General Chat

Yippee,Jeans got her holiday booked at last. Well done sweetie,I hope there will be no more set backs for you.
Hey,I just realised,whats this about booking another break,before your
September holiday. Tut Tut. I am lucky if I get one break away a year.
I hope you are both o.k. Love to you both. Mo xxx

Hi. little people....
we have just booked and paid for a HOLIDAY !!!! in Yorkshire, but its at the end of Sept, so still time to book another short break before then....lol....

Darling Huia, we all know what a wrench it is for you but I am sure Phil will eventually settle in. He will just be thinking you have left him, so extra tender loving when you see him , he needs reassuring that you have not abandoned him.... nice to hear you are having some me time, you cerainly sound more relaxed now, so do enjoy the time.

~~~~~~~~ to everyone else ~~~~~~~~

Love Jean xx

Hello all.
Huia love,it's going to take a time for you to re-adjust. And you are bound to miss Phil,he has been a big part of your life for so long. And he is also going to miss you,but he is getting all the care he needs,and will know how much you love him,on the his good days. He may seem angry at the moment,but give him time. And you just get what rest you can,when you
can,it doesn't matter what time of day it may be. You will soon get yourself into a routine,with visiting and having him home again.
Hi Liz,as you can see,we all care for Huia and her well being.It's nice to hear from you.
Welcome back Marie. Glad you had a nice holiday.
You are lucky to know where your Irish ancesters came from,I wish I did
that way,I might have been able to progress further than I have.
How are the grandaughters now? I hope they are feeling better.
I wonder where everyone has got to today,maybe the lovely weather has got something to do with it.
I spent all yesterday pressure washing the patio down. It's surprising how dirty it gets over the winter period. We have now got to paint the outside of the house.
Well ladies,I will love you and leave you.Best wishes to you all. Mo xxx

Mariefrom OZ.

Hello all ,I had a great holiday,and I have just caught up on all the posts
Huia dear what a time you have had, but from the posts i can see you are feeling a lot better that is good. You are doing the right thing, there will be hard times ,but it does get better so good luck lovely lady.
Hi Berona , Ann, Sallie, Marilyn,Mo,(Purple sparkly Diamond) . Jean sorry to hear your holiday has been cancelled,hopefully you will find something better.
Mo I have Irish ancestors they are O'Briens from Castlehaven Cork and Moloneys from Mullingar West Meath.
Well dear friends I have unpacked my bag and done all the washing and to-day I spent time in the native garden with my daughters Barbara and Kathleen also the grandchildren it was a lovely sunny day and we all enjoyed our time in the sun.
I am a little tired so i will say goodnight and lots of (((((((((((( Hugs))))))))) to you all especially Huia and Phil.

MARIE

Liz, the mobile phones dont work in our area so we only turn them on by arrangement with somebody when we go to town. I didnt get a call today, unless they tried when I was on the phone to a neighbour for a fairly long time between 2 and 3. Perhaps they have persuaded him that it is not a good idea to keep upsetting me. I will ring the hospital in the morning to see what is happening. Then I will ring the printers to see when I can pick up my baby! They said the calendar should be ready tomorrow. There are so many things I want to do but until I know what is happening about Phil I cant really settle, dont want to be absent for too long in case he wants to talk to me. I feel I need new long distance glasses so when once I know I can make an appointment for a test. I do have the doctors appointment for Wednesday and am meeting a friend for lunch afterwards. It will be nice to have a social life again, not that I ever had a giddy round of social activity, but just to be able to meet a friend without having Phil as my Siamese twin, wanting to go home.

I might not be on the internet much as I want to leave the phone free just in case I get a call and I dont have broadband.

Huia.

Hi Huia, and all,


It's a little bit sad that Phil is missing you so much but testament to how much he loves you and was used to having you around. It would have been sad had he not cared about being away from you and I am sure he will adjust eventually. It's a bit of a worry that you have to remember to be near the phone at 4 but a small price to pay for the rest and relaxation of not having to be 'on guard' 24/7. Do you not have a mobile phone that the hospital could call you on, should you want or need to be away from the house?
Take care, have been thinking about you.

love
Lizxx

I didnt take a sleeping pill last night, took about an hour to fall asleep, slept for about an hour then woke and couldnt get back to sleep. Went to loo and did some sudoku puzzles then back to bed but not to sleep so up again to take half a sleeping pill which put me out about half and hour later. Not enough sleep last night, but I wasnt too worried as I can sleep all I want today without keeping one eye and one ear on sentry duty.

I spoke to Phil again yesterday afternoon. He wanted to know how he could get home. He said my sister and her hubby were there so they could bring him but I said it was too much out of their way (they werent there anyway and wouldnt have brought him even if they had been). Then he said he could walk home! The poor guy misses me so much. But I am not missing the fact that I am not looking after him any more. It is such a relief. But I will have to make sure I am home about 4 each day as that is the time that the hospital rings and puts him on. I am sure he would be even more worried if he was told they could not get me on the phone.

Huia.

Hi Sue and Sallie.
It sounds like you have had a nice peaceful time Sue. It will soon be time for the children to go back to school. It seems to have gone preety quickly
this year,the seven weeks have flown by.
It's good to hear you are getting abit more sleep Huia. It will take a little time to get yourself into a routine.
And hopefully Phil will adjust given time. they should be able to provide
more entertaiment,to keep him amused.
Hello Marilyn. How are you feeling now. I hope you are well,and that you enjoyed your BBQ last night. I hope the rain held of for you.
Hi Sallie,hope you are enjoying your weekend.
I am dog tired,so I will say goonight to you all.
Love to Jean,Grace,Marieand anyone I may have missed. Love Mo xxx

Waves to Debbie as well.

Hello Girls,

Just popped in to see if everyone is alright. I've been out quite a lot, over the last three days.

Thinking about you Huia, and wondering how things are with you.

It's late now, so I'll speak to you all tomorrow.

Best wishes to you all and your families.

Love, Sallie.xx

Hello all.

Special wishes sent to Huia hope you get the rest you need. Like others had said I am sure you OH will get looked after well,you now need to take care of yourself.

What a lot to catch up with in a few days. Sorry to see your Holiday has been cancelled Jean. Maybe something better will come along.

Had a good week with OH been out with the boys most days. It is nice to spend time together with out rushing about.
Went ten pin bowling ,and a theme park.
Also went and painted some pots with 4 yr old and Hubby. Had a great time something we would never do .Mind you we are no masters wont be giving up our day jobs.

Mind you back to normal life soon everyone going in different directions.
No more time off till end of the year.

Must go now need to be up early tomorrow.

Bye to all
Sue

I had a nice long deep sleep for 9 hours, having taken a sleeping pill. I did wake twice but dropped off again immediately. I now have to remember how to wash dishes again as OH used to do them since he retired 14 yrs ago. They have been sitting on the bench since yesterday morning. At least Phil mowed the lawns on Friday afternoon so I have a little bit of time before I have to think about tackling that chore.

Huia.

Good afternoon everyone. It's nice to hear from Ann and Berona.
You may not remember Berona,but we have been on a thread together before. It may have been AOGG's thread,quite some time ago now though,about Robin Hood and his merry men.
Thank the lord that Huia is now getting the help,that she so deserves.
Have a good rest Huia.
Well done Marilyn,you are a lot stronger than most of us would be. I love
my sweets,not so much chocolate,I can take that or leave it.
Roly is a diabetic as well,so he limits his sweet intake. Not giving them up completely,just a few evey so often. He is on Glucophage tablets for
his diabetes.
When are you of to Wales again Sallie? I am trying to remember if you said it was this weekend or not. How is your daughter now. Has she heard any more from the hospital?
Have you had any luck yet Jean,with your holiday?
It's not fair,both you and Huia have been through so much this past year,
that you deserve a break.
Roly has been busy,buiding us a new step,onto the patio. The one we had was decaying so badly,it needed replacing. I am just grateful it has
been good weather,or else I could have been waiting months,for him to
get round to doing it.
He is not like me,if I think about doing something,I have to do it there and then. And I don't rest till it's finished.
Love and best wishes to you all. Mo xxx
~~~~~to Grace,Sue,Marie,and Debbie who should be back home soon,

Hi Everyone...!!

Oh dear Huia... your plight is bringing back memories of my dear father in law that had Alzheimers .
Its so sad to see one suffer of that awful illness, and like Berona said there comes a time when they don't really know where they are.
But the staff at these places do know how to handle these unfortunate people.
So Huia you just rest as much as you can, I know my mother in law suffered so much, she had the patience of a saint, but that patience ran out and we had to get him into care.
You have done your best , now let the other do theirs.

So now look after yourself and get your strength back ,to a healthy one.

Hope you are all going to have a lovely weekend...I've cut the Chocolates out .....and the wine....don't want this weight anymore !!

Marilyn xx

Huia, I've just read about your husband. As Jean and the others have said I wish I was living nearer to you so that I could give you some help and support. At least you know he's safe,and you can catch up on some much needed sleep.

I have to go out now, speak to you later.

Love, Sallie.xx

I think I will make myself a warm chocolate drink to have with a sleeping pill and take myself off to bed, perchance to sleep (yes I know that last bit is not the correct quotation). I will look in again in the morning, or earlier if I cannot sleep!

Huia.

Berona, he has Alzheimers. Just after 4 this afternoon the hospital phoned and said he wanted to speak to me. They put him on and he asked 'where he h*** are you'. I told him I was at home and he was where he was so I could have a much needed rest. I told him to be good and do as he was told and I would come to see him sometime. I hope he is not too upset that I am not with him but I am not going to let it get me down. It was getting me down when he was here so now it is time for me to get up again.

Huia.

Hula, this is the first time I have known of your situation. I haven't read right through to know what the condition is, but it reminded me so much of what I went through with my own husband and was faced with putting him in a home. I had actually chosen and inspected the place when his condition worsened suddenly and he was taken to hospital and passed away three weeks later.

However, what I want to say is that although we love them and want to care for them, they do get better care in a home - they are much safer there and you, yourself can visit them, then go home and relax - where you can't relax while they are with you. Also, they have no idea where they are and there will be times they are looking for you and times when you are totally forgotten and their nurses become their family.

It's a big decision but a wise one that you have made.

Huia, I am sure we all feel the same as Jean and wish we were closer. Try to rest and please do not start feeling guilty. You have done so much for your OH with love and a sense of humour and even in your writing we have sensed you getting more tired. Sending you a ((((hug)))) and lots of thoughts that you will be able to relax for a few days and that there will be a nice home from home waiting to take your OH in.

Ann
Glos xxx

Huia,How i wish we were nearer you I just want to hold you close , I do realise what a heart ache you must be going through,but you must have some rest so perhaps, my friend, the timing is right, you know we on this thread are always here for you , and I know lots of other folk are too...
out of all this good will come, drawing your family closer, J and I are holding you close in our hearts and prayers, even miles cant seperate us.....


love Jean xx

After my last posting I had a phone call from the team at hospital. They were coming out this morning to assess my OH. I rang to see if my daughter could come here in case I needed support. When OH and friend got back I asked friend in for a coffee and asked him on the quiet if he could stay a while as I might need support in case my daughter did not get here in time. She arrived just as the 2 people from the hospital arrived so we sat round the table while they asked me and OH a lot of questions then they asked each of us what we thought should happen. They asked OH as well but he didnt have a clue what it was all about so finally the doc asked him if he would go back with them for a few days to have a blood test and to see what he was like. He didnt want to go of course but I turned on the taps full bore and pleaded with him that I needed a break so he reluctantly agreed. He has probably forgotten now and will be wondering why the heck he is in hospital and where is his wife. It is such a relief to know that at least I have a few days to sleep and try to get everything sorted, though I think the docs at the hospital will probably be looking for long term care in a secure rest home. The doc who came realised it wasnt safe here as we do not have any close neighbours.

I am now having lunch, after which I might try to get a sleep.

Huia.