General Chat

Oh poor you Caz - are you OK just sitting by the computer or is it too painful for you? I think we'll have to organise a coach trip together - boy what a laugh we would all have, d'you think? If only I could win bigtime on the lorrery I'd take us all on a cruise

Hello everyone, I haven't been on today as my chemo tablets are making me very nausious, and I have been in so much pain with my back and legs I didn't know where to put myself. I've just popped on to see how everyone is doing and I have been thinking of you all.
Well done Dave, that is my trouble, even worse now with the way I walk and hospital waiting rooms are always full, uggghhh.
Glad to see you are still positive Jules and I will look forward to hearing how you go on.

Caz xxx

Afternoon All....

Hope everyone is feeling ok today.

Dave...well done you, that would have been really hard for me to do too n know exactly where you're coming from in saying you felt like everyone was looking as you as soon as you walked in. I pulled out of my wedding to my ex (good job too!!) for that reason....I felt sick n panicked everytime I thought about standing up in front of everyone n having them all look at ME...!!...so scary. Hope you get a result :o)

Am having another 'Good Day'....2 on the trot...can't be bad. Wont pull out of appointment Thursday tho cos I know unless I get some help my 'Good Days' will soon be outweighed by the 'Bad Days.

Have arranged for another walk tomorrow night with the girl next door so that'll be good.

Patricia....have Pm'd you in response to your reply. Some of it I will copy below for others to read....hope it helps n makes some kind of sense. It's just how I see things when I have a clear head on..!!

'' can understand fully what your saying, often people think that a mother on anti-depressants is an unfit mother....but infact it's quite the opposit. It shows a woman with alot on her plate, understanding & seeking the help she requires to be able to function properly for herself & her family....there's nothing wrong with that. We all have to admit we need help from time to time which is what I didn't do until this thread was started............but since then I have felt so much better, knowing I'm not alone in my, sometimes, black cloud. Even tho I'm feeling better I'm still going because I know unless I really do something about it it won't last. The thought of self harming frightens me, have been there n done it n it didn't get me anywhere ''

Have a good evening everyone....

Julie :o)xxxx

fingers crossed for you Dave!!

Carolina - have been on the website and have sponsored you!! never ever done that before - quite easy really

well good for you, how very brave of you - do hope you get the outcome you would like to have - what made you think they were all looking at you? Is this a feeling you often get or were you wearing something outrageous!!!! Only kidding. Keep us posted on what happens.

Love Ann X

Hope all with doctors appointments start on the road to recovery soon.
Carolina will go back and sponsor you tomorrow when I have more time. Well done making the commitment to run. Something to focus on will be beneficial to your health, as well as for a good cause.
Thank you to all those who do not suffer but leave good wishes to those of us who do.
Carole xx

Carolina - lets know how you got on with your GP - that's if you wnt to tell us, and will certainly look at your website and sponsor you honeybuns

Ann XX

Irene, that sounds caring of you with your customers. There is far too much discrimination in this world, did anyone watch the programme the other night about the Dalits, previously known as Untouchables, in India? I was so sad for those poor people who through the fact that they were born to Dalits had to continue the lowly and scorned lifestyle.

I know o.h. won't be any better unless he has medication if diagnosed, he is always this way, one of the symptons of temporal lobe epilepsy is sudden and unexpected outbursts of aggression and agitation, which fitted him to a t, but when I mentioned that to the specialist, he poohpoohed the idea, saying that was a fallacy. Shame as I had been hoping o.h. had a medical reason for being so obnoxious,altho I do still think there is a link and someone else who has a relative with the t-l epilepsy, has the aggression problems badly even with medication. I am afraid o.h. killed any feelings I had a long time ago but for many reasons I am not in a position to leave at the moment. I think when I can leave I will feel less depressed and stressed.

Gran with Ruby Slippers, until recently I wouldn't tell anyone about my ocd, here there is still a big stigma to ocd sufferers. Sounds as if you have much more to cope with than me, well done for going out when you can and shame on such rude people that accost you.

Lizxx

Off to docs in a little while.

granofoz that makes me soooo mad I own a bakery in mansfield oz which is on the way to one of our snow field so my customer's are anything from jag drivers to the old farm utes the farm boys come in covered in oil or cow poo but never if I've got a shop full they wait untill the coast is clear other shop's in town wont serve them and you know they are my best customers if they have muddy boots they leave them at the door. I once had a deaf couple come in they were looking around the shop.(Didn't know they were deaf at that time) so i went to see if they would like some help as you do there daughter jumped in and said mum and dad cant hear I just smiled at her turned back to her parents made shore they could see my face and got the fingers pointing they left very happy . everyone of us are diffrent and we all deserve respect its not the wrapping its the person on the inside that counts. best wishes to all

hi all i didn't make an appointment to see the dr yesterday i couldn't face going but i have made on for today the other day on a mad impulse i joined race for life so if any one wants to sponsor me my web page is http://www.raceforlifesponsorme.org/carolinadinah
thank you all for your support

carolina xx

you hit the nail right on the head there!!! Education, plus understanding and compassion - that's what needed

too right Julie - as sufferers are proving on here every day it seems, only good can come from it - sufferers should talk about it openly, even if, as in some cases, people are embarrassed by it - don't let that stop you. If it was a broken leg or arm people would be so ready to ask how it happened etc. well the same should apply to mental illness!!

hello Ann
i saw read and added to the since deleted gary glitter threads.
unfortunatly abusers often revel in the pain they cause. so i agree although a threat would help many is not such a good idea. shame tho as im sure like this thread there would be much love respect help and support.
Pat

Lovely pm Gail, thank you

Ann XX

I don't know if anyone of you looked in on Chat and saw the Gary Glitter thread [been pulled I think] However people, including me, started telling of child abuse they had suffered and it was thought that maybe a child abuse thread may be put up. I've had a think about this and think it shouldn't for the simple reason that by the law of averages there is bound to be at least one child abuser on these threads, if not more, and a thread like that would probably make enjoyable reading for them. Don't know if others agree with me?

Ann X

good on you Gail - I will have to stay on my medication for life - have tried to come off it with GPs help, but failed miserably - he has told me not to worry, if you're on them for the rest of your life so be it. So that's you and me, pill poppers!!

Ann XX

crumbs!!!! got up late this morning and just looked in to see how things were going - what brave people on here this morning. Sue, to you, I'm no expert but sounds to me as if you have Clinical Depression, which is what I have. Always make people laugh, keep a smile on my face - sound familiar? Get to your GP and get some help girl - you will be amazed at how good you will feel after a short time I'm on Venlafaxine [Effexor] and it sure works for me - without it I'd be in the pits I can tell you.

Ann XX

Jules
well done with getting your appointment sorted i wish i had your courage. for me my reasons for not doing it go back to when my teens were younger i had a mother who was dominant she didnt like my hubby, barred him from her house when i visited with the children she run him down. children became upset and confused. i stopped going. suddenly weeks later SS visited said they had infothe kids were abused. we went through weeks of questioning till my health visitor intervened and filled them in about the situation with my mum . the visits stopped. main concern for ss seemed to be that i was on antidepresants. this stuck in my head to this day.
so......the one thing i feel i could never do is go back on them. my children are now older in college except the youngest. as mum and full time carer for my hubby i have to cope.i use st jons wort but have not for over a year . things have crept up without me noticing. im so glad you all wrote on here it made me realise i need it will try again today to pop uot for rescue remidy as i didnt get there but did manage swimming with my daughter last night. came home full of energy and on top form :))
hugs to you all

Sue M hope it was a relif to get that off your chest. What an awful experience. So here goes... my problem that has caused my depression to come back is years of taking imodium as I am a shitter! Mention going out and I go to the loo over and over again. Someone calls at my house and I'm of to the loo over and over again! I go visit I go to their loo again and again! Can't go out at weekends cause I eat fruit nuts in fact anything to make me go to the loo cause I didn't go all week cause I took imodium so I could get to work. After being off four months at the end of last year I am now trying to cope with out imodium and being back at work in a job where I have to travel. Today I am fairly local,,,and should be getting ready to leave the house.

Carole xx

hi liz isn't it amazing men will look after there car better then they will them self's I remember telling my hubbie if he didn't go to the doctors something bad was going to happen because between his mood swings and my hormones we where going to kill each other. and don't you just love (it must be that time of the month lol) I once asked him what his excuse was? didn't go down to well lol Iam shore after the tests are done his stress level will go down and things will carm down abit. I know we would love to hit them with the frying pan lol but we love em. lets face it men just don't handle things the same as we do they keep alot to them self's