Genealogy Chat

I am about to e-mail someone on GR who is related to me. I sent a hello e-mail a couple of weeks ago, as they have exactly the same name as me.(no reply) I know now they are definately related. I don't want to scare them off............what on earth can I put in the subject? Writing the e-mail's bad enough , but I am completely stuck with title. Thanks Ann x

I usually put the name of the person I am interested in

No good asking me Ann - I'm lucky if I get a reply from one-in-five of the contacts I e.mail! I'm obviously saying something wrong .................lol! Bev

Thanks Valerie. On the *Hello *e-mail I put re: then the name.........my name, which is also HER name!! (confusing or what) as at the time I didn't know if she WAS related. I will put her fathers name this time. I haven't done this before + my stomach is churning! Regards Ann x

Awwwwwww BEV!! you wonder why people put their names on if they don't want to correspond with anyone! Odd isn't it. Ann xx

How about the name of the mutual ancestor (check that they have a couple of other entries with the same surname) and then 'info to offer'. It doesn't have to be a lot of info - these days I tend to divulge a bit at a time: a sort of dance of the seven veils, and only minimal hints on that original contact. But that does seem to get more nibbles than just saying we are related.

That's a good idea Tabby ............its a bit more intriguing saying *info to offer* Do you think I should put her fathers name in the e-mail? or pick another relation?.....like you say, unveil info slowly! Regards Ann x

what about... hi, I am researching the surname (whatever) We seem be both be hunting down the same names and seem to have some co-incedences, not least in OUR very names being identical!.... I would love to compare notes with you sometime and hope that we can find a mutual ancestor. Yours Blah blah (keep it light)

I contacted a person with the same name and dob as my husband - and thought great I've found someone. Unfortunately it turned out to be husband - found out when my email came to his email address - he isn't registered now but must have put his details in at some stage. What a let down.

Hi Ann, Just been going through our past e-mails and something has occured to me about James have written to you direct. Sheila p.s did you ask to view her tree?

Sorry.have been off line for a while. Theres some good ideas here THANKS ALL . I might copy your letter Jess!! Poor Julie........that sort of thing happens to me! All I said in my original e-mail, sheila, was hello we have the same name...........not very brilliant/imaginative, I know but at the time wasnt sure we were related at all. Ann x

just go for it Ann after all she cannot see you can she so dont worry about her its her loss really if she doesnt answer and Julie poor you I will never have that problem mine isnt one bit interested I wish he was