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according to news he said sorry to his sister for everything he has put her and her family through, the way the news spoke he even made up an alibi to cover his tracks and disposed of the clothes with blood on them. It makes you wonder what went on at home was the truth if he can lie about what happened why not admit it right out if she was that bad or is he lying. I know what it is like to have a child lie about you and make you out to be some evil monster when you never did anything wrong

I can imagine that he has endured years of her carping and put-downs.Unfortunately this time he had a hammer in his hand.I am not excusing him,but I know only too well the feeling that you can never do anything right,no matter how hard you try.She probably laughed at him just once too often. He will probably have a psychiatric report and full assessment of his mental state at the time of his crime.He will get help.I am not condoning his actions-but I can understand how it happened. I can remember holding my mother's hands when she went for me for the last time.I was 15,she suddenly realised that she could not hit me ever again.I just said quietly to her as I was in full control,'Don't ever lift your hand to me again' I left home when I went to Uni and never went home again-Rose

I was one of eight but my mum as always put the kids first I always tell my mum you gave us now it is our turn. My boys 18yrs, 12yrs and my 6yr old are told everyday that I love them don't get me wrong I do love my daughter I just don't like her and I can't let her hurt me again. I would have not hurt my kids for the world they mean the world to me and I show it. David has been in and out of hospital since birth and I was there, My daughter was in and out of hospital till she was 4yrs old I was there all the time my ex went to see his daughter once he went to see david only if his brother was going up which was once. I haven't spoke about everything that has happened to me in my life you know I could write a book as that is what it is like

I am 1 of 4, we were all brought up with the knowledge that if the pill was about none of us would be here, my mother never wanted kids......for the past 3 years we have not spoken, due to some thing her 2nd husband did, she never even asked me if it was true or not, she just decided that I was bad, and stopped speaking to me, the worst was I didn't know any thing, when my new husband of only 5 months had to go into hospital for what we thought was throat cancer, I phoned her, as you would wanting mummy, and that is how I found out what had been done said and decided. My kids all know that every one of them were the most wanted kids ever, I tell them regular that they are loved. Bev

My ex is a control freak and my daughter is like him, she likes to tell me what to do but my 6yr olds dad won't let her and she doesn't like it last time I seen her in the flesh her brother who is 12 yrs old wouldn't stay in same room with her I asked him why he told me mum I keep remembering when she tried to get us took of you I told him not to worry it won't happen he said you are the best mum she doesn't know what she has lost because I don't trust her anymore and neither should you. 2 weeks later she was not talking to me again because she is talking to him, so I can't give her another chance to hurt me again it has been like this for 8yrs. It would have been different if I had been nasty to her then I could have seen her point but I wasn't

Valerie, That's awful! I'll never understand why that sort of thing happens in families, but there's so much of it. I've been told that what happened to me was probably due to how my mother was treated by her own mother, but my Grandma wasn't like that, nor were my aunts and uncles, just my mother. I'm lucky my son has a very good relationship with me and his Dad. I've always tried to be as little like my own mother as possible, but I do have her temper and find it difficult to control, although I've never mistreated my son. Best wishes, CB >|< X

I agree the worst of it was my son has METHYMALONICACIDURIA and ADHD and nearly died at 2yrs and 6mnths so I was not standing by and letting him away with it my daughter only talks to me when she needs things this time I won't be though told people I broke her nose and her dad had to pull me off which was a total lie now I just don't have nothing to do with her easier without contact as she seems to get a kick out of hurting me and she has done this since she was a kid her dad can throw her in street at 16yrs old his girl friend took all her things but if you say a bad word about him she gets angry. Everything they had bought for them was me but after I left he told her I never wanted her yet my kids don't want for anything and last year she got new house I bought £100 things for her then she stabbed me in the back figuretly cause she is talking to her dad

When I was a teenager, my mother was always threatening to put me in care for the slightest little thing! She only ever criticised me, never any praise no matter what I did well or right. I wish I could have left home sooner than I did, but I didn't have the confidence to strike out on my own because of the way she treated me. If only my Dad had lived longer, he wouldn't have let her get away with it. I sympathise with anyone in the same situation. It's hell. CB >|<

val thats awful.i have a very dim view when it comes to social services.they seem to target the good parents and not the ones that are abusing their children.that is why you hear so many stories of it in the paperxxxxx(:

My exhusband was abusive to my son from the age of 6yrs old till he was 10 yrs old he wouldn't tell me as he was scared I would get it anyway I caught him so I took my 2 boys and left what happened to him nothing police did not charge him because he admited it but said it was only once told our daughter he did nothing she believes him so I am the bad one and she even told social services I was an unfit mother and the boys should be put in care yet everything the kids had was me skrimping and saving to give them things they needed I even went with out shoes so they could have some

Bet there's a few mothers could murder sons sometimes, as well!

Isn't life so sad when you have no love and support in your life. I never had things in the extreme like you are talking about but have felt rejection all my life. My mother was never affectionate or loving to me. I can never remember her cuddling me as I was growing up. I'm 44 and even now still feel on the outside. My Dad was better but I got married at 19 and have relied on myself ever since

camberwell i had the same from my father.but decided to pack my bags and leave at 16.i am a better person now though and have vowed never to pass it down to my daughter which can so often happenxxxxxx(:

That's very true, girls. I can understand that situation. When I was growing up there were many times when my mother pushed me to the limit. Once I reached 14, I was bigger than her, and I told her if she ever hit me again I'd hit her back. That finally stopped her, but the verbal abuse continued for many years whenever she felt like it. CB >|<

i suppose diane .you would grow up feeling worthless and useless.i bet that is a horrible feelingxxxxxx(:

If thats the one in Colchester there was a piece about it in tonights local paper, another woman is claiming the son was treated quite badly by the mother all the time he was growing up. Don't know how true it is and it doesn't excuse what he's done in any way, but if it were true I suppose some people snap after putting up with so much for so long.

make sure there are no hammers lying about!!!LOLxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx(:

Oh Help! David's out tonight straight from work. I'll be alone in the house with my son! WAAAAAAAAH! CB >|< (Just off to put the toolboxes in the Garage and hide all the kitchen knives.)

read in the paper that a man killed his mother after she taunted him about his diy.what is the world coming to/he bludgeoned her with the hammer he was using to put up some picturexxxx