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My Eldest Daughter has just rung me, to say my other Daughter 25yrs has just found her Partners Uncle dead in bed. She is distraught. The Uncle lived with his Sister, both in their 80's. Their other Sister who lived nearby 87yrs was rushed into hospital yesturday. All have had chest infections, so my Daughter has been running backwards and forwards looking after them all over the past couple of weeks. They are all lovely eldely folks.

oh bless! Sounds as if it was a peaceful death!! may he RIP big hug for your daughter xx

It does not matter how old or how poorly they are it is still a shock when they go, RIP Roy

What a shock for a young lass,,,bless her,,

So sorry to hear this Jenny. What a lovely caring daughter you have... Lots of cuddles for her ((((((((((()))))))))))))))) and what a peaceful way for Uncle to go but a shock to those they leave behind. Love Maisie

Daughter has just rung me. She is absolutley broken hearted and is obviously still in shock. It was awful to hear her sobbing down the phone and has quite upset me to hear her so distressed. Oh why am I so many miles away from them, all I want to do now is hold her, and comfort her. Jenny.

Jenny so sorry to hear this. ((((((HUGS)))))) for your daughter. Juliexx

What an awful shock for her, Jenny! It doesn't sound like the easiest of times for something like that to happen. Hope everything that needs to be can be sorted out without too much further upset. CB >|< XX

What an awful shock for your daughter, Hugs for her. June xx

Was in a similar situation myself some years ago with my fil. It takes time for the image in your head of the dead person - which may or may not be similar to the person you knew in life - to be replaced in your memory by remembrances of them at happier times. But it will happen as nature has a way of resolving these things. Don't feel guilty at not being there. The grieving process is one for her and though of course you would be able to offer comfort at the end of the day it has to happen within. She must be a lovely person to have been so caring and that will carry her through. Angela

Hi Jenny, What a terrible shock this must have been for your daughter. Although she is very distressed at the moment, she will get some comfort from knowing that she did her best for him.(((hugs)) Jill

Once again, thank you for you replies. I have spoken to daughter again and she is still in floods of tears. I think she is in shock. All she keeps saying is, Oh mum I keep thinking of all the people I know who have died, please tell me Dad did not look like this. She was only 6 when her Daddy died and can only just remember him. I have assured her that her Daddy died very peacfully and looked really at Peace. Even I, who was present at his death was so surprised at how Peaceful his death was and how he looked so free from all his suffering. I shall give my Daughter a few days, then show her all your kind words. thanks. Jenny xx

Gosh Jenny it never rains but what it pours. I do feel for your daughter - such a shock for anyone but especially if she has been caring for him and his sisters. Do send her my best wishes and tell her to take comfort in the fact that she has been helping out and he died knowing he was cared about, and loved, not alone somewhere with no friendly face in his life. It's hard when you can't be there to give someone a hug but hopefully her partner will support your daughter and give her comfort. Hope you are feeling better now. LIz