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Last night I watched a programe about a 13 yr girl who got pregnant .When it began I was muttering under my breathe. However it film her during her labour and she was crying for her mum.....her Dad said "if anyother young girls are watching this let this be a lesson to you . She was'nt your normal run of the mill scally she had desent supporting parents.They filmed her after the birth and she looked so young and tired and my heart went out to her. She was cut 3 times and had to have over 80 stitches. She returned to school to finish her education and by 15 yrs old was a well balanced young Mother. ......a real eye opener it was .....

Made me think I have about 3 in my tree who babies at 14yrs wonder what it was like for them ?

i had my first at 17 and yes it was hard specially as i had no family help really but i believe that young mums who have the support can be a real mum, i know that 13 is young but at least she has taken on the responsibility and even contiuned at school alot of mums that age do it to move out! (pls excusre spellin) xx

Sadly Hayley, I don't suppose the young girls who should have watched it did? I didn't see it but I see these very young Mums around town and I wonder whatever happened to childhood.

Having said that i see some very good young Mums who obviously care for their children and discipline them well (I also see the opposite side of the coin), and I still think, even if they are happy with what they have, they have had no life really.

Ann
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MY DAUGHTER HAD HER SON AT 16 AND 3 MONTHS ALMOST 12 YEARS AGO , NOW SHE`S AT UNI TRAINING TO BE A SOCIAL WORKER .AT THE TIME IT WAS HORRIFIC AS IT WAS A CONCEALED PREGNANCY AND I WAS A MIDWIFE , BUT HE`S A SMART WEE BOY AND SHE`S DONE WELL NOW

I had just turned 18 when i had my eldest and it was very hard and very scarey but i think it made me strong as i had to not only bring my kids up but battle against the stigma that people put upon me. The one thing many people dont realise is how much young mums have to cope with many times alone, its not something to be taken on lightly. Now im a nan at 36 as my eldest was a teen mum too but she, im proud to say has taken on her responibility really well and said to me the other day she cant imagine life without her baby now and understands how hard it was for me bringing her up.

Jax xx

I know a lady who had her daughter at fifteen. She worked three jobs when the girl got older to put her through Uni. She never had much of a life of her own,and never had a relationship again, but now the tables have turned in a good way. She is retired and living with her daughter and her family. Time is now spent enjoying the grandchildren. Bless her.

I was not really referring to 'young' mums of 17 + but more the very young 14 and 15 year olds. I was only just 21 when I had my first and even that was considered young then.

I remember my Mum saying when i phoned to tell her, 'Oh no, you are much too young'. Mind you she idolised our daughter.

Ann
Glos

i think if your 14 or 24 you need to have family support becuase being a mum for the first time is the scariest thing most women have done i remember just after my daughter was born and everone left that night while i was in hospital i layed there thinkin what if she wakes up and when she did i picked her up and put her against me and she stoped and thats when i knew no matter what i was goning to make sure that i was a mum to this child and that i wud cherish her

I'd be dissapointed if my daughter came home pregnant at 14-but at the end of the day I'd never turn my back on her and she would have my total support-the only thing I can see us not agreeing on which I would be devestated about though is if she decided to terminate the pregnancy-I know it would be her decision but I would be heartbroken
catherine
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14/15 is very young to have a baby and i think they should be made more aware of how hard it is looking after a baby and how much you have to give up before they take on the responsibility.

I know when Cher found out she was pregnant, i was the one who had a feeling she was and got her a pregnancy test. I sat with her while she did the test and she was too afraid to look so i was the one who told her she was pregnant, the look on her face will always stay with me she was so scared but i talked to her and told her that she has a very important desicion to make and that no matter what route she took i would stand by her and help her the best i could. After a week of her and her boyfriend talking they decided to keep the baby and my Cher started to blossom as she started to love her unborn child. I went with her and Rich to all the appointments which they asked me too and was there at Trinity's birth, it was very hard seeing her in so much pain and hearing her pleading with me to help her but she gave birth naturally with only gas and air for help. Since that day i have seen my daughter become a loving mum and young woman before my eyes. They still go out from time to time when the baby stays with us or her other grandparents. Yes they do miss out on their freedom but for Cher and Rich they have truely embraced parenthood and im so proud of them both.

I have told you all this story to show you all if the young girls have support and guidence they can become decent parents.

Jax xx

I was a young Mum myself 17 ,6 weeks before my 18th bithday.I rember feeling scared and told no one thinking if I dont say any thing and not think about it will go away. 6 weeks before he was born I told my mum ...he was born at 27 weeks and we nearly died as I had pre- e........cant spel it.

My son is 22 now and has turned out a decent lad. I am ever so proud of him he is a credit to me.....

I can see the point the father was trying to make, but honestly, this young lass has a right to privacy. Giving birth is one of the most intense and personal experiences we can ever go through and this girl had her labour televised.

I don't think the father really thought long enough on the matter.



Deb