General Chat

I wont mention names because you know who you are and I dont want to miss someone out. There are several people on here who have supported me in my down moments in the last couple of weeks and a few (particularly one) who has helped me tremendously in my research too. I want you all to know how much I appreciate this. You have kept me going through very difficult times! I am now sitting here listening to my ipod because I have decided that is what makes me smile (along with researching of course). Opps watch out the phone is ringing and I am not not going to answer it. I wonder who it could be. Could it be the so called best friend? Who cares???? I will check it in a mo and if it is important I will call them back. Failing that they can wait til I want to talk to them/her. Thanks for listening and for being there. Fi x

UPDATE...Thank god for 1571! It was her and no I am not calling her back yet. Fi

Have you been let down, love? Caz xxx

Listening to Freddie helps me at times like that, Fi.

Cumbrian Caz, I have had a falling out with my best friend of 21 years and until today it hurt. It dont now. I know what is important to me right now and my health and sanity is far more important. Maid Marion, I have ipod on shuffle and so am waiting for Bohemian Rhapsody to come along. But I have loads of songs to keep me occupied. The only thing I will watch on tv is Eastenders because I want to see Stella suffer! Carol, Thanks mate. I may not be on FF&F for a while. I am sure you and the few will understand that. Fi

Fi (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Jean x.

Hi Fi :) Sorry to hear you have had a fallen out with your long term friend. To fall out with anyone is bad, to fall out with someone we have known for a long time is painful and the hurt tends to go much deeper. Only you know the circumstances of what happened between you and I wouldnt even try to think how you must be feeling right now. I will try to say what I am hoping to say without upsetting or offending you in anyway whilst you are already hurting. A long term friendship can or cannot also be one worth saving depending on those circumstances. If your friend is attempting to ring you perhaps your friend now realizes how much you may be hurting, I dont know. Anyway what I think I am trying to say is try not to allow to much time go between having contact with each other, even if it is to say goodbyes or patch things up. Time can heal but it can also put a distance between people so they end up losing contact with people so that neither of them ends up knowing what to do.. I hope you understand what I am saying. I wish you all the very best either way. Colin :):)

HI Fi I haven't been on the boards for a few months. So sorry to hear someone has upset you - it's always worse when it is someone you have known and liked for a long time. Keep your chin up and enjoy your music. Anne xx

Oh Fi cheer up luv, Sue.......xx

Hi Fi, we haven't spoken for ages. I read what Colin said and heaven knows he has supported me through a lot of ups and downs this year. Thank-you Colin, xxxx!! Fi, I fell out with a friend a few months back, for some strange reason she hasn't got a clue that she has upset me despite the fact i have avoided her like the plague since. I don't want to go into what it was all about but the long and the short of it is that I don't want people like her in my life. So, if your friend has done something unpardonable then erase her from your life. if it's just a tiff then give it time and try again. I miss my former friend for the fun we had but now I know I can't trust her. So trust your own feelings.

(((hugs))) xx

Well the message from my so called frriend was she was just calling to see how I was and if I had a good week at work. So there is no real answer to that. I have been feeling rubbish and because of this I have had a stressful and emotional time at work. I certainly am not wasting my time telling her that right now as all I will get is that I always moan about work and I should toughen up (as she informed me in a message just after we fell out). She obviously dont care how I really am or she would have listened to my reasons for saying what I did. So there you go. I will await another call. Thank you. I really appreciate it. Fi

Hi Fi, A very close mate of mine, of 15 years stopped speaking too me 18 months ago, no idea why and I let it really get to me so I can empathise, Hugs to you, Caz xxx