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A few years ago , I was rang up by the security at work to say that one of my men wouldnt be coming in because his wife had died, This boy was only about 30 so we were all very upset for him. The next day he came in work it was his father in law who had died . I said to him the lodge man had said your wife died. He said jokingly 'I should be so lucky' the very next day his wife died of massive heart attack she was 23 years old. I was absoluteley gutted , He was left with a child 4 years old . I went to see him he was so distraught he said 'Dave I didnt want that to happen it was innocent joke' I said course you didnt mean it Dean lots of people say things in jest. I was so very very sorry for that boy. Davexx

How awful for him. Joy

That is so sad Dave. I am sure he never forgot his words. BC

How sad for the poor man, But like you said we all have said things in jest probably thousands of times but it only takes the one time for it to come true. I hope his life got happier bless him Jan

Dave, what a very sad story. I do hope he got through it OK can't imagine how he must have felt. We all say things that we think are funny at the time and don't mean anyway. Thankfully not many of us have to deal with such a sad ending to an off the cuff remark. Jan

I know Jan I get upset about it every time I think about it and it was 5 years ago, he really thought that his innocent joke had caused his wife to die, and all he had made was an off the cuff remark that lots of us will make innocently Dave

I knew someone that the same thing happened to. Her husband of 40 was a grumpy man at the best of times. Anyway he got a nasty flu bug and she was runnig up and down the stairs looking after him as he was in bed. Everytime she went into the room to see to him he would have a go at her, he would also wait 'til she got to the bottom of the stairs and call her up again. She was becoming exhausted as she had children to look after as well. Well he continued to wind her up. She went upstairs, he had another go at her and she retorted by saying, 'Why don't you do the world a favour?' She goes back down stairs again and after a couple of hours she realises he'e not calling out. She goes upstairs to find him dead. She was telling me this story with tears running down her face, I'll never forget it. Then she said she would have to live with this on her conscience for the rest of her life. I felt really sorry for her. Jo.

O.M.G. that is awful. Poor lad, he will probably be a long time forgiving himself for what was just a joke. We ALL do it, but we dont all suffer like that. Deanna

that is sad and was totally unrelated to the joke he made before his wifes death but he probebly thought it was a curse for what he said.what a terrible time he must had have hadxxxx):

Dave That's so sad. Poor chap. Daisy

I have spoken to a mutual friend tonight who said my ex workmate is now in relationship with another lady and his daughter who is 9 now is fine and they are back on track. Dave

Chuffed for your mate. It is so easy to say things which later come back to haunt you. Hazel x

A similar thing happened back in 1977. Bonfire night ... loads of us kids sitting round the Bonfire on an embankment, laughing and joking. One kid decides they want a Hotdog ... so the rest jump up as well ... all accept one young girl who has no money. Some of the kids question why she has no money ? She says, Mother spent it all on booze. The bunch of kids walk away laughing as the young girl says ' wish my mother was dead ' Next day, girl doesn't appear out with the friends. Her Mother had died during the night .... in bed, too drunk to be sick ... asphixia due to inhalation of vomit. That weekend we all learnt a very valuable lesson .. becareful what you wish for.... but be extra careful what you say. Elaine :-)