General Chat

but the parents and the goverment for the sham display of disipline.saw on the news today an explanation from a headteacher of a school sayin that people like wayne rooney who has a bit of a temper on the pitch can play a part in childrens bad behaviour and other stars on tele.what a load of rubbish.why isn't every child going out and mugging old ladies vandalising peoples private property and just causing havoc and having asbos slapped on them.it's not the parents attitude to disipline and the fact that the goverment are taking a different view on disipline.no it's never their fault!!!!xxxxxxx(:

When I was a kid ...not that long ago.... We knew if we miss behaved in the village it would get back to our parents and we would get sorted out by them. If we were in town we would get our ears clipped by a copper Now Parents and Police have thier hands tied we are producing yob culture andd the governments partly to blame

A clip round the ear when I was caught misbehaving never did me any harm. I am saying no more.

Quite agree with you Malc,the parents can't even smack a child now for fear of being sued by the kid or some other do gooder,and i'm not on about beating a child which is always wrong ,the government have made a rod for their own back ,and when the young ones get into trouble ,and go to court it's the parents fault for not controlling their offspring. A well intentioned smack on the hand or back of the leg in extreem circumstances still has a place in society.Fred.Ptfg.&a&g&s.

Fred. several years ago when I worked for the brewery I went into town to pick up some road taxes from the post office. There was a gang of youths mouthing a couple of coppers (one of which I knew) so I asked them why they didnt sort them out. The reply. NOT ALLOWED TO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i blame the parents, they have to teach there kids right from wrong, and to show respect, to many young kids are running about getting in trouble and there parents dont even know where they are or in somecases dont even care, bring back the belt.

Angie Diddledoss - I absolutely agree with you - I am the parent - therefore what my child/ren do, they do because I allow them to. I firmly believe that (mostly) our children are what we make them. I also believe that if the law held parents directly responsible for their childrens actions, then more parents would make absolutely certain they knew exactly where their kids were and who with and what they were doing.

I agree too with angie and Lucy. My kids are only little but even now I feel responsible when they fight with their friends. It's my job to ensure they know right and wrong, nobody elses. I decided to bring them into the world, not Wayne Rooney, their future teachers or the local police!!

Im sorry to disagree but i can remember being a teenager - you tell your parents what they want to hear and you let them see what you want to see. I was just lucky that i wasnt in with a bad crowd. It seems that theres a lot less boundaries in general these days and kids push their luck more. Im sorry but i blame a lot on the do-gooders of society.

Once children get older they become more influenced by their peers than their parents, but also years ago any adult would tell you off and you'd take notice. Now if a 'stranger' tells a child off they take no notice. Whether this is because we encourage an atmosphere of not talking to strangers, I'm not sure. But I do know that when my son started at 2ndary school the head teacher spoke to new parents and emphasized that if a child at the school was disciplined they expected the parents to help by backing them up - clearly that is a problem, or he wouldn't need to say it. I knew that if I got into trouble at school my parents would side with the school! nell

I took my eight year son to his paternal grans yesterday.(I split with his dad before her was born).She said to me tonight when i picked him up'Anna you have done a brilliant job bringing Jacob up,you couldnt of asked for a better son'She said he is really polite,he says please and thankyou and does as he is told.It brought tears to my eyes as the Jacob I know is a little monster when hes with me but when he is out he well behaved.He watches the same films and plays the same video games as my 10 yearold nephew,who swears all the time and is always on report at school. Anna :-) I forgot to mention that I smack my son on his bum if hes naughty. #i used to get the slipper off me dad and it never did me any harm lol

Hi Sheila,Please dont apologise - we are all entitled to our opinions. Its because I can remember being a teenager that made me be the kind of mother I am. I remember telling porkie pies about where I was staying etc and getting away with it because it was never ever checked!! Hence I made certain that Georgie was always telling me the truth by speaking to the other parents and expected them to do the same. Also George knew that curfew time was a real boundary and that if she broke it there were consequences ie 'grounded' and thats what really really gets teenagers the most - take away what they really value - they hate it!! But I found it to be very effective.