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So is love the opposite of Hate and should we love instead? I always remember the father of a girl blown up by the IRA saying he did not hate them and forgave them. I know I could not do this but for my the sake of my sole, should I?

Many thanks for all your replies. So the consensus is that hate is not good? But maybe by realising its not good some have managed to move on?

McDougall The hate was destroying me, if I had not walked away I woudln't be here today. Sorry can't go into details too many bad memories. Heather x

'hate' is self destroying, 'dislike immensly' is much better, get over it - harder to do but more beneficial. yvette

Many thanks for all the input. Heather - is it possible for you to say how the hate impacted on you, without going into personal details. Roxanne - your thoughts are similar to mine re hate getting in the way of resolving issues. Jean - Do you think it would have helped your friend to hate his ex or would it be better if he could have been assertive and maybe he would have come out of the relationship with better self worth?

you shouldnt regret it, your common sense kicked in,which is good. It wouldnt have achieved anything,these types leech off things like that.

Some years ago whilst walking through Chester I saw a group of men from the BNP. A young man was shouting abuse at them. I stood and shivered with horror and astonishment at the sight of them. These were the days before people were electing them to goverment. I have always regreted not going up to them and joining in screaming abuse at them.

What A good question!! and its true the word has been devalued. There are things I really hate and can say it with my hand on my heart. Racisim Child molesters/murderers. Animal abusers. I hate those 3 with a passion. And my hate is so strong that I could happily Injure the people involved in these things, I dont know if thats good or bad,probably bad because it wouldent achieve anything,I would end up In prison,so that wouldent change much. I surpose to change things you have to be neutral and not be too hot headed,which I am when it comes to those things. a very Interesting question.

I hated something I changed something and walked away. I feel much better for doing that. Heather

Hate something, change something, Hate something change something make something better. Never a truer word. If you hate something, then change it, if you can't change it, walk away!

Can HATE be good? The advert that is on at the moment for a car company has made me think quite a bit about the above question. The trouble is that the word HATE had been somewhat devalued. For example I often hear people saying things like: I hate bananas. I hate one of the contestants on Big Brother etc. They obviously do not hate them. They don’t like them or are irritated by some of their qualities. It has made me ponder about what I hate. Racist,? Bullies? But do I hate racist/bullies or do I feel sorry for them and wish they had had a different more tolerant upbringing? I hate their thoughts/actions rather than them. Those that hurt children and animals? Yes, I could hate them and definitely hate what they do. Hate something change something. Does hating something lead to changing something? Or does hate cloud your judgement and mean that you can never change anything because you are tied up with the hate. What are your thoughts?. Please, please do not let this get personal. I would value peoples opinion on Can Hate be good. Jeanie A.

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