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When our daughter was getting married in the seventies she only wanted a small do. We lived too far anyway for my siblings & families to attend & she was adamant that she didnt want too many people who we rarely saw to turn up & cost us money in food & booze & we wouldnt see them again for many moons. So we didnt invite my siblings & their familes,explaining that it was only a small do ,in a venue that was small. They all said OK !! we understand ,BUT Hubby & me were never invited to any of there kids weddings for the next twenty years. Didnt worry us tho !!! saved us lots of money not buying Wedding Gifts. So>> its your daughters wedding, it should be how she wants & go hang to everyone else. Our daughter had a brilliant day and said it was just how she wanted it!! Shirley

Ditto Paul yes s*d them xxhugxx

You only needed one answer to this and it was Pauls.....yep sod them

i agree with paul sod the lot of um have your party and meal, and those you originally wanted, if they dont like it they can lump it if they start say 'whoose day is it?' that should shut um up

Let your daughter have who she wants and don't let realtives spoil it. Had a very similar problem with my family over my daughters wedding. She invited aunt uncle cousins and partners none turned up because they all wanted to bring their kiddies ( where do you draw the line) didn't even tell us I had to go ringing round at the last minute only to get not very nice answers. Annoyed because I could have invited other people but too late would have looked like second best. We should have known as not one of them acknowledged invites even to the hen party. Jealousy sprang to mind. Forget them and enjoy the day I know we did. Thanks goodness her Dad's family didn't spoil it for her. Needless to say if her brother ever marries that side of the family is off the invite list. Don't insult me twice. Anyway have a lovely day. Germaine x

It's your wedding (well doaughters anyway) and you can do what you want to do. When My parents married they invited all Aunts, uncle, cousins and the church congrigation (there was not much choice to leave out the old biddies - mum's words not mine). My grandfather was one of 10, all married and most had at least 2 children. We estimated that mum had about 25 cousins and dad had about 10 in attendacne with 5 more who didn't go because of a diagareement. Add to that about 20 aunts and uncle - it was quite a big wedding. And mum gave my grandmother 3 months notice! When My aunt and uncle married they only invited mu mum and dad - civil service and no parents as uncles parents had a messy devorce. Dad's cousin invited everyone and their friend her brother inited family up to aunts and uncles but no cousins at all until the evening. It's your daughters big day and if she wants to only invite close family then thats her choice - and for all her cousins know the groom may have an army of cousins so they decided no cousins at all to save aurguments later on.

Thanks all, i have decided to tell them to go away! they are all invited to the evening reception and if they dont like it they can stay away. i thought everything was going too smoothly! i am determined that she will have a day to remember for the right reasons. Hevi

Let her have the small family meal that she was wanting before anyone hung a guilt trip on you. It's her day not theirs! - and Paul's right - sod 'em. Let them chew the bones out of that! My nephew and his fiancee cancelled everything - church, reception, cars - the lot because of interference and gripes about what they had planned and bu...whoops cleared off and got married in the Whitsunday Islands instead! Magsx

Your daughter must have her special day exactly as she wishes. I got so fed up of the bickering that I eloped to Gretna and NOBODY came. Ner ner ner ner ner!! I would invite everyone who might get offended to the night do and say the afternoon meal is for immediate (ie parents and siblings) family only.....either that, or stuff 'em! I hope your daughter has a very special day any how. :o) CLaire xx

thanks Paul echoes me exactly H

sorry this sounds blunt but, sod em! i'm getting married in september and it was getting to the point where it wasnt enjoyable but a pain planning it so in the end we sat down and said 'right, ideally what would we do'. and thats what we're doing. everyone else can either go along with our wishes and wish us well or get lost! lol!

Hi all just a bit of a dilemma and would appreciate your input my daughter is getting married in June and wanted a small close family members only afternoon meal. she therefore wasnt going to invite her cousins only aunts and uncles. then was made to feel guilty because there is only a few of them. however just learnt that they have all been away for a long girly weekend (aunts included) and not either told us or invited either her, myself or my daughter in law along. im of a mind to not invite them afterall to the afternoon meal but just to the evening, i hope this doesnt sound too petty but our little bit of family is never included in anything any of them do. Hevi