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Someone very close to me has a partner who 'claims' he is divorcing his wife. This person however found out different at Christmas and I went with her to confront her partner at an address which he lived at with his wife. She confirmed they were still together etc. Against my wishes this person believed her partner who said he was living with his wife, but nothing sexual going on, just whilst divorce was going through! I however do not believe this is true at all and her partner is having best of both worlds. This person knows he rings his wife 3 times a day but still won`t wake up to the truth. I really want to do something, hire a detective, don`t want to see this person hurt! What can I do?I know you`ll probably say she`ll find out on her own but I can stand by and wait for that to happen!

OOOH THIS SOUNDS A LOT LIKE MY EX HUSBAND! wHAT A DIFFICULT SITUATION TO BE IN, rEALLY DONT KNOW WHAT YOU SHOULD DO BUT BE THERE TO SUPPORT YOUR FRIEND.

Sounds like your friend is being taken for a ride Kerry! His wife obviously knows and hasnt booted him out so he must have charmed her too! Its sad but your just gonna have to be there for your friend and support her whatever happens! All three parties know the score and believe the schmucks lies!! I've got the t-shirt if you mate wants to borrow it!! Just be a mate when she needs one!! Karen

Thanks Emma and Karen. Yes it is obvious his wife believed him!! He`s very funny with me now as he knows I know what he`s like. Making nasty comments, telling me how to look after our son, drives me mad it really does and I can`t keep biting my tongue

wow kerry ! rose coloured glasses or what ! surely your friend must have an inkling ? how about sit outside the house with a digi camera !!! or sit her down and talk some sense into her.... ooooh men !!!!!

Then why bite it Kerry!!! This guy isnt doing you any favours so why do him any???? I played hubbys game for 2 yrs before i found out the honest trurth for myself!! but the other woman didnt wanna play after i left him!! Karen

I know your right but hold my tongue...well I don`t know why. We don`t need a digi cam. We sat outside his house for ages on xmas eve deciding what to do, she didn`t want to knock the door, so I did. It was hard seeing her that upset but it had to be done.I had a chat with her over the weekend and she said she`ll handle it her way but I know that means burying her head in the sand!

Are there any kids involved Kerry?? If he has kids that puts a different light on things!! Get, beg, borrow etc a digi camera and find him with both your mate and his missus!! then blow his cover to all concerned. You may lose you mate for a while but the truth always hurts! Good Luck Karen

No kids involved. He has 2 grown up sons. You may be right Karen. I have a digi cam. Will have to do something! xxx

She may not thank you for it for a while Kerry, maybe she will get the sticky end of the stick but just tell her always that you were trying to protect her always!! Karen

Kerry I seem to be the first man to respond. My view is that you should be there to help and support your friend. I believe we should NOT interfere with other peoples lives. We may believe otherwise but we do not honestly know everything that goes on behind closed doors. Be the good friend you obviously are Kerry by being there for your friend. Gerry

Again thank you all for your advice. Guess I will just have to stand by and be ready to pick up the pieces. Thank you again everyone!xxxx