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Hi this is a difficult situation that has no easy solution i,m afraid as we are in the middle of a similiar situation but with one of my sons, the swearing, lieing and stealing coppers from a jar we save them in. At school he is a perfect angel also. We try not to get into a arguement, explain what he is doing wrong, tell him the consequences of if he continues doing say the stealing when older. It is hard, had many tears but we keep going. My son does lack confidence/self esteem in himself which i believe contributes, like Ann said i think he swears, etc because he is trying to be like the older boys at school. He has been on the end of bullies(he is small for age , developmentally behind and one of triplets). Things have improved slowly he does now admit to lieing when we ask, says sorry but doesnt always act on his regrets but we put that down to him being behind. Just try and keep up the dialogue, reasure that they are loved and thats why you are trying to help them hope it helps a little, and that you feel you are not alone take care Star

Julie, could the swearing and unacceptable behaviour be because she is trying to impress the kids who bullied her in the playground and it is carrying over into her home life. Will she still chat about her school life? Does she have school friends round for tea/sleepover etc? if so how do they interact together? Often children who are badly behaved at home are angelic in school. Ann Glos

your welcome Juliexxx Mrs P has left the buildingxxxxx

Hi Mrs Presly I understand he has entered the building he he. Thank you so much for your help and talking to me, have watched your threads before and knew you were friendly. Thank you for welcoming me tonight and hope I get an answer to my probl. If i do it will be with your help. thanks again juliex

all kids lie!! it's a phase i promise u.... i made u laugh!!!! my work is done!!lolxx by the morning u will have loads of replys on here...and good advice..u wait!! ps.can u tell my hubby 'home now!!!'lolxxx

Hi Mrs P She is not normally a liar which is what my problem is!! By the way he isn't dead and he's living with me he he!! we wish!!

did she lie that someone had hit her??......... PS.he's mine!!lol(if he were alive of course)lolxx

Hi to Mrs Presley He was georgeous wasn't he? I like him too! Unfortunately I do think its me, cos she is brought up the way i brought her up, and i didn;t think she was spoilt, although she has no dad, nans, grandads. uncles. aunties. relatives etc but when she says someone has hit her i believe it, i normally can tell but as it happens so often-why?? and why always to her?? Juliex

Hi Just found messages and thank you to all. Please I hope not Purple and I can,t think of anyone. but will remember what you have said thankyou. Juliex

Don't blame yourself...................everxxx

Janet Perhaps it is my fault aswell cos she had a hearing prob (now has gromits) so I had to shout to make her hear me, and have not got out of this and she will do nothing even is i ask nicely. Perhaps i have made a rod for my own back?? Julliex

Hi thanks to all All I can say is that she used to go to aniother school where she was bullied at 3 1/2 yrs and it hasn't stopped since. i am not saying she is perfect. the nursery schoolteachers went up the infants school and told them it was this other girl. i think this had stayed in her mind perhaps, maybe?? juliex

Thank you Mrs P but no PM?

sorry i deleted my replys on other thread...didnt understand.... i have pm'd u.... we are all here 4 u....xxxxx

Well if the teachers tell you her behaviour is fine at school, I guess it is. But none of us are angels ALL the time! Does she behave badly all the time at home, or just sometimes? Children do get tired and stressed sometimes after a hard day at school and need to let off steam - unfortunately sometimes this makes them become confrontational and you can, unintentionally, get locked in a battle of wills with them, which doesn't do either side any good. I personally would find the swearing unacceptable - does this just happen sometimes? Could it be testing out playground language to see what you do about it? jay

Hi Muffy Than for trying to work out her probs, not easy!! thanks for your help though but she is still only 8 but trying to act 15?? she used to be so loving and cuddly but now is so lairy is this the norm? Thanks for answering Juluex

J & J No, no, I didn';t mean you have to solve it on your own! I just thought your problem would get lost in the middle of the other thread, and you needed a thread of your own. Not abandoning you, honestly. OC

Kids lie that's what they do but it's a learning curve. She sounds like a lovely but confused little girl. Keep the hugs coming - I am sure she will open up when she feels ready xx

Hi Janet in Yorkshire That's the bit I don't undersand! teachers love her, but cos I caught her out lieing, what do i believe? apparently she is so kind and she does get awards at school! i love her to bits but am i biased? Am I thinking the worsst of her? love Julie who loves her daughter to bits

Thank you Muffy Its harder cos she wos lovely and now telling lies! don't know what to do or believe. thanks for your thoughts though juliex