General Chat

Hi, I was a bit apprehensive in the beginning - not so much now though. I've had a great reponse to the (rare) threads I've posted and must admit everyone has been really friendly so far. Magi

Thank you for the encouragement, Nell. I've just been thinking, perhaps it's best just to read the thread rather than get involved. Yes, I'm wimping out again! Glenys x

Margaret I thought you slept during the day because you worked nights. Now I know its because you are zonked with valium and wine!!!! You need to come and have coffee with Viv & me! Glenys There have been several threads about Charles/Camilla/Diana and as far as I can see all views have been aired. So don't be put off - it you want to say something, please do! nell

Yes, I was going to join the thread about Camilla v. Diana, but mention Charles' finances (which was mentioned on the news earlier this week). Then I thought no, I might get shouted at! So I wimped out.

I get very nervous, I got shouted at once, and even though it's only on a computer, it really shocked me. It was on a really delicate matter, about a problem in families, I dared to dissagree with someone. It taught me not to but in with those experienced members. Sue :(

No I don't. I'm careful how I reply, but if it's a debate then I will voice my opinion because I would presume that, that was what was wanted. As far as I know I hav'nt upset anybody, or if I have then they hav'nt let me know. Jo. X

No. Mainly because i dont respond to threads that look suss. If i started a thread that looked like it was starting to get out of hand, i would just delete the whole thread, then there can be no arguement. End of story. The main thing here on these boards i feel ( my thoughts only) is to remember that every single person will be in a different mood when they come on board. This is where you have to look hard at the heading of a thread, and try to determine the mood of the person listing it. If its a negative thread, i dont repond. That means one less person to argue with. Tony Oz

Well said Gwynne! nell

Hi, I've been around about 2 years (I think) I don't get nervous about posting. I have occasionally thought better of posting something but not from fear - rather that I can't find the right words to express what I want to say so decide not to say anything. I always read through everything before clicking, not just to check spelling and punctuation but also to ensure that I've said what I want to say. It is very easy for people to misconstrue what you are saying on the boards (and on mailing lists and newsgroups). I have had disagreements with others but only on matters of opinion and their responses have always been politely written. I also try to express my opinions in a polite way. If I think a thread or a reply is a deliberate attempt to cause problems I ignore it. No one should be afraid of posting but it would be nice if everyone tried to be aware of the feelings of others and 'minded their manners' - as my Mum would have said. Gwynne

Thats true Kaylene, expression says more than words. We just have to try to be tolerant. Deanna

I have sometimes typed a reply had second thoughts and not bothered adding it. I also think twice about what I write - I would hate to hurt someone's feelings unintentionally. It is easy to read something and take it thw rong way - easier when face to face to realise the way it's really meant! Kaylene that is sad!

not nervous no, but sometimes I hold back because I know what the reactions will be. Some people take things completely out of context and jump down your throat, but so long as you're (relatively) polite and truthful in what you say, they end up looking foolish.

We are all just PEOPLE like you....no better , no worse. Dont worry,if you realise you've said something wrong delete it. You could always apologise too. Deanna

No. I do try to think about what I am going to say, and I read my post through first to check I've not made any spelling mistakes etc. Once I did post a rather sharp reply to someone and after about 5 minutes I deleted it as I thought it wasn't really for public consumption. Once someone (who I haven't seen on the boards for a long time) sent me a private e-mail telling me to mind my own business, but I have no idea why as I hadn't posted anything on any of her threads. I replied to her saying I was sorry if I had offended her but I didn;t know what she was on about and she didn't reply so I am still in the dark. If you want to say something, say it. We are supposed to have freedom of speech in this country and provided you aren't out to insult/abuse anyone, you are as entitled to voice your opinion as everyone else. nell

Yes i do- always worried that i might say the wrong thing. Not long in answer to how long have i been doing the boards.

Kaylene, you dont mean that do you? Deanna :O(

Yes often, but I'm getting better the longer I'm on thwe boards. Do you, how long have you been on the boards? Deanna

nervous about answering a thread?