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Hello Liz, I hope you are well, thanks for your reply & good wishes.

I hope it works well for her, I think it will,she is really looking forward to starting the job, & the boss is being very helpful letting her ease back into work with the hours she can manage at the moment, it's the childcare that's difficult,she just hasn't got spaces available for daughter to work more hours yet, hopefully by the time grandaughter starts school (August) things like that will be easier to deal with!
In an emegency she can call on me but I'm really not able for "full-time" minding.

AS for the EX!! he's languishing away on benefits, has been re-housed!!! & since splitting up with daughter he's never out of trouble or the Courts, & pays just £5 a week taken from his benefit money to be shared between 3 children!!!!

Hubby & I are quite well thankyou,it was hubbys birthday yesterday, time is marching on, lol, another 2 years & he will be entitled to a FREE tv licence, yippee.
That is of course IF they are still available by then! LOL.

Joan.

Hi Joan

So glad things are looking up for your daughter. I hope the job works out well for her and she will feel the benefit of working without the stress of money problems. She has had too much to cope with since her split with the father of her children, who sounds a useless article.
Best of luck to her and the children

Lizxx

Hope you and o.h. are keeping well

Hi Joan

So glad things are looking up for your daughter. I hope the job works out well for her and she will feel the benefit of working without the stress of money problems. She has had too much to cope with since her split with the father of her children, who sounds a useless article.
Best of luck to her and the children

Lizxx

Hope you and o.h. are keeping well

THANKYOU maggie, Gwyn & Ann, it is a relief as later on next year she would have HAD to get a job! & might have ended up doing something she really disliked!
She is just delighted to get the type of job she was hoping for.

Joan.

Well done to her Joan and a relief for you. I hope it all works out for her.

Great news .
I hope this is the beginning of a great move forward for her.

Well done, your daughter :-D :-D :-D

I'm so pleased for her.

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.........I thought I would update this thread with some good news.
OUR DAUGHTER HAS JUST GOT A JOB! woowoo.

She had an interview today at a local family store mainly household items but does have some clothing as well.
Posh / expensive place!

It is a sewing position,making up customers orders for curtains, blinds, pelmits, etc, sewing is something she is very good at & loves making up things so this is just what she was REALLY hoping to find re a job.

It's just 3 days to start with,9-30 to 3-00 Mon Tues & Weds, but with potential to get 5 days,if & when more childcare spaces become available for her.
I have just been chatting to one excited & very happy young mum,we are so pleased for her.

Joan.

Hello again Kay..........

Oh dear, yes this is yet another she actually tried that but it didn't work out, it's a while ago, 3 people responded, only one took her up on it, & this was when she lived in a big City, it petered out pretty quickly, she's actually very good at ironing so it wasnt because she didn't do a good job, lol.
Unfortunately it's not the kind of thing that can be relied on is it, & not something she can "prove" to authority, wouldn't be easy to get someone like the Tax Credit people to accept!!
She needs a "proper" job,something that has official paperwork!

Joan.

Couldnt she start a home ironing service?

school holidays wouldnt be a problem then,

if her landlord didnt object to her using the property as a small buisness,

Hello Kay....
Tried that, but he doesn't have anything, he has his Dairy man, & he has his Tractor driver, plus himself & his son,he did have a job going sorting the spuds which was seasonal (Nov to March) but because the tax credits place said it would take time to sort out the change in her money & it would take time to come up with the childcare costs therefore she would have to come up with the money herself until it was all sorted,money she or we didn't have, so she couldn't do it,
JC no longer take kindly to seasonal work!

Even being able to work around the school times she would still require childcare for school holidays.

Joan.

Thankyou DIZZI, fingers crossed something turns up.

I do wonder what would happen if she didn't have a car? which she wouldn't have if her dad hadn't given her the one she has, he chose to let her have it instead of putting it to part exchange when he was looking for another, he ended up with a much older one than the one he gave her! :-| :-)

If she had no car she would have an even bigger problem!! :-(

Joan.

If the little one does nursery in the afternoons,,,could the farm find her afternoon work for 4 days a week for 4 hours? = 16 hours ,both children would be in responsible care then so no extra expenses,as she wouldnt have to travel to work.

HOPE YOUR DAUGHTER GETS HELP SOON XXX

To be honest DIZZI, she doesn't want to work with children,& though she has a great rappour with children she really would worry too much that other peoples children might get hurt in her care!
As mentioned in an earlier reply she lives in the middle of a very busy working Dairy farm, lots of farm machinery, traffic & farm animals all ways & it's out of the way for others to get to, a car is absolutely essential, & though her own children are safe when in the garden I'm sure there would need to be some changes to the security of the garden when it comes to caring for other peoples children!
I can't see the authorities would approve the property being situated where it is!

She would still require childcare if she went to college! nearest college is about 20 miles away, the better one (more in the way of courses) is some 35 miles away.

edit to add.......Over the last 12 months she has tried all manner of places for work, this is a very small place she is running out of workplaces to contact & has contacted childcare facilities all around the area, & even if they had spaces none will travel to this area to take or collect children to & from the school / nursery.

Joan.

COULD YOUR DAUGHTER BECOME A REGISTERED CHILDMINDER,HOW MANY CHILDREN INC HER OWN COULD SHE LOOK AFTER ,MAY BE WORTH LOOKING INTO

Hi vera....
If only we had places like that, such a small town nothing much re companies,so many large places have long gone,next to no shops now, lots of charity shops but thats volunteer work!
There is a place that does alterations as & when customers require them but not outsourced,they employ someone on the premises,with only enough work for the one employee, daughter has already enquired with them, nothing doing.f

Funny enough daughter wanted to be a dressmaker,but prior to leaving school there were no college courses for her to attend,other than one course that lasted 5weeks,she did do the course, but it never touched on what she really wanted to learn,using patterns & making up garments etc,it was only about designing, no use to her really.

What is rather strange about all of this job hunting etc,is that a previous advisor she saw told her that she would be better off working, she worked out that if daughter got a job for the minimum 16 weeks,she would be better off by about £50 per week working for minimum wage!!!
She would have her wage, would still be entitled to her full housing benefit, she would still get Childens Tax Credits & as she would be working she would be entitled to claim Working tax credits! plus she would be entitled to 70% of any childcare costs!

Seems to me the Government would be forking out more money than she gets now IF all what she told her is correct!
We understand that yes for ones own pride having a job is the best way, but if the above information is true where is the Government saving amongst all of that!

Joan.

It must be really difficult for people in your daughter's position. Is there any chance that a company in your nearest town might outsource work of any sort? I used to work for a company that had a number of home workers doing sewing work for them and we used to deliver and collect the work.

This sort of work isn't always that well paid but you can fit it round your children so you don't have childcare costs.

Good morning everyone.

Hi Pat....it has been discussed re the possibility of her trying Childminding but she is not keen,she would worry too much about other peoples children, she lives rurally renting a cottage in the middle of a very busy farm,it's out of the way for most people,& to be honest I don't think she would get approval to care for other children there!
Childminding has some kind of effect on tax credits as well??

I am NNEB trained & worked with young children & did childminding & fostered newborns for most of my working days but daughter never had the inclination to do the same.

Detective.....
she tried the catalogue delivery/courier route,no response, & the cleaning products thing is a waste of time in the local village,I know someone who tried it & there was next to no take up.
Unfortunately (or fortunately) for daughter her relationship came to an end within weeks of the 3yr old being born! she HAD to dump the ex eventually! but she certanly didn't want the life of a SINGLE mum!

Her ex was in work but he constantly changed jobs because he thought the grass was greener elsewhere, he was (unknown to me at the time) abusive,controlling,possessive, she should have seen him out of the door long before (in my opinion!)

We found her the farm cottage she is in now, it's just along the farm road from us, she loves it,the children are soooo happy, but the ex followed her! he lives in the town,started up a new relationship very soon after,has another child,got social housing etc etc!!

I really wish we were able to care for the bairns for her but we are not.

Joan.

the government should pay nanas for the childcare
but you have to do a course on child minding to qualify

but never mind :-D :-D