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Keep saying to yourselves AN INCH IS A CINCH, A YARD IS HARD and do that inch of a task first, then the next one, and before you know it you will have done the whole yard!
Didn't mean to shout but wanted it to stand out. I try really hard to use the above 'rule' and sometimes manage to and it helps. Breakdown any difficult task into little bits and concentrate on one bit, not the whole picture and sometimes it works.
Good luck, gotta go o.h. is complaining cos I am on here lol Well I have only just got up!

Lizx

Carole, lol! :-)

Hello everyone - this thread is so good, such lovely people on here that have suffered so much.

with this sort of illness you have to remeber this:

1) you are not alone.

2) take one step at a time and by telling us all, that is the first step nearer to helping yourself more.

3) try and find something for you, not something that is too involved or is too difficult, nor with too much expectations from you.

4) don't be afraid to tell the doc if your symtoms change, no matter how silly they may seem

5) except that this is an illness.

6) if you have family who think different, show them evidence, take them with you to the docs.
l had a close friend who really thought my depression was something you could brush under the carpet and that l was being a wimp - years later she suffered with it and actually apologised. She was diagnosed with cancer of the breast and had part of one breast removed.

7) get out as much as possible, even if its only for a 10 min walk around the garden.

If you want to add to this please do.

jude sarf wales :o) xx

Romany I'll come help you sort your washing out if then we come here to do mine !!! lol You want to see my utility room if you can climb over the washing to get in there!! It's getting like "what do you want to wear tomorrow I'll iron it if I can find it".

Alison, thats exactly how I feel, its amazing to know theres someone else feeling like that. As you say, its the washing machine that does the washing - but the job of getting the laundry out of the kids rooms, coming downstairs, emptying the laundry basket, shoving it in the washer, putting the tablets in, turning the dial....it sounds mad, but sometimes its like a mountain to climb. Worse still if you go to load the washer and theres wet washing in there that needs to be dried - even tho I have a tumble dryer! To other people it must sound like laziness, but thats something else.

hi everyone so glad this topic started i have for the last 8 years been full time carer for my partner who has suffered severe depression (bought on after a member of his family was imprissoned the shock of there hidden life was the cause)and had a full breakdown lasting over 2 years he is better than he has been but we have been told he will prob never hold a full time job and will be on medication for life he is on Effexor [Venlafaxine] and olanzapine as his carer he follows me everywhere and i never leave the house without him. im more a carer than a partner but its worth every min as when the good days come its wonderful for me depression is something i suffer all the time i take no medication as its my situation that causes it and theres not much we can do about it i comfort eat instead so know how you all feel so good that this list makes us see we are not alone thanks to you all for making my day.

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Carolina, I was going to write when I had woken up a bit but would have said exactly the same as Ann. I think you know yourself you have to go, I sometimes don't answer the door, and can see on my phone who it is calling, if I don't want to talk I don't.
This thread will always be here for anyone at any time, use it whenever you need to, I'm not usually here during the day but Ann is and she's lovely, there are plenty of others willing to help too.

Caz xx

Oh Carolina - just got up and read your posting - please please do what everyone else is advising and make an appointment with the doctor tomorrow - "cut and paste" what you first wrote on this thread and take that with you and if necessary give it to him - if he doesn't do someting after reading that, register with another doctor immediately - now we on here [most of us in a similar situation] are "ORDERING" you to do this!!!!! Do it or we will bombard you with pm's until you do!!!!!
You need help honeybun and as soon as you get it you will start to feel better

much love, Ann XXX

Tina, I was first put on Fluoxetine when I started, I said earlier the tablets didn't help much. When I saw the doctor in the pain management clinic he said I had got used to them and they weren't working as well, changed me to Citalapram. It might be worth asking your doctor to change your tablets for you, after eight years your body will be used to them l don't think it will harm you though.

Caz xx

Mary, have just looked at flylady site and it looks interesting, will read it more thoroughly when I am not so tired. Thanks for telling us about it. I have ocd and hoard!
Lizx

Carolina, please let us know how you make out with the appt.
We care.
hugs
Mary

dear liz and mary thank you for your kind words i will try and see the dr on monday

carolina xx

Dear sweet Carolina, How brave of you to write such an honest post, I hope you can bring yourself to see the Dr as soon as you can, and be brutally honest with him. Doesn't matter if you cry through the visit, he needs to see how deeply your mood has dipped down. Help is available, you need to be in charge of the depression, rather than allowing it to take charge of you. It may take 10 days for the medication to have good effect, but know there is relief in sight. This is NOT your fault. Sometimes the original symptoms are triggered by a specific situation, like deep grief, or overwhelming anxiety, but gone on long enough it can develop into a full-blown clinical depression.
Dear Carolina, we are here for you, feel free to ask for a shoulder, with the differing time zones, there is probably someone here 24 hours a day!! For instance, I am 5 hours behind UK time.
{{{{{Hugs}}}}}
Mary

Hi All
can anyone tell me if being on fluoxetine for 8 years can harm you. my gp has said a few times that i seem to have been on them for a long while ,but has not sugested comming off, i take two 20mgs a day i still get down but nowhere near how i was befor the fluoxetine. i see some of you take citalapram is this the same thing as fluoxetine?
Tina

Hi Carolina, I think we have 'spoken' before.

I do hope you will be able to see your doctor as soon as possible, and why not write down what you feel is wrong and how you feel, in case you get a bit tearful then they can read it through while you mop yourself up! If your doctor isn't sympathetic and helps you, see a different one! Get your hubby to come with you if you need support so that he can tell them how you are too.
Come back and tell us how you get on.

I have been amazed at all the stories on here, and am sure my not that bad but not brilliant childhood has a lot to do with my illness now, including the hoarding. I was fascinated to see Mary's post about the clutter and chaos etc and will look at the flylady site (hope I have remembered the right person and info lol, my memory is getting worse)

I think we will all have a bit brighter future now if we help each other through the darker times and I will be happy to talk to anyone who comes here at night feeling lost or alone.

A couple of things, to help you through.
An inch is a cinch, a yard is hard, is a saying I heard some time ago and I try to remember that when I am trying to do something that seems insurmountable. It basically means don't look at the bigger picture and get scared off by a task or problem, work at it a little bit at a time and suddenly you will realise how far you have come with all those 'inches'.

Also I often recommend the Passiflora complex which is homeopathic and helps control over emotional behaviour, weepiness and anxiety. I never see or hear of anyone else trying it tho so if anyone does give it a go, let us know how you get on. It costs about £9 for about a month's supply of drops and is easy to take and has worked for me in the past, and I use it as well as Rescue Remedy if times are really stressful.
Take care folks, well done for being brave enough to talk about things - it is the first step to a better time for you I hope and if we all help each other, things can only get better!

love
Lizxx

hi all im carolina i have panic attacks and i feel sad all the time i cry allot i don't like going out as i feel like every one is looking at me i stay in my bed room all day on the computer and sleep allot its to much of an effort to clean up or do any shopping my hubby does it all i don't answer the door or phone i cannot remember the last time i laughed and really meant it or had fun i think it all started when i lost my mum the day i came out of hospital with my new born son i was told i had to go and see my mum no one told me she was dying they just told me she was ill as soon as i got there she died that was in 1993 i have seen my dr a few time but he tells me to come back in a week if i don't feel better but then when a week goes by i don't go back because i feel like im being silly i feel alone most of the time even thoe i have my hubby and children after reading this thread i am thinking about going to see the dr on monday
thank you all

carolina xx

well it's good you have some company and a reason to go out by taking your grandson back and forth to school - I'm sure that once your psychiatrist okays the thyroid medication you will start to feel better - it's awful when you feel tired all the time - but you know that's the thyroid. I'm sure that will put you on the right road and hey look, nine weeks today we alter the clocks and the nights will start to get lighter and that lifts everyone's spirits - these dark nights tend to get everyone down, even those without depression - now just you remember, pm me any time, I'm usually around - off to bed now, speak tomorrow maybe? Sweet dreams, love Ann XX

Hello Ann,
Thank you for your invitation to pm you, I find it hard to put things into words on how I feel. I have`nt been put on any medication yet for the thyroid problem as this has to be okayed by my pychiatrist, I do have my daughter & grandson living with me temporary monday / friday, I stay on my own friday till sunday.I take my mind off how I feel via taking my grandson back & forth to school during the week as my daughter works full time.
Linda x