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A programme about children who misbehave and drive their parents wild.....I am in my 50's and don't remember children like this when I was young and at school....am I looking through rose tinted glasses or have children really changed that much

It's not the kids that have changed but the way they are brought up with so much leeway allowed them they think that they are the grown ups

No children haven't changed that much. It is just that it is now 'Wrong' to give them the short sharp shock most of them need.

yes they have changed. will write more when it's finnished

I don't think children were that much different - although so many cases of hyperactivity today are down to the E Numbers and food additives. My brother was a nightmare until all sweets, fizzy drinks and other junk was banned from the house. I know my grandfather was extremely well behaved because he was terrified of his step-father, who used to beat him and lock him in a cupboard. What price discipline, eh?

I blame the small minority of parents, not the children, children have to be taught right from wrong & some parents don`t know when to disipline them & when not to. linda

well i did enjoy that! my 2 little boy's are now darlings'. if this thread is still going in the morning i'll submit some more. nite nite all

Oh my god....i will NEVER say my kids are naughty again!!!!

£150 spent on football men in the last 2 months? Surely that mother is actually rewarding bad behaviour. I will watch with interest in the following weeks to see if she learns to say 'No' and mean it.

No children have not changed that much they are suffering from the DEATH OF COMMON SENSE-See Yesterdays thread. Children thrive on stability and discipline.And I don't mean belting a child black and blue.They keep testing the boundaries to find out just how far they can go. They need firm parenting -then they know where they are. No - should mean NO and they should learn not to weedle as it gets them nowhere. Children are jut as delightful as ever ,it is the discipling of them which is letting both parents and children down. There should never be a situation in schools where a pupil can backchat a teacher after being abmonished with ''WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?'' What are you going to do about it? The nanny state has cut the authority right down to zilch.There has to be a redress. It will take time but it will come.The pendulum swings-Public opinion will drive it back. Rose

After 35 yrs of teaching I have seen the range of behavioral problems.A lot of a child's bad behaviour stems from the mother's attitude.So many mothers will belittle their own authority within then family unit by such comments as''You wait till your father gets in'' The message this is sending to the child is that Mummy has no authority and Daddy is an ogre-which is a shame.

i did notice the tv in each child's bedroom. i made that mistake, tv on for bedtime thinking they would relax and drift off, but no. in the end i told them tv was broke and i'd take it to the shop for the man to fix when mummy had pennies. now they read a book in bed and drift off. zzzzzzzzzzz children need to be disiplined at eye level for them to fully understand you, this way they don't feel to threatened and rebell. i now talk explaining things in a way a child would understand, i find it much easier.

With 3 young boys of my own, I offered to help my brother and his wife by looking after their 2 children for a week (usual child minder unable to that week) so they could both go to work, the son has ADH all of the children were aged between 1 and 10, my brothers son had been naughty, so I said to the girl, bring your swimming stuff tomorrow, with that the boy got excited swimming I love it, then I dropped the bomb shell...no Dan not you treats are for good boy's and girl's, you have been naughty, with this he started to cry, but I love swimming, then I told him if he was going to be good for the rest of the day then he could, but if he carried on being naughty then no he couldn't he would have to sit at the side and watch, the rest of the day passed with out any more trouble from him, the next day we all went swimming, the lesson he learnt from me was good behaviour got treats, bad behaviour got no treats, the rest of the week went very well. Bev

good for you Bev In the short time I have been a parent (4 years) I have had to learn as many things as my children, the main one being that children need to know your expectations of them. This means you have to be consistent with what you say. Very hard when your little darling is having a tantrum in the shop because she can't have sweets. I don't have too many problems with mine but I use the sitting on the bottom stair routine if the behaviour gets out of control which means they have time to calm down and I don't smack them in my frustration and anger. Being a parent is the hardest job I have ever done and there are days I would gladly swap with hubby but all in all I feel blessed to have 2 happy healthy girls.

i feel that you actually have to go back a generation or two. a lot (not all) of the children of very young Mothers have parents who were not taught discipline. It suddenly became the 'in' thing to let the children do what they wanted. (The permissive society). Now this may have worked with some children But most need to have boundaries set or they are not happy. Unhappy children are disruptive. A lot of young parents are still looking for love, only now they look to their children or it, if they discipline them they think their child will not love them, so they let them get away with bad behaviour. This is a very general view I know and there are some wonderful parents around and some beautifully behaved children. I am sure the good ones are in the majority and we only hear of the bad ones. Ann Glos