General Chat

Just pm'd you Mary.
Caz, I do hope things can be healed with you and your family, but my heavens, you have had a hard time and they should be grateful you did as much as you did for them, under such difficult circumstances. I bet you put them first all the time and went without yourself. Bless you, love.

Kerry, well done for presenting yourself so well at the interview. What a shame about the hours of the job which might make it difficult for you to accept. Still, you have had the experience of an interview and getting offered the job so you have to feel proud of that and try again.

Jude, I saw the woman from MIND and she is the therapy manager and is going to see me for four weeks of hourly sessions of counselling, going back to my childhood which I know is where my problems lie, and then go on from there if she thinks we are getting somewhere. I would phone MIND and see if they can offer any help to your son. I do hope so. Wish him luck from me with his plastering etc.
My lad wants to try and learn a trade but at 25 he has left things a bit late, he has a flat and expenses and can't get any help to do a course, so is stuck. If he was out of work he would get help but altho he is working it is a bit of a dead end job and he is getting fed up, says he wants more of a career or trade. So hard for youngsters, if they don't go down the uni route with grants when they are younger.
If anyone wants a good laugh i.e to see my pic, pm me with your email address and I will send you a photo, but will say here and now, am not taking responsibility for any heart attacks or hair turning white etc etc
love to you all
Lizxxx

Congrats Kerry, well done, we're proud of you.
Caz we're cheering you on too.
Liz, hope to hear you're OK.
Jude, as a parent of an intellectually challenged adult daughter, with OCD, panic attacks and anxiety issues, I know how hard it is to find just the right person with just the right approach to break through the wall. My daughter also just doesn't fit in the usual profile required by different programmes. She, bless her heart has no concept of how challenged she is, appears "normal"(whatever that is),thinks she can do anything anyone else can, including mingle with her peers, only to find, some are too intellectual for her, or in the other extreme, are more challenged than she is. These special "children" become our mission in life, joy and sadness mingle some days, after 38 years I can honestly say this is a very special spirit who happens to have a problem. I am so grateful for all she has taught me. I send you special hugs.

The snow has stopped, the freezing rain, which followed, washed most of the snow away - today, driving to work I was struck at how beautiful a sight I was passing. It's what they call here a "silver thaw" - every tiny twig & branch on every tree is encased in ice and the sun was out, causing a silver shimmer in every orchard and grapery I passed. This is the wine-producing part of Ontario, so there are orchards wherever you look. Lots of fruit bargains in the summer!
I went for my second-to-last physio treatment today, and he decided to try taping my knee-cap to keep it aligned better - surprise, surprise, the pain is gone. Apparently it's taken 64 years to figure out that my knee's a funny shape!!!! Well if I'm going to fall apart, I suppose it's better to start near the bottom!
I'm heading to bed, night'all.
Hugs
Mary

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Kerry well done. You must have made a good impression. Hope you take the job.

Jude, hello I was sorry to see you so upset today. Things are going to get better for you. Your son is trying so hard isn't he. He will get there, just needs some support, which he is getting! xxxx

Caz well done for getting back on here. It was really good to see you here. How are you tonight? Been thinking of you loads today.xxx

Mary hope you are getting sorted out at home. Is there a lot of mess? Is it still snowing? xxx

Ann G/G your input on here is fantastic thank you so much you are a darling xxx How are you?

Dave if you see this have you had any news re your job interview yet? xx

Liz, how are you?

Rubyslippers - how you doing? Is OH on his way home yet?

Thanks Ann...!

well done Kerry, knew you could do it girl!!!

It's at a private school near me and the job itself looks great,just what id like to do but i thought as its school id only be working term time to fit in with my little ones but id have to work half terms and dont think i can get anyone to have my children for me...

K

Well done Kerry. why wouldn't you want the job after going through the interview. Was it not what you were expecting?

Ann
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Congratulations Kerry for getting yourself through it n having an outcome to be proud of....

Sleep well all....N'nite xxxxxxx

Just to let you all know,i got offered the job i went for today and i didnt get anxious at all (well maybe a little on my way there) a couple of squirts of rescue remedy and i was fine again...All i need to do now is decide if i want the job...
Hope everyone is feeling good and thinking happy thoughts.
kerry

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Hello GG Ann:o))

l have wiped me nose. sorry about that. l was just telling Pusser all about it and was fine, then came and blubbered on here.

Thanks for those suggestions, will look into it and have a chat with son tomorrow:o))
l am looking at The Mind charity to see if they have any off shoot sites that might help.

cheers for that:o)

jude :o) xx

Oh Jude, how very sad. How about voluteering? My best mate is Co-ordinator for Voluntary Services with our local health authority and she places people to work on wards and other places within the health service. They get meals provided I'm sure. That might be an excellent starting point to help regain his confidence and mix with other people. Also are there any projects around your area that need someone with his skills in plastering, papering etc? Something like Age Concern springs to mind - doing things for old people [like me!] who need a spot of decorating? Now dry your tears and get your thinking cap on Jude!!!!! Lots of love, Ann XXX

Me again:o)

Can l ask if anyone knows of a place that helps people get back to work and build confidence etc and help to make someone understand that they are such a lovely genuine person and very capeable. My son is working but hates it and wants to gradually work for himself in plastering, painting & decorating. He has done some private plastering work and is very good. He's at college doing the p & d, don't know how he has managed to keep that going bless him and started Karate this week. He finds all this very difficult going into places with lots of people, not so long ago he would have been convinced that most of them were the Devil - although that seems to have gone, he's still not completely convinced that there really is no such thing.
Someone in a 'church' convinced him at the time that there is such a thing, she read a section from the bible!!!!!!! he wants to be well enough to go back and tell her how much damage she very nearly did!!

l'm crying now so willgo

jude xx

Hello Caz - oh bless you. Please take care. Hopefully one day very soon all this will be behind you and they will see how it has hurt you and apologise.

love
jude sarf wales xxxx

How great to see you back again Caz - as you can see,, we have all been terribly worried about you. As you say, I am sure that they are lovely children but they made one ghastly mistake didn't they. So glad you have a lovely OH to support you. It's early days isn't it, but I hope with time, and not too long a time, they realise the error of their ways and have the decency to put things right and heal things with you. Don't worry about what you look like honey, none of us on here look like Catherine Zeta Jones I'm sure, and if you give me your email I'll frighten the living daylights out of you with my face!!! [it will come with my son's mother-in-law and a photo of a very pretty little rabbit!!! Don't know how to separate them to send so you get three for the price of one!!] Love and hugs, Ann XXX

That's what I'm frightened of Ann, I have put on so much weight and really do look poorly on the last photos I had taken. going off for a bit now,
what does Arnie say 'I'll be back'.

Caz xxx

have already shared my phone number and email ad with quite a few people on this thread - do not know how to put my photo anywhere but I can email one to anyone who has the courage to look at me!! Hope everyone is well today and Caz, where are you honeybun, we want to hear that you are OK. Love Ann XXX

Hi all,
If you want to share photos that is what The next generation site is for.
ann
Glos