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A friend of mine has her husband in a nursing home. He has been virtually unconscious for several months. They were (are?) a loving couple. Yesterday was a good day - he opened his eyes but doesn,t recognise anybody, and hasn,t done for ages. She has an inner conflict, which I probably don,t need to spell out.. Happy? days.

And i think my issues are bad!! Poor woman i hope she'll be ok!

Harry - it's dreadfully sad about your friends but it in no way diminishes the very real troubles that some people here do have.

Harry please send my thoughts and prayers to your friend, she has a very difficult decision to make and I for one don't envy her! Julie xxx

the poor woman, cant imagine what she's going through. In my times of trouble, I always say to myself, there are people out there worse off than me, but it never seems enough at the time. I will pray that she gets through this bad time. xxxxxx

Girls, My thanks to you for your messages. Won,t help the lady in question, other than via prayer, but increases my appreciation of the membership. Happy days

What a terrible dilemma. I don't pray, but send all my warmest thoughts her way.... XX BX

Harry that's so sad. I hope your friend can resolve her inner turmoil and be happy. Daisy

Must be like living in limbo for your friend, neither widow nor wife. She must feel so bad seeing her loved one in that state, with presumably no hope of him really recovering, yet unable to let go, or live a whole life. Maybe when she talks to him which I assume she does at her visits, she should 'give him permission to leave this world and wait for her beyond' - I have heard of people saying this in a fairly hopeless situation, and if said in the right way,it can help a loved one surrender to death in a gentle way, and with love to help them through. I hope I haven't upset anyone by suggesting this, but how long can someone go on in a state of limbo. Your friend needs to think of herself too. My thoughts are with her and her husband.

Hi Harry, I have witnessed this first hand working in a couple of homes and I can say it is hard to stand by and watch things fall apart....I only wish at this moment that things take a turn for the best and life turns out harmonious for them both...My love and sincere wishes are being sent their way.... Love Susie xx

Well.......can she 'be' with him in the nursing home? Some 'don't allow it'...... Stupid really!!!!!! Will look foreward to an 'update'.........HHHMMMMM Stel.xx

Girls, Many thanks for your caring and helpful replies. Living in is not really feasible as this has been going on for ages. She does not say so, but I feeleven a visit produces more negative thoughts than positive - and they really were a loving couple. Very, very sad. will pass your thoughts on. Happy days