General Chat

Affairs are so wrong---when you get married you stand in front of each other and make vows foresaking all others. We have just found about someone we know whos wife is having an affair.its so difficult because the husband speaks to my husband about his marriage problems.my husband had just confronted the wife and got the story of "he never pays me any attention". their favourite meeting place is the local gym(we just joined,so thats how we found out) and they sit in the corner and are all over each other,it makes me sick. someone will always get hurt

Affairs are definately wrong, I have been hurt in the past when my ex had an affair, I told him to pack his bags, best thing I could have ever done. Although I admit that I have slept with a few men (not at the same time!) who had girlfriends, although in my defence they had only been with their girlfriends for a few weeks and it was when I was younger, I wouldnt do it now. Karen

kaylene I'm with Lisa on this one. Seans entitled to ask the question - maybe he wasn't a member last week when it was discussed. With respect, no ones getting hot under the collar about it apart from you - everyone else is ject expressing their opinion, theres no nastyness. Paul

Sean, Why would you think it is alright to have an affair.? If the "shoe was on the other foot," you would be devestated. In my opinion it is wrong and unforgivable! Lindy;-)))

Sean do you differenciate between affairs and one night stands???? i would never condon either, but sometimes they are the first sympton that something is wrong. not everybody finds it easy to discuss their feelings even with a partner, and if they know what they have to say will possibly hurt their partner, they may procrastinate. time ticks on, they become even more unhappy, and do something that will take 'the decision', as it were, out of their hands. i don't think i could ever forgive an affair or a one night stand, but i would certainly want to explore the reasons why it happened. Bev

kaylene i suggest you copmplain to abuse manager thenxxxxxxx(:

You can never build happiness on someone else's hurt - it is like building a house of sand. Ann

kaylene sean is a member so if he wants to ask it i cannot see the harmxxxxxx(:

I'm with the majority - definately wrong. I believe in monogamy (and have a great game by the same name!). One man is definately enough for me! Jack x

sean you are a good boy.LOLxxxxxxxxxxxxxx(:

Wrong.. If nobody gets hurt? - Can you guarantee that 100%, it usually comes out and people do get hurt, badly hurt. Yes this has happened to me and 15 months down the line I'm still hurting and struggling with it all. And the fact my father did this will also always be with me - i'm over it but it will always be there. If you are considering an affair then there's something not right with your relationship - an affair will not fix that. You need to talk with your partner and work out what that is and then see if you both really want the relationship and both put the extra effort in to make it work. Talk, talk, talk. If it's not going to work then you can both walk away. When an affair happens, the damage is often irrapairable. The person cheated on never gets the chance to see what's coming and is left devastated. Kxx

sean all i can say i hope it happens to you one day.the boots on the other foot and all thatxxxxx(:

Oh what an evil web you weave when you set out to deceive Lisa

Well Sean , you really like to live dangerously, dont you !!?? (I can see this is going to be a very emotive subject). The important phrase in your question is " as long as no one gets hurt ". How do you measure pain ? How long is a piece of string ? (Or do you mean that its ok as long as no one finds out ?). Speaking for myself, and thats all i can do, i think that relationships are built on trust and mutual respect. Once one of the partners has destroyed this then its very difficult to get back what you had. (and i speak from experience here). The thing with affairs is that they are fun. Dangerous . Exciting. Illicit. In a few minutes you can ruin what it took years to build. Theres no right or wrong here - just say no! Elaine x. (married 24 years this year - and still going !)

It amounts to "having your cake & eating it" I assume you like your cake then Sean ? E x

here,herexxxx(:

Its so very wrong Have the balls to tell the other party that you've fallen out of love with them. Doing the dirty behind someones back is spineless . Much happiness Debi

SOMEONE ALWAYS GETS HURT SEAN REGARDLESS!!!! KAZ

very wrong all that deceit.sean does that mean your in one.?xxxx(:

We are obviously of the same opinion Lynne!