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i am adopted, and i have a tree with all my family details on and that its going great. However through recent searching i have found my biological mum who it seems has a family tree on here. How do i begin to contact her??? i really want to know about the family/s that i've never known but i dont know how to begin. Btw i'm only 19 yrs old. any help would be greatly appreciated as i'm lost for ideas

Andrew hello dear, have you looked on the tips board, there is a thread by Jess bow bag bobbin dog, for adopties ect, there might be some guide for you on there;;; Good luck;; Babs

No advice just my best wishes. I hope it all goes well whatever you decide. Susan

Andrew I don't know if this would help, but if you are a bit apprehensive in contacting her - post a message on the trying to find board - not giving too much detail but enough so that she would know who you are. Lin

Andrew have nudged the thread on tips for you;; Babs

I think a great deal of caution is needed here. Be very careful if you decide to proceed - it is a very sensitive subject. Liz

Is it your mother who has posted the details? you might get a clue from the name of the postee. If so you could ask this person if she is the same person you are looking for, without saying who you are at that time, and take it from there. If it's someone else posting then you don't want to stir anything up. You may not get any reply, as often happens, as folks change their e-mail ads without notifying genes. Good Luck

Hello, Andrew. At the risk of sounding patronising, well done you for thinking about this first; some folk go headlong into it, risking all sorts of disastrous consequences. I can't offer advice, but I wish you all the luck in the world. I say this from the heart, as my 16-y-o daughter could so easily be in your shoes, although we are in contact with her birth mother via letterbox contact. Good luck, and keep us posted, eh. Glenys :-)

Thank you to all you guys for all your advise, support and well wishes. I will keep you all posted on how things go. all the best andy

I'd have a read at the thread Babs nudged up for you, Jess knows alot about adoption maybe she can help you more. good luck catherine xx

hey guys, a quick update on what i'm planning to do with my difficult situation... i have decided after redinng all your replies and e-mails that the best course of action is to get her current address off the electoral register and write her a letter rather than go through this site. i feel that its much more personal (even though my hand writing isnt the best). i can only thank you for all the help advise and support you have given me... you've al been fantastic. On another note i have found that i also have an uncle(biological) who shares the same name as me.. spooky co-incidence as i went from a stephen andrew to an andrew stephen when i was adopted... thanks and i will keep updating when i get more news... ttfn.... andrew

Good advise given already. Jess has a lot of tips on the tips board. The only thing I can add is just take it a step at a time.It will also be a very emotional time for you all. Good luck xx

Hi Andrew I cannot give any advice but I would like to say that you are a very sensible 19 year old and which ever way you tackle this I hope and pray it all turns out well - you deserve it to. Mary