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My 4th post and fourth moan, Ive had a crap day( am I allowed to say that ? ) went to visit mum again after her knee replacement ( shes 85) the last 2 days shes been fine . High on morphine today she came of it , cold turkey, her drain came out (ended up with a shoe full of her own blood) then was taken down to the gym for physio . She has been sick all day and really low as so as I walked in she was in tears, third time today. She is not has not eaten since Monday, so I took her home made soup and sarnies , one mouth full of soup and was sick. I asked the sister to give her some thing for this and within 5 mins she had a injection they are really good. But it just brakes my heart seeing her so distressed and having to come away . For the past 6 weeks we have been backward and forward to the hospital at least 3 times per week 2/3 hrs a time ,then visiting her at home 2/3 times a week, Im just so tired I still have to do the usual daily things every one else does. Now I have written that down I feel so guilty , god what a whinger I am. Sorry folks

Its good to get it off your chest.Dont forget we are in the middle.Have ageing parents to look after and still have children to look after and sometimes grandchildren.We are bound to get tired.I wish you good luck and you know what,you will still carry on doing it,cos you love her.Deep breathes and you will manage. Annie

You whinge all you like Frankie, its what we're here for. It was probably the morphine...my son couldn't eat while he was on it after he had his spleen removed.

Awww Frankie, I would be upset too. Chin up love, you aren't moaning, just concerned...we are here for you. All the best to you and your Mum. Tina x

Thanks every one , is it right to be in floods of tears after reading your lovely replies?

Frankie I'm walking this side by side with you........ My Dad's in hospital after an op, I'm worn out after working, rushing to the hospital and seeing him in pain, upset and wasting away, all he wants is to come home and I want him too as well, But I know when he does I'll have to keep checking on him, doing his meals, washing, ironing the list is endless and he isn't going to get better and I need to be strong for him and myself I have crap days too and at times have found this is the place to be, just to talk and laugh. Keep your chin up - I'll be thinking of you Joanne

Frankie You are not a whinger, you are a normal good feeling person, it's your Mum, and you want to do everything for her while she's poorly as she has always done for you. But as you say, you have a family and job to do also, so you will be exhausted and worried, your emotions will be top scale at present. Everyone is here for you and I really hope your Mum is on the mend very soon. Kim

Frankie, and Joanne, hope both your parents are better soon, it is hard to do all there is to do and stay calm, so come here and whinge or chat when you want/need to. I am sure they both know you are doing your best, and if you make yourselves ill, by overdoing everything, you will be no use to man or beast, let alone able to visit them. Take care, Liz

Thought about you today...and wondered how it was going.... (((((((((hugs)))))))))))) to you....hope you have a good nights sleepxxxxx