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i have forgiven my father for my bad childhood and after 13 years of not talking we are in contact and hoping to go and see him.he has never seen his grandaughter in the years that she has been here with us.he has health problems and i felt that life is too short.that is wht i mainly put up this thread and also about all the bickering and bitching that has been going on lately.life is too short remember thatxxxxxx(:

If someone has done something to upset me personally, I don't tend to bear a grudge, neither do I dwell on what they've done - that leaves a constant black feeling and a sense of unease. I don't want to have my life blighted by the stupid actions/words said or done out of spite or thughtlessness - they were the thoughtless ones not me!! If their conscious doesn't tell them they're in the wrong they're not worth bothering about. Having said that, I do have a good 'slagging off' session about that person with a friend! However there are certain members of my family whom I never had much to do with who, after their recent treatment of my mother I will have absolutely nothing to do with! But that's because I don't like them!! maggie

don't really want to explain paul.xx(:

mwybe you should forgive elaine.it can turn people very bitter when you don'txxxxxxx(:

good one elaine.i could say that about alot of people.LOLxxxxxxxxxxxxx(:

joanne just put it into words for me i forgive a load of stuff thats hurt me but yes i hold a grudge and things that hurt you badly you never forget then you have to find trust

I really do think it depends on what you are being asked to forgive! Every day squabbles, yes! no problems.. Things said in the heat of the moment... yes! no problem.. But, sometimes, when some-one has hurt you so deeply and scars are there everyday, then forgiveness is a lot harder.. I have one person that I would never forgive.. and I hope that I am around when the day comes that this person gets their come-uppence!! I will rejoice!! Mazzie xx

There is only 1 person in this world I will never forgive and others I may forgive in time but I will never forget as I know they will do it again. But if the people really meant it yes I would forgive but they would have to prove themselves that it wouldn't happen again.

I can never forgive certain things. I just can't, I've tried but the scars won't heal. I try to be a good person and not do anyone an injustice. But I cannot, it's like trying to wrench my arm off. Sorry. Jo.

I can forgive most things, usually the minor everyday snipes and arguments. But there is one person on this earth that will never, ever be forgiven for what he did to me and my family. I really hope he rots in hell where he deserves to be. If that makes me a bad and wicked person, so be it. What goes round, comes round and one day he will get what he so richly deserves. Maggie

Jean Of course you can! :-) Blow your own trumpet! nell

yes helen ,but I cannot take the credit for the strength given to me......

FORGIVE? Nah.... Love a good grudge Elaine x

Jean Forgiveness often requires great strength, I don't think it is weak. nell

well ,I'm definately a weak person, and I forgive.....

I pretend or even try to forgive but always carry a grudge. I think it depends on what you are trying to forgive!!! Once betrayed never forgotton.....

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Mahatma Gandhi and I agree with him. Gwynne

Jean I see myself as that little old lady right now..... Maybe not that old.... Elaine x

Elaine , love your little old lady story......once i found it very hard to forgive , but now I'm older,life is to short not to forgive, hard at times but i always feel better and can move on in life

Yes, ask all those who posted on the "bring back hanging and flogging" thread who believe in an eye for an eye if they can forgive. I guess it is easier to forgive things that haven't upset you much. nell