General Chat

nobody wants to admit they are not as young as they used to be babes

I think maybe they value their independence and look on getting help like admitting they can't manage themselves. Sometimes it's pride as well.

she has bowed down to using a walking stick and says she will be an octegenarian next month but wont entertain anything else with old age.

I did suggest going to a coffee morning or something else similar but she said its all old people there. Had to laugh at that one.

They wont have meals on wheels but have a look on the net for Wiltshire Farm Food its the same more or less delivered to the door but doesnt have any stigma Hope this helps Linda

she has had those before Linda but says she was ending up spending too much with them.

why do some things still have a staigma especially with elderly people. Suggested to my mum that she finds out about meals on wheels but she poo poo'd the idea straight away. She is the same with care homes or wardens.

I can recommend Linda's suggestion - Wiltshire Farm Foods. My Dad has them sometimes now that he's on his own and they're very good. You get all the veg with them, just stick them in the oven or microwave straight from the freezer. Good value for money too. My Mum had bad arthritis but she'd hobble out to the car rather than let the neighbours see she had a stick! They just don't want to admit that they are getting older and less independent. Mandy :)

Maybe she feels her independence is being taken away.....that it is an admission that she cannot fend for herself......it must be hard for her to come to terms with..... I remember how I felt when I received a Saga brochure......and I was in my 40's.......

Oh!tell me about it,my mum hates to admit shes getting older,she wont even have a bus passlol

My mum's the same, she's nearly 96. She's too much of a snob to eat food from meals on wheels etc. but then complains when a neighbour does her shopping for her that he's not getting what she wants! Oh well, we'll all be old one day. Liz

have a break have a kit kat. It is so awkward lving so far away. She is on her own and I am her only visitor. Apart from my brother who has said he will make the effort and come up for her 80th birthday. But that is the first time he has seen her since August. She has nobody checking on her regularly. Th only time she goes out now is once a week in a taxi to collect her money and to do a bit of shopping then a taxi home. And thats it until the next week. She has finally put her ouse up for sale and hopefully she will move nearer soon.

My father & mother-in-law live in warden controlled bungalow. There is a communal hall over the road, mother-in-law goes every other Friday to play cards. Gambling we call it, it is for pennies. Father-in-law won't go because he sees it as being with the OLDIES!, he is 86 in August. He goes on some of the trips but only the ones that takes his fancy. Believe it or not, still rides a motor-bike. They are now taking their 1st delivery of Wiltshire Farm Foods. I know mother-in-law will like them but father-in-law will say, not like mum's cooking. Hilary.x