General Chat

Over the past few months i must have sent out about 20 or more e-mailes from my hot matches, i think i have had 2 replys. Even one of those horrible auto replys would have been better than nothing.I know busy people can't check there mail every day, but iam talking months. Why bother joining a site like this if you don't want to find connections. I am really fed up now, sorry rant over . Gill

No, you haven't sent me an email Gill, but thought I would pop in to say hello:-) in case you thought you were being ignored! lol XX BC

Unfortunately Gill, there are a lot of people who are lacking in basic manners and cannot even be bothered to offer a courtesy 'sorry, not one of mine'. Do not be too down heartened it happens to all of us and is no reflection on you, it is actually a poor reflection of the ignorance that is prevalent in society today. These are the same people who probably ignored me just after Christmas, when I was screaming for help in the street after I had slipped and broken my leg in 3 places, now that is ignorance and it prevails through every aspect of our community, from ignoring emails to ignoring cries for help. If they can be that ill mannered would you really want dealings with them? Chin up. Debbie

I am sure that there is nothing wrong with your name, I too have sent out many emails and I have been fortunate to have had some reply's, of a human kind.........no matches really, but the contact was nice.......Bob

I'm not suposed to be here but I have just popped in to tell you that it is possible that these people have not joined GR. Both my son & my first husband are listed but they have only joined FR not GR. Vivienne

I can't speak for all of them but a few may have passed away, have fallen terminally ill, lost interest and not asked GR to delete there accounts, some may not be paid members and don't realise that they can reply to messages. It's there loss not yours, you can still carry on your tree regardless. If you think there is deffinatly a match you could try mailing them again and ask them to acknowledge that they have received your message and offer not to contact them again if they don't want you too.

Thank's Buttercup, o Debbie how arfull hope you are feeling better now, bet you were in pain.I can't understand people i get really excitted if i get an e-mail from a possable connection even if it turns aut to be wrong, it's all part of the hobby. Gill

Hi Gill This week, I received a reply from someone I contacted before Christmas and she apologised and said she hadn't seen my message before even though she logs on to the site most days. I seem to remember someone saying that there were new messages in her in-box on here and she hadn't received notification so perhaps it's a problem with GR? Some people don't send a message but give you access to their tree, have you checked? Heather

Gill that happens all the time to me. Nobodys child... that's me....boo hoo Deanna X

Have checked my spam box. I check my mailes every day. It's just that nobody loves me i have to face it lol

Gill,, I think some peole are just pig ignorant, I have a link with someone on this site who has lots of family info matching mine but the thing that gets me most wound up is that she 'assumes' my mother was born in the same year and area as my father,,,in fact there is 14 years and over 100 miles between them, Iv emailed her and asked her to change it but she has ignored me, It makes my blood boil especially as my lovely mum is no longer here, Yep,,,some people are just rude and ignorant,

I agree Gill, it is courteous to reply, even to say sorry not mine. Granny

Gill Sometimes you find a relative on a census, sometimes not. Sometimes you find the right baptism in a register, sometimes not. Sometimes you wade through reams of lists of names without success. Hot matches is just the same. I ignored it when it started. Then a few days ago I went through 20 pages of it, deleting anything stupid, like people born on different continents from my lot. That left me with 2 pages of possible connections and HappyGenesErrors. I sent e-mails to all the possibles and was pleasantly surprised to hear from 3 people today. Two of them weren't related to me, but I was glad to hear from the 3rd. But I don't EXPECT any great results. I know this genealogy lark is often slow and hard work. nell