General Chat

Hello girls.
Huia,I know the home for Phil is not where you would like it to be,but if he is going to get the type of care that he needs,then thats all that matters.
If it's a secure unit,will they still be taking him out for his walks.
I do hope so,as that is his greatest pleasure,isn't it.
Good evening Ann,hows you tonight.
I did not realise you had already had your stitches out. Have you had the results of the biopsy on the rodent ulcer yet.
Take care my friends. Love Mo xxx

Ann, the other home for Phil is probably only 10 or 15 mins extra driving, unless the traffic is bad, I am told the place looks grotty on the outside but is not so bad inside. It is also in a built up area. Still, as my dad used to say, cheggars cant be boosers.

I might make my visits every 4 days instead of 3, he doesnt seem to miss me too much, and it would give me an extra day to do the million things that I need to do here. Often when I visit he dozes off, so I wonder what the point is of visiting, but then I have to, dont I. I cant abandon him completely. But I do need to do other things and have a bit of a life myself.

Huia.

Hi all, Lovely day here today so far.

Mo, I had the stitches out just over a week ago, the site is still slightly swollen and sore if pressed so i tend to wear a bra with the strap on that side tucked down (bit lop sided but who looks at me???)

Huia, sorry that Phil can't go into the home you prefer, does that mean he will be further away for visiting?

Ann xx

Yes, the forecast for thunder was right. During choir practice there was an absolutely enormous clap and our special lights went out. They take a while to warm up again (not sure what they are - not the eco friendly ones). I found trying to sing the high notes got my cough going again so I decided to come home early. Lots of lightning on the way home but it was almost over by the time I got here, otherwise I would have been sitting in the car until it stopped.

It doesnt look much as if Phil is going to be going into the rest home that I prefer. It will probably be a secure hospital elsewhere :((( I just hope his condition deteriorates rapidly as it is no life for him.

Off to bed soon.

Huia.

MO, it is today I am going to visit. I decided yesterday that the weather was too foul so went shopping in the morning then when it turned fine after lunch the odd job man came to mow my lawns so I helped him by disposing of the grass clippings. The weather this morning (it is now 8.10am) looks good, although I think there are showers and thunderstorms forecast for the day. Better get moving and get everything sorted out as I hope to stay in town for choir practice tonight.

Huia.

Hello Hello.
Where is everyone again.
Huia,I was reading the carers thread,and on it you said that you were hoping to go and see Phil today.
Did you manage to get there.? and how was he.?
It was good to hear that you are feeling better.
I hope things are o.k at your end Sallie.
Ann,how is your shoulder now.? When do have the stitches out.?
Debbie,long time since we spoke to you love. How are you and the children.
Marie in oz. Hows you keeping.? Are the grandchildren any better.
Love to you all. Mo xxx

Huia love,when I win the lottery,I will send you the money for the trip,and your passport.
I am glad you are feeling a bit better today. But just take it one day at a time.
Have they tried cutting Phil's medication down yet?
May god give you the strength,to get through the next few months.
Did Phil recognise your son,when he went to see him. If he did,then it proves that he still has a lot of his faculties in tact. Bless him.
Take care of yourself. Love Mo xxx

Mo, I will be part of the surprise visit if you pay my airfare over there and back - not to mention the cost of a new passport since mine expired 9 yrs ago.

Our son visited Phil, says he is still a bit confused. I just with he would 'accept his fate' so they could take him off all the drugs. I am hoping I might be well enough tomorrow to visit him but will have to wait and see. I am slowing improving.

Love to all, Huia.

Hi girls.
Good to hear from you Sallie. Marilyn appears on the friendly thread,quite a lot. But I know she has been very busy,with constant visitors. It must be open house down where she lives,so I think we should take a holiday down there sometime. We can pay her a surprise visit,all of us.
Ann dont they do cushion floor at Ca*p*t R*g*t,thats if the ones round your way are still open. I know that they had it at our local store,as we bought some for our bathroom.
It's a nuisance not being able to say the stores name,but hopefully you will get the drift of what I am saying.
Sallie,family problems are more important,than this place is.
I hope you have managed to sort out your difficulties.
When I read your post,I misunderstood what you were saying to Ann. I thought you said,christmas shopping,instead of christmas cards. I will have to get my eyes tested again.
See you later girls. Love Mo xxx

Hello Girls,

Sorry I haven't posted for a few days, but we have had a few family problems, everything seems to be alright now, so we are hoping it will stay that way.

Marie, I hope things are getting back to normal after the terrible dust storm some of you have had in Oz. Sorry to hear about your dog, the trouble is we get so attached to them because they become part of the family and miss them when they are gone. I hope he didn't suffer too much. You did the kindest thing for him. I hope you and your family are all alright otherwise.

Mo, thank you for being concerned about me, it's nice to feel missed.
I'm sorry that you have had to cancel your trip to Blackpool, but as you say with the cost of other things, it can't be helped. Never mind, you'll have a lovely new kitchen instead, worth the sacrifice.

Jean, I'm sorry I missed you before you went on holiday. It's many years since we've been to Ludlow, it's very nice there, at least it was when I went there.
Hope you and J will have a good week there. Also hope you are feeling better.

Huia, I hope you are feeling better. Did your son manage to get the grass cut for you. Was Phil alright when he went to visit him?
I'm not sure what you are doing with your photos, I'll have to read the messages again.

Ann, hope your shoulder is getting better. Have you finished doing your Christmas cards yet? I haven't been able to do any of the Scrapbook this week with all the family problems--but hoping I will be able to a bit of it later on.

Marilyn, not sure if you are away or not. Hope all is well with you and your family. We found out quite a bit on Mary Hughes' family, I will PM you what we have found.

I hope Debbie, Sue and Grace are all alright.

Speak to you all soon. Take care !

Love, Sallie.xxx

Hi Mo, I am OK, shoulder is OK as long as I don't stretch it ot knock it then it is sore.

Missed my 'me' time this morning as OH didn't go to golf, so we had to visit one of my least favourite places to get some netting to put on the wrought iron gate (to keep neighbouring felines out). (It starts with a B and ends with a Q). Also we were looking at cushion floor for the kitchen, didn't really have any that I liked so will keep looking.

Ann x

Oh thank goodness,Marie and Huia are o.k. It must have been a complete nightmare for you Marie,and quite frightening.
I suppose we are lucky in as much as we don't suffer freak weather like that.
I am so sorry for your sad loss. Our pets become part of our families,don't they. And losing them,feels just as bad as losing close family. Rest in peace Jacobie.
Enjoy yourself doing your photo's Huia. It is a really relaxing pastime for you.
I hope you are feeling better today. How was Phil,when your son went to see him.
Jean,I do hope you and J have a lovely holiday. We will miss you,but you can give us all the low down on it,when you get back.
You both deserve this lovely break away. And I am sure that when you have your october break,you will be so glad to be away from all the upheaval,that will be occuring whilst the kitchen is being done.
We have had to cancel our Blackpool break away.
What with the cost of the kitchen,and Roly having to have new dentures,something had to go by the board. And as these other things are more important,we have put it on hold till next year.
So,as soon as christmas is over,I shall start saving my pennies again.
Hows our Ann today. Hows the shoulder today love.?
Anyway Jean,have a lovely time,I hope it stays nice and dry for you.
Sallie has still not opened the p.m I sent her. I do hope she is o.k.
Love and best wishes Mo xxx SAVED XXXXX for jean when she's away.

Marie I am so relieved you all o.k. we saw it on the news it looked awful; I am sorry to hear about your dog but the tumour would have caused much suffering , we sometimes have to be cruel to be kind, take care my lovely friend...

Huia, I wasnt meaning that you were the slacker, lol... you have had a lot to do and I realise it is huge difference to your life now, the photos will be good to look at and many happy memories for you, that will never be taken away from you.... I am off on holiday for a week tomorrow so will miss you all, but always think and pray for everyone who I know to be friends....

love Jean xx

Hello Everyone, thank you for thinking of me Yes we did get the terrible dust storm
and unfortunately I had clothes on the line as we had rain the day and night before.
I couldn't believe my eyes when I woke and saw this funny light most people thought it was a fire but I couldn't understand why the sun would be shining when it was pouring rain,but when I looked out the kitchen and saw all the orange clothes
on the line I knew what it was D------M i rushed out and collected the wash and then I spent all day trying to get them clean, and it hasn't rained since to wash all the dust off the Walls windows and all the plants. The dust is impossible to sweep off the pavers you have to hose everything.Thank goodness the dust didn't affect my breathing some schools closed and sent children home and those that didn't ,keep them inside because of the poor air quality. The next day it was all gone we had clear skies.
Yesterday was a bad day for us as our lovely dear little dog Jacobie had a seizure
he was with me & I went inside to make myself some lunch
I went back out to check the washing & found him unconscious on the floor,I rushed him to the vet,& they resuscitated him ,they said that he was not good they thought he had a tumour, my daughter arrived & her Husband & we had him put down he was still unconscious We said goodbye to him and patted him until he was dead.
We took him home and buried him in my native garden where he spent many happy hours with me,We all shed tears as we said a prayer for him. Hugs to all Sad Sad Marie

I have spent much of my day scanning photos we (mostly Phil) have taken over the past 10 years and putting them into folders - a separate folder for each film. I can then copy photos to special folders, eg photos of our dog and cat can be copied to a dog and cat folder. Photos of walks that Phil has done can be copied to a folder which will have sub-folders. Photos of native flowers to another with sub - folders in that. Some of Phils orchid photos are great, since our native orchids have only small flowers.

It should keep me out of mischief for a few years doing this, if my eyesight will stand it.

Huia.

Maybe I caught this bug from Sallie or Debbie, or did I give it to them? I suspect I caught it from somebody on the train when I went to visit Phil.

Huia.

Just had a thought girls. We have not heard from Sallie for a while,so I am going to p.m her,to make sure she is o.k.
Also our Debbie has not been on for a while,I hope everything is well with her and the family. Love Mo xxx

Hi Huia.
Have you not got rid of that horrid bug yet love. You poor thing it seems to
really be hanging around. It's probably because you have been so run down.
It's a good job your son is coming. Get him to get that grass down nice and short,and it will be a lot easier to manage later.
There is no way you could have visited Phil,with you being so poorly. And it will be better your son seeing him first,and explaining why you have not been.
That's if he realises you have not been.
Take care of yourself Huia. Love Mo xxx

Now then, Jean, who are all these slackers? Are you referring to people who havent been adding to the thread lately? If so, I guess I am one. I have had (still recovering) a rotten cold or even flu (oink oink?).

My son is coming up from Rotorua tonight and bringing his line trimmer so he can whip the long grass into shape. Phil hadnt mowed some of the lawn for ages and it is now too long for the mower. When we have some fine weather I hope the odd job man will come and mow the lawns otherwise they will all need the line trimmer to knock them back.

After son has knocked things into shape tomorrow morning, he will go to visit his dad in the hospital. I am not sure yet if I will go with him. I havent visited Phil for a week now, due to this bug that I have. I have just been lolling around sleeping half the day.

Huia.

Hi, Ann and Mo, we are going to our favourite place in Llandudno in October we have booked two weeks, thats when the kitchen is being gutted and a new one going in, D will be home,but I dont want to be there apart from the fact that we wont have cooking facilities. D will eat out and go to her friends , she will be at work also...we had never been to Filey only Whitby , thanks for all the info, Ann, I am looking forward to the break...we both love places like this... D goes to L Tascas often at the Trafford Centre, if you go on Martin Lewis Money site there are vouchers you can download for meals....
hope T isnt in much pain, and that your shoulder soon heals...

love to all the slackers too...you know who you are....

love Jean xx