General Chat

what i know today...i was adopted by my grandparents,because my mother was diagnosed as being mad,the poor lady was just suffering from schizophrenia,and today,i could have helped,and supported her back to being the mother she desperately wanted to be. and my beloved grandfather,who as a toddler,i would sit and watch screw his face up with pain,and knowing today,that he obviously had bowel cancer...oh how i wish,i could have helped them both. bryan.

It is so sad Bryan, so many people wrongly diagnosed in those days. especially easy for people to end up in an institution for some trivial reasons as many did. I read a book about a woman who was riddled with arthritis from childhood, in a mental institution as they had no where else to put her

Hi Bryan At least they had your love. They say hindsight's 20/20 and it's true. Don't beat yourself up hon. Juliexx *who is probably saying the wrong thing but is stuck for words.

It's hard to find things from the past, that might have been dealt with differently had we had more information at the time. But, whilst I feel desperately sorry for your mother, I think this would have been a huge burden for a child to carry. Perhaps you feel differently though.

Hi Bryan, how are you. I agree with Julie, don't beat yourself up, you were a child but it's probably those memories that have made you the good man you are today - out there helping other people. Good wishes jan xx

thank you for your replies,jan that's really nice of you. what has upset me most,is my english relatives,have always hidden the truth about my mother,i have had to spend years finding out the facts for myself,and i'me glad i did,because i now know,that today she would have received drugs to stabilise her condition. bryan.

Old habits die hard Bryan - people used to keep secrets and unfortunately some still do............'it's for the best' is a phrase I've heard a lot. Best for who they never did say though. This research can be quite upsetting at times can't it, all the things we want to know and need to know and then when we find out oooh it hurts. You wish you could have done something to help - and you are Bryan but now with your knowledge, it's other people benefiting. Take care Jan xx

Just sending you a ((((((HUG))))))) Jxx

hiya bryan my friend, let me give you a big ((((((((((((( hug))))))))) speak soon love xxxxxxxxxx

Bryan - Please feel some happiness from the fact that although you couldn't help your mum you've helped many people on here including me! Your mother would be very proud of you I'm sure! love becx

thanks to you all,i'me not very good at answering individual messages,but i read every message,and appreciate what you have had to say. think it reminds me,of the film 'back to the future' if only,we could use our knowledge,and heal those we loved,so we could ease their pain,and anguish. bryan.

Bryan you don't need to answer individual messages. Just remember we are all here for you. ((((((HUGS)))))) Juliexx

What we know now Bryan we have to give to the present and the future, I know it's frustrating, but we can't change the past. Too many what ifs? in my life at the moment but they have to go!!! Hopin you feel ok Kaz