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any more? Just got back from strap hanging in London Underground, two bags of shopping, and not one man (or woman) stood up to give me a seat. Now I am of a 'certain age' and I would have thought somebody would feel pity for me! lol Nooooo....Another man pushed me as he ran to catch his train..just as well I am neither feeble nor frail, but I still expect a little more.... I taught my son manners, and am very happy to see the respect he shows to others. Have we lowered our standards to such a degree? Or am I just being a cantankerous old biddy! What do you think? Battered BC XX

first of all matey, i'm glad to see that your feeling better now. the old saying ' manners maketh man ' still stands in my book. bryan.

Hi B.C,I agree these days its hard to find manners anywhere. You poor thing!! I was brought up to always give my seat on buses e.tc to my elders,its something I still do, but Im slowly getting to the stage where I might need it myself very soon!!lol Roxanne x

BC obviously I think you are a cantankerous old biddy. lol Manners are important but unfortunately neither parents nor schools teach them (i believe it should be parents responsibility). My niece can be a little c*w and rude around family members (she's 13) but both her friends parents and school say how helpful and polite she is. Unfortunately IMHO too many people act the same in public as they do with close family. Manners maketh man (or women) after all. T.O.R. ;o)))

Good manners cost nothing ................. is a saying I always keep to mind :O)) xxx

And I love a man to open doors for me, hold my elbow when we cross the street, and make sure that I am on the inside when walking down a street (to protect my long gown from muddy splashes of course! lol)... Glad there are still some people who have these values. mwah! and thanks Bryan, as you can see, I am fighting fit now! XX BC

Yes BC I do think good manners are important. It is sad that when I am shown good manners/respect when out I am surprised. whereas not too long ago it was the norm. strangely I think that it was the growth of the Woman's lib movement that started off ladies not being offered seats on public transport. A sort of 'if they want to be treated equal with men let them' attitude. I am glad that you made it home OK anyway. Ann Glos

I too think manners are important!! They cost nothing!! But in the defense of the people that didn't get up for you sweetie..... you hardly look like a frail old lady of a certain age do you???? And yes that's a compliment! xx

Hi.. B.C. I still walk on the gutter side when walking with my Wife or Mother. Still open car doors, and still give up my seat in the bus/train for a lady. Have a nice day ( tips hat ) Tony Oz...:>)) There are some gentlemen left in the world

Oh Diana! Do you think that was the reason nobody stood up?? lol Mwah! BC XX

It's your own fault for not looking your age! LOL :-)))))))))))

Yes good manners are important. Not long ago I was on the tube and a very heavily pregnant young woman got on. I waited a few minutes but it was obvious no one was going to offer her a seat so guess who did....and as you know BC I am also a woman of a certain age lolol. Mind you I must admit I no longer queue for buses. I have learnt it is now every 'man' for himself so I can push and shove with the best of them. So pleased you're feeling better. Jean x.

See even Jeanette agrees with me!! You look nowhere near a certain age ya daft mare!! ;o)

I have to agree with Diana and Jeanette about the age thing lol. I do think manners are important though. Having said that I was reading a letter once where the male writer said he had held a door open for a woman and she said to him 'I'm quite capable of opening doors for myself' or words to that effect so it's difficult to blame people for not doing these things when they get responses like that.

Hiya BC :-)) Yes I do think manners are important. As you know I have to use a stick to get about at the moment, and when I get on a full bus, I have to stand with the rest of them, yet it is soooo painful when the brakes go on! Its not just that, its having to weave my way down the street to dodge people who just will not get out of the way, not even a little bit. Then if I hold a door open for someone, do they say thank you? No they don't! And they are likely to be the same people who would tut at me if I didnt hold it open, or would not hold it open for me! Manners maketh man, and they don't cost a penny. Rant over! (can you tell I've been out shopping this morning? hehehe)

Well it would be very bad manners for me not to thank you all for your input:-) Only one thought I was a cantankerous old biddy (that makes two us TW!) lol... *doffs her hat back to Tony...XX BC

how very dare they

Helllo Hayley :-)) Peace in the house at last, he's gone off to Tescos...I dont' even go there lol I remember years ago, some little old lady backed into me with her shopping trolley on the market place. It actually cut my ankle and it was pouring with blood. She said to me 'Well you should have looked where you were going!' Can you believe that???? Also when my kids were little and in a push chair, who would shut the door in my face and tut at me when I was struggling to get through it? Old people that's who! Having said that, its also elderly people who actually say thank you for holding the door open for them, not younger ones, and by that I mean most people below retiring age.

BC My Dear I was always told to abide by these 5 rules 1/ Always give up ones seat on public transport to my elders 2/ Always say please and thank you 3/ Always hold open doors for elders and ladies with or without children in prams 4/ When walking out with a young lady always place ones self between the lady and any danger from motor cars, the same when walking with young children 5/ Always when visiting a Restaurant pull out the chair so the lady can sit down, let the lady order first, when a lady leaves or rejoins the table stand up I taught both my boys these 5 rules and so far it seems to have worked lol so yes manners are important Sxx

*looks around for Hayley's sympathy.........*whimpers...TW you are not turning on me, are you, cos I is old? This is not going to turn into a Granny Bashing thread is it? Wasnt me who pushed that trolley...honest!! LOL