General Chat

Oooooooh look I have got the 1,000 th post.

We will all come Huia,if you pay our air fares. lol

If anybody wants to come and do my garden for me, they are welcome. I have plenty of mattresses which we can put on the lounge floor (only 2 spare beds unless somebody wants to share my big one). I should add that we have an acre of grounds - no, make that jungle! Actually there is a big patch of native bush which doesnt need work done and at the far end we have planted quite a few exoctics - beech trees, deodars, magnolia, liriodendron, rhododendron, hazelnuts, silver birch, and our natives have come up among them so that area doesnt need work, but the gardens around the house are a mess - long grass and other weeds. Plenty of free self-sown plants if you want to take them, though you might have trouble getting permission to take them into England. Even seeds might not be acceptable unless they are specially certified, which mine arent.

Huia.

Good evening girls.
Huia,I am so pleased that you are having the meeting,I sincerely hope that you get some answers. And glad that you are not going to have to face this alone. If your family are there as back up,they will listen more,to what you have to say.
Not only that,more than one pair of ears,can take in more information.
Marilyn,you mind you dont overdo it. All this early rising is not good for you.
You are going to need your next holiday.
Coooeee Jean,how are you and J.
If we don't get a responce from Jean girls,we will have to send in a search party,coz she is probably lost in amongst all the kitchen equipment,in the dining room.
Wheres our Sallie got to tonight.?
helloooo Sallie,how are you and Alun faring today.
Hi Marie,whats your weather like over there at the moment. If you have got any spare sunshine,can you send it over here to us please. We have had yet more rain today.
Ooooh Ann,how are you feeling. Any news yet on your biopsy. I know you told us when you will be likely to get your results,but I have forgotten,sorry.
Still no news from Grace,she's like the invisable woman,one minute we see her,and then she vanishes. Come back Grace.
Love to all. Mo xxx

Hi Again...

Fancy me looking in twice in a matter days !! LOL

Just done all the school uniforms ironed ...its such a long time since I did this ...
Hubby is the shoe cleaner...and the homework helper, while I feed them .

I'm already creamed crackerd,but I here until Tuesday when son & daughter in law arrives back from Sunny Spain!

Jean I went to Wales ..Welshpool for 3 days and then stayed in Shrewsbury a place called Pontesbury where my Hubby's brother lives.

Yes Mo,I did get some Flower seeds given to me called Nicotiana for
free !! I admired them so much in hubby brothers house that he gave me a packet.so glad I did as you have to send away for these...

Huia thinking of you ..X

Oh well off now to finish off the ironing ...waves to all ~~~~~~~~~~~

I do hope the conference helps you.

(((((hugs)))))

Ann x

My son is coming up from Rotorua on Friday for the conference and daughter is going to see if she can get somebody to fill in for her. Phils niece is going to talk to her mother to see if she can come. I think we are going to have the medication problems explained and discuss the future. Phil cant stay in the public hospital forever, unfortunately (doesnt cost!) although there is still a bit over a month before we lose his superannuation and I go onto a living-alone allowance to top up my super. That is when I will really feel like a widow I expect.

Huia.

At least they seem to be doing something then Huia, you do need somebody with you though, it helps in case you miss something that is said.

Of course, you have your extended family on here to look out for you, we would all be distraught if we thought you were suicidal. I hope that they can sort something out to your satisfaction. Did you tell the social worker your concerns about the medication?

Ann xxx

I had a visit from a social worker this morning. The Charge Nurse in Phils ward must have been worried that I might be suicidal. No way, I couldnt possibly be until I have got rid of a lot of my junk. Far too much to leave for the family to get rid of! And all the people on here are so lovely I couldnt possibly leave you.

A family conference has been called for Friday at 12.30 to discuss the future. I dont know if our children can be there. It is a pity it couldnt be on the Saturday. I can always ask Phils sister or mine or a friend to come with me on Friday.

Thank you so much, everybody for your love and hugs.

Huia.

Oh Huia, I have just read the thread, I am so sorry to hear about Phil, it must be so hard for you to come to terms with... but love, you have done all you can, Phil wont be aware what he is doing, it is so terrible for the partners and families seeing their loved ones like that, but as Ann says you couldnt possibly take care of him, you would soon be ill...J and I send our love to you and pray that you may have some peace, we are all here for you.....

much love and ((((((((((((( X )))))))))))) Jean xx

Huia, I too have just read the carers thread and I feel so sorry for you because this is all so sad for you, and of course for Phil although he probably doesn't know it. It does sound as if the medication is too strong for him, especially as his nurse has said she has spoken to his doctor about it. Maybe if he is moved to another home/hospital, which I thought was on the cards, they will adjust his medication to give him better quality of life. But no way should you be punishing yourself for letting him go in there, you really had no choice, you do know that I am sure. Once a week will be fine to visit, they will tell you if you need to go more often so don't feel guilty.

((((((hugs)))))) for you, from me

Ann xx

Huia, I've just read the carers thread, I really am sorry to hear about Phil.
It must have been dreadful for you to see him like he was. I wondered if it would be an idea for perhaps your son to go with you some time, so that you could speak to Phil's doctor, while you had your son with you for some support.

Please don't feel awful about him being in hospital, you did all you could for Phil and you just couldn't go on as you were. I'm sure that Phil would tell you that if he could--he would certainly tell you that he would want you to get on with life, and do the things that you enjoy doing.

I hope you are feeling a bit better today. Take care of yourself.
Speak to you tomorrow.

Love, Sallie,xxx

Oh Huia,I am so sorry love.
Can you and your family ask to have words with his doctor,and tell them to reduce Phil's medication,it's not right what they are doing to him.
Why oh why,do these places dope patients up so much. Is it to give themselves an easier time.
No wonder Phil is becoming incontinent,he is so doped up,he has no idea
that it is happening to him.
Please Huia get help for yourself and Phil.
My love and prayers go out to you. Mo xxx

Hi ladies.

My visit to Phil yesterday was the worst ever, very depressing. I was in tears most of the time. For details see the Carers thread. I dont want to make my keyboard wet again.

Huia.

Hi All,

Ann, glad that the visit to the dentist was better than you expected. At least you know what to expect next week now. I wish you could send some of your concentration up to me, so that I can get on a bit quicker with the scrapbook, I suppose I will get it done eventually.

Mo, well done on your win at darts last night--you never know you might all be on a winning streak and win all the games. Yes, I know what you mean about saying anything to your son, can't very well, when he is fitting it free.
But I hope for your sake, it will be sooner rather than later.

Well ladies, I'm going to make our dinner now, and then hopefully get a page of the scrapbook done, our dining room is a bit of a mess at the moment with all the scrap stuff about.

Thank you all for sending thoughts for Michael's Dad.

Best wishes to you all.

Love, Sallie.xx

Afternoon girls.
It's not a good one though is it. We have had so much rain,that I have now got webbed feet again. Mind you,they do come in handy in this weather.
Oi ,Jean,you cheeky thing,Just coz I left a tide mark round the bath,that looked like low tide in a river estuary,after my bath. At least I smell luv vely
now.
I know what you mean about the kitchen though. Our dining room looks like a tornado has hit it,with kitchen bit's all over the place.They are all at hand should I need them.
We still have not been given a date,by our son for the start of it yet . And as
he is fitting it for free,we don't like to nag for a time for doing it.
I hope your daughters f.i.l is o.k Sallie.
Don't you find that all illnesses and the like,seem to start at this time of year.
Welcome back Marilyn. Did you pick up any nice plants from Shropshire on your travels.
Yes Sallie,we did win last night,by some miracle,but it wont last. We normally start the season well,and then go down hill fast. But it's a good night out.
How was Phil when you visited him Huia.
I wonder what has happened to Grace,we have not heard from her for a while.
Hi Marie big~~~~~~~from us over here to you in OZ. I hope you are well.
Hello to Debbie,if you are looking in. I hope the family are well.
Ann,hows the shoulder now. And is your OH's foot any better with those insoles.
love to you all. Mo xxx

Dentist wasn't too bad.impression for new front teeth (replacement), it was nowhere near as uncomfortable as the last time I had it done 36 years ago. Still have three appointments the next 3 Tuesdays!

Must get back to card making now.

Ann x

Hi, Sallie,Everyone, no we havent got the case yet, we are waiting to hear how much it wil cost to get it by post, but how to get back in touch with the folk who have it, I suppose its not such abig thing to them and also if they have jobs and children then that must come first, taught us a lesson though, lock the cases we never did when we went by car, also put name address and phone number inside it.....so we are at their mercy... I cant get to my craft stuff without haveing to climb over boxes, we are having the kitchen done at the end of this month and we are escaping for a couple of weeks until its done, so we have had to start clearing non essential stuff out of the units its amazing how much stuff you gather all very useful of course...lol....D will be here and we are only going to Llandudno so not a million miles away should we be needed... I recently bought a craft tote, siI am going to fill it with craft stuff and take it with us, it will be dark early so will give me a good chance to get some cards made....sorry to hear about Jennies f.i.l praying he soon recovers....

Mo, I thought Huai was very quick with the graphic description of you in the bathh....lol....what a picture, wish I had been there with the camera.....xx

Ann, hope it wasnt too bad at the tooth place, I keep looking at my reminder and putting it iff, but I am due so must bite the bullet so to speak....

Marilyn, what part of Shropshire did you go to? we love that area. all my reles are just over the border, Newtown, Wrexham, Oswestry, so have happy memories of that area...

Grace sorry to hear about your lack of cooker, hope its sorted now, how have you managed, with meals etc:

Its pouring down here real cloudburst , and to think that Liz will be sunning herself with a glass of wine in her hand, makes you sick, dont it....

~~~~~~~ to the girls from overseas ~~~~~~~

Hi, to sue and debbie,


love jean xx

Hello All,

It's a damp and miserable day here in Derbyshire! Never mind, I have plenty to occupy me.

Mo, how did your darts match go last night? I hope you had a good game.

Marilyn, it's nice to hear from you--we missed you. So pleased that you enjoyed your holiday in Shropshire. Youv'e got a busy week in front of you, but I'm sure that you will enjoy having your grandchildren with you.

Huia, hope all went well with your visit to Phil, and that you were not too upset when you left.

Grace, how are things with you? I hope they are sorting your cooker out today.

Jean, have you got your case back yet? It's such a nuisance when these things happen--but they are easily done. Have you done any cards or scrap pages since you are home.

Ann, I read on Daff's page that you are going to the dentist, this afternoon.
Good Luck! Hope all goes alright for you.

Jennie's father-in-law was taken to hospital last night with a heart attack So they are going to do some tests--they seem to think that he had suffered from a blood clot, so hopefully, they will find out exactly what the trouble is.

Thinking of Sue, Debbie, Liz and Marie. Hope to hear from them all soon.

Speak to you all later.

Best wishes to everyone.

Love, Sallie.xxx

Hi Everyone,

Sorry I have been ignoring this lovely thread..... !

I'm very busy on & off threads helping peeps do their family research,and loving it all ..LOL


I have just got back from a week in Shropshire and loved it . I have never seen so many hanging baskets at this time of the year with plenty of flowers still in bloom, I would call it a county of Flowers...Mind you Percy Thrower came from there so I was told ...So maybe they all took his advice seriously.

I'm now looking after my grand children as their Mum & Dad has gone on a Golfing weeks holiday !!
So it will be early mornings for hubby and I as school bus arrives at 8am and then early nights.after I have got their uniform ready and fed them.
oh its such a long time ago that I did this ...

I hope you are all keeping well,and looking forward to the warm winter nights by the fire.
Take care all of you.... special wave to Jean ~~~~~ X

Marilyn xx