i might find him
if i do i will let you all know
but for now thank you to all of you
lorraine :-D