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I was informed last week that my grandaughter is expecting a baby. Thrilled?...dunno! excited?...dunno! sad?...dunno! dissapointed?....maybe. She's only 17! You know the hardest thing thats troubling me? I have to take a back seat and let my daughter sort it out with her! No she isn't married either.The father wants to stick by her. This is her 1st love/boyfriend.I have always been in control and been head of my family. (brought three up on my own) She was given a time limit to make her mind up on all the options available to her. (one week) She was told that once she made that final decission, she was to stick to it. This I agree with as you cant mess about with time in this situation. My own views regarding abortion is....I would NEVER knock anyone that chose that route but what I DO dissagree with is.... you can have one up to 24 weeks! Thats far too long!!! I lost one at 23 weeks, years ago and I saw that baby! These days with modern technology and you can find out almost the following morning after 'you know what'......... Abortion time should be lowered to say....6 to 8 weeks...... except of course in life threatening situations. Never been a great Nan before and not sure how to handle it.Also I'm TOOOOO young! Aaaggghhhh!! What would you do? Gerri

Gerri, not a lot you can do its there lives and they have to live and make there own mistakes;;; You though can sit back and enjoy been a great nanna and congratulations;; I say there but the thanks in god;; my G daughter is nearly 19 and G son nearly 18 if it happens it does ;;; Babs

If you don't mind me asking how many weeks gone is she?

I think the same as you Time.My friends daughter had an abortion about a year ago and was told they do not do them before 16 weeks now. Annie

What can you do I suppose is the question. It's her decision. Obviously I'm not going to be much help in what ever I say, but it really is up to her

Gerri I expect you are still in shock at this news. The tough thing is, you can't do anything, except listen to your daughter and maybe your granddaughter if they want to talk to you. Your job is to be there, whatever decision is made. I guess motherhood doesn't get easier when they grow up and I suppose the same applies to grandmotherhood. nell

Im sure whatever they decide will be the right decision Gerri. My wife was expecting a baby at 17 and her Mum wanted her to have an abortion at the time. We decided to get married and our baby Tracy is now 35 and beautiful and a joy. Tracy herself had a baby out of wedlock at 17 how could we criticise her because the same had happened to us, Her handsome son Liam is 18 on the 12th of April and is a lovely lad , No matter what happens the child will be loved they always are. Davexx

The only thing you can do Gerri, Be there to support your Grandaughter, daughter and the expected baby. Babies don't ask to be born but, if the parent/s choose to bring it into the world regardless, it needs to grow up knowing that the support is there, as well as the love and care. Lin xx

Thanks everyone...typing this thread and seeing your replies has actually helped. Big hugs ((())) Marie....She has missed one period and about due to miss the second. I'm very close to Kasey. She's nanys little princess. Maybe we should both change our names?...'Great nanny Gerri' and 'Great nans big princess' LOL Thanks for helping :-)) Problem shared 'n' all that... Gerri x

It`s not the end of the world -my daughter had a wee boy age 16 , concealed pregnancy , now he`s nearly 10 , she`s gone to University and doing well . At least you know she`s pregnant. Rosalyn

keep you head up gerrijust add another name to your tree hope everything turns out ok tc

It's all very early then. It must be hard to think of her young life being so changed so early but I am sure she will make the right decision. Whatever she chooses she has the support of a loving family and that will see her through.