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Its my sisters birthday. We haven't seen her or my nieces for 3 years because she has fell out with the rest of the family. My mum has been crying on the phone to me this morning. In october my parents went 100 miles on the train to try to sort things out. My sister trapped my dad's foot in her front door so they had to get the next train home. My little girl was a baby when we last saw them and doesn't remember then. Its so sad and I fear the next time I see her will be in sad circumstances.

aaaah louise that is so sad. i have no siblings, and have always wished i had some ! can you not ring her up- try and mend some fences ?

I am so sorry, Louise. I send you a special smile. :) Joy

I remember when me and my sister fell out it took a cancer scare 3 years later to get us talking again, I hope that your problem resolves it self very soon, until then here's some ((((((HUGS)))))) to help you feel better. Bev

Louise, Dont give up hope. Write your sister a letter putting down everything you feel. It will help you get your feelings out and let your sister know how you feel. It worked for me once I started writing to my sister it ended up 3 pages long, We are best freinds again now, it's taken a while but we are getting there. Let me know how you get on. mandyx

My sister's a mardy old moo as well, Lou. xx

Louise, I think it's a great idea to write a letter. You can think about what you want to write and it won't end with your foot being trapped in the door. My cousin fell out with me last year after being friends all of our lives (on and off at times lol) even my mum's death hasn't made her want to speak to me. It was all because she was jealous, but it was/is all in her head. She even told another of my friends that I wasn't talking to her. I've emailed her a couple of times and even sent her a birthday card but didn't get one back. I guess some people are just not worth the bother. I really hope things work out for you. Love Jack x

Thanks everyone for your advice. I shall have another go. My mum recently came across a cross on a chain that my grandma bought her when she was little. i'll send that to her. louise x

Hope you get it sorted there Louise, Mum's eldest sister had a 'fall-out' with the family for a number of years, then turned up just after Nanna died, to this day she regrets it so much... that's a lovely idea there about the cross and chain, hope everything works out for you :)

Same thing with my sister. Over the years she has been a real pain. Too many instances where I've been made to feel inferior and hurt. She caused a big family rift about three years ago. She then bought my children into by missing their birthdays etc. I then decided enough was enough and haven't had anything to do with her since. I decided why set myself up for more hurt. Dianex

I've got the TEE SHIRT Louise! God Bless you all. Just let your mum know, she is not alone. (((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) Deanna

Thinking of you Lou, sorry to hear things are still ongoing. Glenys x

Louise (and everyone else who is having family disputes/estrangements) I feel for you. But your nieces will one day grow up and want to find the rest of the family, hopefully. Maybe with time your estranged ones will want to get in touch. Tough I know. I am lucky in that no matter how much we all drive eachother mad, any one of my family would come - and I would go to them - with a phonecall. nell