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Why is it that God give's us someone special, and then takes them away. It makes us sad, day after day. Is it for a lesson, to teach us not to hoard, or is it for a reason, to teach us how to moarn? I am not sure, I just do not know,, I just wish that I could live again, and smile another day. There is a moral to this story, but I have not found it yet, so if you know the answer, please, give it to me straight.

Hiya Jennifer hun. Having a bad day today? (((((HUGS)))) for my friend. Listen, you dont' need to listen to those who say you should be over it, cos sure as eggs is eggs, they wouldn't be. You will never 'get over it', but you will learn to live with it, and you are doing so day by day, just a little bit at a time. You know where I am my love, just PM me xx

Not troubled, just a little raw, but I am okay, been ten months now-what upsets me is people say-you should be over this by now-but have they lost a Son-no-it is tough-really tough.

I don't have an answer for you Jennifer. I think that it makes us a stronger person in the end, when we are finally able to come out the other side. Took me a while, but I've built a new life and no longer take for granted those I care about. I thank God for them and try to enjoy every minute I have with them. Take care, Jennifer. Jay

Jenny i dont think you every get over it losing a child, 10 months is still very early days to even come to terms with the loss of anyone, I lost my Dad in 2002 it hurts more today than yesterday, (((Hugs))) Lilxx

there is no time limit jen hon.....u will take as long as you need...some days will be good..some bad.....xxx in time u will be able to remember and smile without a tear..(well a little one or 2;o)..xxofcoursexx).but until then u just keep posting...and we will keep listeningxxxxxxx and when you smile without a tear we will still be here too!! to listen to u laugh and smlie at memorysxxx Haysxxx u will never be expected to 'get over' it...and anyone that says that well.........xxxxxx

I understand what you are saying, bit I would rather be a weaker person, and have Stephen back, and do a little more for him than what I did, poor lad, was misunderstood-but I am sure he understands-wish I could have done more-now it is to late -you see, he was the eldest of five, but from my first marriage, and the other four from my second-always different always part of us but at a distance-and bless him - he tried so hard- but problems got in the way. Now I wish I had understood more-instead of lecturing I should have loved.

Jennifer,,,,,,,,,,,,,but you did love Stephen ,or else you wouldnt be finding it so hard to cope,,,,,just take it as it comes,time will never heal,it just makes it easier to cope with. You are doing so well,,

Jennifer, Just to let you know I am thinking of you. xxxxxxxxxxx

But Lunar, Stephen had such plans, the day he died he was gonig to but my Mother's day present, he had such hopes and dreams, and all gone in seconds. I find that so hard.

Jennifer, 10 months is early days, the greif becomes more bareable with time. We each must progress through it in our own time, even if it takes a life time. (((((hugs))))) When I was 4 my greatnan died and I lost all the faith I had in G_d because I couldn't understand why he took her away from me, I literally tought I had been bad and was being punished. Thi lasted until I was 11 when having been groundeda curled up on my bed crying and singing how unfaire life was when suddenly the words that were put in my mouth made everything fall in to place. Only then did I understand why greatnan had to die and that I was not to blame. My faith was restored and hasn't wavered since. My grandparents died 1 and 2 years ago, I never shed a tear over their deaths as I knew in my heart that it was for the best as they has both been ill for a long time, the only tears I cried were selfish ones when I realised they would never srr me graduate Uni and fulfill my dream but I carry them in my heart every day so when I stand on stage in my cap and gown they will be watching me pick up my degree but not in body as I always thought. I came to terms with my grandparents deaths very quickly dispite being close to them, I think that having spoken to them over the years and being told one day they wouldn't be there prepared me but I know that if anything happens to my parents or brother I will be distrote and question why.

Thanks , not sure he knew that-that is what is eating away at me - hope he knows now-Jennifer.

Thank you Sue - I know I am being a pain - and I try so hard not be be - sorry

Jennifer sending you some ((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))) cos you are hurting. Sunny R

Jennifer Hiya :-) Do you even realise how much strength is showing through you now, you are a pillow of courage to your children and they are learning from you that mum is strong. We all feel at times that we didn't do enough and never realise that is was our love that we brought them that made all the difference. Knowing that he your son was loved by you is enough, and the fact that your talking about your feeling's is a good honest open approach to directly healing yourself, your regret's and your pain. Take care of yourself and your family, give yourself time to heal. Tara xxxxx ((((((hugs))))))

I was once told that God put us on this Earth to learn and gain all the knowledge we can. When we Pass away its because we can no longer learn anything else and we have all the knowledge we need so he takes us back to be with him. Sadly when we lose someone so close to us, I dont believe we ever get over it it just gets a little easier to cope with as the years go by. Paul

jennifer you an inspiration to us , i very nearly lost my daughter twice, you are proof to me that we can make it after losing someone you loved so much someone told me god dosnt give us more than we can cope with keep showing us how to cope and keep talking love puss xxxx

I know just how you feel My mums been dead 26 years today {{{{HUGS}}}} Elaine x :o((

I dont know the answer but I do believe we are all here for a purpose and its up to us to find what the purpose is.

Jennifer i do not think anyone can answer your question love only thing is in his name you may be able to offer comfort to some one in the same position cos you know excactly how they feel. Take care love June xxx.