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I haven't had time to sneeze recently, let alone pop in for a coffee and chat with all you lovely people, so i book myself an afternoon off, no work, no housework, and definitly no Christmas preperations....and what happens.........someone heard my plans !!!!!

Some of you may remember that 2 weeks before Christmas last year, my son was heartbroked at the (unwanted) breakup of his 3 year relationship. It was really distressing to see him going to pieces, not helped by the timing and the fact i had a very excited 6 year old to deal with. This year it's my daughters turn!! She was planning to move in with her partner in the new year and at last night at her works Christmas party he broke up with her!! a week before Christmas and all their plans gone to waste...(not to mention the hugely expensive gift she had for him!!) She is so upset i can't bear it, and my now 7 year old is upset at seeing his sister crying!! I have persuaded her to go have a soak in the bath, but i am at a loss what to do to try and ease her pain. Sadly all the evil things i would like to do to a certain young man will not help either of us!! and i am now sitting here thinking of all the problems that will now come from this split, not only is it a housing issue for her, but all their friends are 'his' as he didn't like 'her' mates and slowly got rid of them, and she doesn't find it easy to make new friends. It is so much harder to kiss your childrens pain away when they grow up. Yvette

Yvette I really feel for your daughter - christmas is a tough time after any break up let alone one so close to this time. I'm in a similar situation after being dumped in July - we did everything together and mostly with his friends and his son. Now I have to spend christmas putting on a brave face. All you can do is be there to give her a hug - go out to the shops - whatever she feels she wants to do. And if she just wants to sit and mope or cry - let her !! Her hurt will heal in time, but it wont be an easy ride :O( (((HUGS))) to you both xxx

It's horrible to see your children upset, but better split up now than marry, have children and then decide to quit. Christmas is a miserable time for many as people are expected to be with loved ones and have a happy time. Maybe all your daughter's old friends will still be there for her - if they are real friends they will be. nell

Yvette, Why is it just before Christmas and New Year? My grandson and partner split up a couple of weeks ago. It is heartbreaking to see them hurting. June xx

This brings back a memory for me, Christmas 1989, I split from my partner of 5 years, it was a really bad christmas for me, I feel for her, things will work out for her they will honest. Roxanne xx

yvette, whatever i say,will not ease her pain,but my thoughts are with her,and yourself. bryan.

Hi Yvette, how awful for your daughter. Its hard watching your kids in so much pain, you just want to take all the hurt away from them. I suppose its part of life and we do eventually get over it but it seems so unfair. Sending you all good wishes and hope that she feels a bit better soon, bet you feel like punching him for putting her through this. Sheila x

Yvette, I'm so sorry for her. Don't know what to say except just hug her when she needs it and let her cry it out. Her true friends will be there for her, just as you are. Daisy

Yvette, It's a difficult time. However, he sounds very self centred, so perhaps your daughter had a lucky escape, but that is no comfort at the moment. Once the hols are over, could you persuade your daughter to join some interest group? It's one way of making new friends. How about her 'previous' frineds? Can they help. Despite things, I do hope that you all have a good Christmas Love Anne

wow that sounds alot like my last year crimbo when i broke up with my ex....it was my choice but it still broke my heart and last year was awful. 2 months later though i met aaron and a month after that we were living together. tell your daughter she is a beautiful young lady who has had a lucky escape from a pig who will only ever break her heart. give it a bit and she will meet someone who opens her eyes and melts her heart in the right way. give her my kisses xxxx

I'm so sorry to hear about this Yvette. You're a great mum so I'm sure you'll be able to provide her with the comfort, wisdom and love she'll need for the next few months. Like Steph I came out of a relationship at this time of year, and it's awful... but it gets SOOOOOO much better! Sending positive thoughts and healing love, Becxxxx

Yve, sending your daughter a BIG hug. No time is a good time to split. Hope she will feel more positve in few weeks. Anna x