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Has a lot of you know i have my grandson.Son is going for custody.My grandson looked like a tramp so i have been out and rigged him out.Bought him a lovely coat last night and took him round to my sons to show him.Son has phoned me up tonight and told me i am spoiling him and his 2 girls need a coat.I bought his 2 girls a coat last year and there dog chewed them up.Mother of my grandson is unfit and at the moment he has been signed over to me.When i went to sons last night his oh went and got pictures my grandaughter had done at nursery to show me.He said i never paid enough attention to her pictures.Help Annie

Sounds like you're in a no-win situation - just try and do what you consider best fror grandson while he is with you. Jay

Well, is there any truth in what he says? (You don't have to tell us!!!) OC

I spent over 5 mins talking to grandaughter on her pictures.She is two and a half and she was not interested. Annie

Annie, all you can do is your best, and love all your Grand children. I think you are doing a grand job.

Annie I think you are doing a great job, not easy bringing up young children.

I must tell you my grandson has a different mum from my grandaughters mum Annie

I can understand this is hard.. I work with a women how has custody of her grandson . She has 5 daughters and about 16 grandchildchildren I think she treats them all the same.Its got to the point where she never has a minute to herself trying to please everyone as the others think their children are being left out..If she treats one the others get wind and are on the phone asking why theirs having got anything..Sometimes you can't do right for doing wrong.If she keeps it quite war world 3 breaks out...

Do you think its their mother who may be a bit jealous ?

I think Hayley has hit the nail on the head there. Your grandson is in your care and you must do what you think is right and best for him. The other children are in the care of their father and mother and it is up to them to do their best for them. No doubt if you had the daily care of your other grandchildren, you WOULD buy them coats etc if they needed them - Hayley is right, it's the mother who is jealous. OC

hes feeling guilty i expect at not doing it himself and how better to show that than take it out on mum sending you hugs, dont feel like your to blame, its not your fault, sounds also like a horrible situation for you all at the moment, hope he comes round soon and sees without mum hed be lost

Annie perhaps you should remind you son that his daughters are living with both their Mum and Dad and your g/son is left wondering no doubt where he fits in you give him all the love and care he needs it seems no one else will, Norah

Some people are never grateful it seems - I think you are doing a great job trying to sort your grandson out and maybe your son should look to himself a bit more, how come he didn't know how bad things were for the lad before all this blew up? I don't want to offend you by calling your son, but think he should be grateful you but any of the grandchildren expensive things like coats etc. You stick to what you are doing, Grannie Annie, you are doing your best and that is what will help your grandson, he needs stability and you are giving it to him. Well done. Liz