General Chat

When taking a wife do you say 'can she make an Irish stew', can she sew, clean, play nurse, and all the hundred and one things that she is supposed to do (unwritten of course). Maybe you look just for a pretty face! Sylvia xxx

I think the words 'Do I love her ? ', and 'Does she love me' are more important. Most men can fend for themselves nowdays, and can also do the jobs once deemed as womens jobs. Elaine x

I think that a woman nowaday should be asking the question of the future husband! Whoever my daughter marries I hope he can do all of the above! Deb

I wonder why it is that women are always worrying about being a good wife/mother/daughter etc. I don't think men worry about this, do they? The men I know never say things like 'I feel so guilty, I haven't rung my mum/taken my wife out to dinner/done my share of the housework/gone to parents' evening etc'. Why do we women always beat ourselves up? nell

Someone once told me that you don't marry the woman you can live with, you marry the one you can't live without. Keith

Rather controversial that phrase 'love'. I know many men who have lost their wives and within a short space of time are living with another. Was theirs really 'love', or maybe I'm old fashioned! Sylvia xxx

I intend on (hopefully) marrying a man not a baby boy! Becx

Bec, I think you will find that the former reverts to the latter with alarming frequency - be warned!!! LoL CB >|<

There are a lot of sensitive, caring men out there. Just as there are a lot of insensitive, uncaring women! Sensitivity is not a gender thing. Deanna

Sylvia My dad was widowed at the age of 38. Within a year he was seeing a much younger girl than him for a few months. He was lonely....they split up as a couple and remained friends. This diddnt mean he never loved my mum, just that life goes on, and when you lose someone, we seek comfort and yearn to be part of a couple again . The next year he met my stepmum. He never forgot or stopped loving my mum They were together for 19 years before she suddenly died four years ago. He was devestated, he loved her as we all did. Today a female friend is cooking him dinner, dad says they are only friends, but as long as he is happy, i am happy. To move on, even if it is a short while after losing a partner, doesnt mean you have not loved the partner whom you lost. But the need to find friendship and love is always there. Elaine x

When i chose the woman to eventually be my wife some 32 years ago my ONLY thought was I LOVE HER and I hope she loves me. It took me 3 years to convince her that she did love me and we have been very happy ever since. Nothing else matters............... just love

Elaine, Yes, for your father it is understandable. I have had a good friend who died and within the next year her husband had found another. I couldn't accept her at all probably because I had such a good friendship with my friend. Sylvia xxx

Some men seem incapable of being on their own and that is why they look for another partner so soon after their wife dies. We have a friend like that. Others have enjoyed a loving relationship with their wife and when she dies they want to replicate that relationship. it is a compliment in a way. I would be happy for Tony to marry again if he found somebody to love him as much as I do. Ann Glos