General Chat

Stacey You can change the way you think to fit in with others but trust me you would be more unhappy than you are now!! Just be you, you are young enough to have time on your hands to meet people that are genuine rather than sad people that go for looks only!!! Once you start liking yourself, then others will too!! xx

Stacy from one big gal to another.....those who have upset you are too far up their own backsides. One day they will meet a slim pretty plaything to hang off their arms, they will fall for her hook line and sinker...then she will dump them for someone who has a personality. Their time will come, what goes around and all that. Your time will come. You have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince, and believe me, he's out there. It always happens when you are not looking. you wont be on your own forever, dont settle for second best. it happened to me, and it will happen to you. I was with someone from the age of 16. He cheated on me when I was 19, I forgave him, we split up when I was 24. All my mates were part of couples, my best mate was married and had kids. I thought everyone would be taken and no one would want me. Had a couple of dates which were a no no, then went to a wedding a year later. got together with David and bobs yer uncle, Fanny's yer aunt, almost 17 years later, married with 2 kids and still happy. Had I stayed with one of those frogs, I wouldnt be happy now...im sure of it. Be yourself, wear what you want to, be individual, dye your hair, be fun....be racy....be who you are and celebrate that fact you are you. Elaine x

stacey, i was also very nervous , and i no what nervousness you are talking about, when i went to my first meet. i am having a quiet house warming one on sat, ive only met one of the girls but the ones that are coming are some of the nicest people i have chatted to on here if you want to come i will do anything i can to get you here, and i guarantee you will have fun xxx please pm if you want to chat love lorraine xxxx

I'm not brave enough to do that puss, I'm a really shy person when I haven't met people before. And knowing me I'd start to feel really nervous and sick and get there but not able to come in. I'm not good with things like that, but thank you I do appreciate all the lovely comments people have given me. I know other people can't really help me until I help myself so I guess I've just got to get myself to that point. Thank you, Sx

Hi Stacey Its their loss not yours they are not worth the trouble.. Why should you change the way you are for somone thats not right at all. You love the way you dress and colour your hair, it makes you happy to do that. Love is about loving for who you are not what you want to be for someone else. Be yourself and you will shine...

stacey this is the point they see you with having a mind of your own and belive people get jealous because they havent got the bottle to look different why be like everyone else, the way i look at it is if there talking about you they must find you interesting i used to dress as a punk one week/hippy the next, and thats what people would say oh i wish i could do that , do what you want and be who you want, and remember you always have yourself no one can take that away from you you have feelings which these bullies obviosly dont, and you have us why dont you come to one of our meets xxx love puss xx

Sally, no your words are not meaningless at all. Thank you all for your kind words, I just feel that this was the last time I can be knocked down and get up without feeling naff. I've been bullied and made to feel naff all my life and it doesn't seem to have changed in my adult life either. I'm trying to lose weight but it doesn't seem to want to budge. I like to have unusual colours in my hair but I can't help to think that if it was a normal colour and I dressed like everyone else then maybe it would help. Don't get me wrong I don't wear weird and colourful clothes, I just mean I wear wide leg jeans and well just different things to my friends. Sx

Stacey, some people like to hang around others with low self esteem, and who they think are not as pretty/lively/intellectual as they are.....in order to make themselves feel better....it actually says more about these friends of yours, and their shallowness.... If I can read between the lines, you have felt better, and have shown a side of yourself that is more confident and outgoing....if this is the case it may well be that they feel threatened by this budding swan who is appearing, and it is in their interests to keep you feeling unsure about yourself, or your appearance.... You can do one of two things.....either hide away and lick your wounds.....or come out, show these friends that this side of you is staying, and their words cannot sting you.... I may not be putting it across properly, and if this is meaningless to you, please ignore.....

I agree with Puss Stacey,these two saaad people have a problem,not you .it's their loss not yours ,my sister in law is humongous i kid you not ,but what a lovely person she is,which goes to prove ,it's not the outer you that counts ,but the inner.Fred.

Racey - if people say or think things like that then they aren't worth wasting energy over; who do they think they are?! Hold your head up high girl, rise above it and just be proud of who YOU are. Love and light Sylvx

The last few days I've felt really good about myself and have had a completely different personality. I'm usually a large girl with low self esteem and no confidence but that hadn't been the case lately (well apart from the large girl can't change that in a few days! lol). Until last night when two people basically said that they wouldn't go any where near me. I've know these two for over a year and thought that they had seen me for who I really am. But after their comments I feel like sh*t. I know I'm not slim and gorgeous but thought someone actually thought I was pretty. It's not even that I like them like that or would go out with either of them but it was just nice to think that finally things had started to look up. Sorry to moan I just feel like I want to hide in a dark hole. Sx

stacey love its them that have the problem, the only way it seems that they can make themselfs feel good about themselfs is to try and pull you down to there levell be strong and show them size or looks dosnt matter stand tall and ignore its whats inside that counts xxx